Do your parents and DH's parents get along?

Do your inlaws and your parents get along, and if so, how often do they speak to each other??

My mom and DH's mom used to be friends before we even got engaged, mainly because DH's little brother and my little brother were best friends, and DH's mom was always coming over to drop her son off (this is when he was like 11,12, 13 yrs old). However, as they got older...my brothers friendship with now BIL fizzled and went sour, and so did my MIL regard for my mom. Because our brothers fought over some kiddie petty cr@p, DH mom stopped calling my mom, even though my mom made numerous attempts to continue their friendship....invite them over for dinner...
THere at the point were my mom (ONLY mom) calls for major holidays to wish them, and see how they are. MIL is civil to my parents, but it kind of bothers me that she makes no attempt with them whatsoever....We can never have big holidays together anymore, like Thanksgiving, birthdays and so forth...

I realize theres basically nothing I can do about this situation which makes me more sad...

Just wondering how everybody elses situation is...

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Im sorry that their relationshop seems so complicated

My parents and DHs parents met for the first time a few months before the wedding. Dh and i took them all out to dinner to meet. Right befote the wedding there was another dinner for my parents to meet dhs dad. My mom was in contact with sil in regards to my bridal shower too. They dont hang out or anything but they are cool and will send christmas cards etc.

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Mine and his parents met while we were dating through us and they get along very well. Our mothers speak on and off to each other, whether by phone or email. It helps that both sets of parents are easy-going and easy to get alon with.

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They are civil/cordial towards each other but they aren't friends. My Mom tried. My MIL is a piece of work. Doesn't really bother me

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MIL will communicate with my mother through phone or e-mail whenever need be. Usually it would have to do with some sort of upcoming event.

FIL and his wife do not contact my parents but will send a Christmas card (or e-mail if needed).

My parents do invite them all to some of their parties and gatherings. MIL would go sometimes. FIL does not like the party/large crowd scene. Also, MIL would not attend if she found out FIL is going. Every event she asks DH if FIL is invited. It gets annoying to be honest.

But with that said, it's always my parents opening their home and doing the initiating/inviting.

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Yup they get along well. Our mom's will email each other sometimes.

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Very well, sometimes too well, lol. My mom and MIL used to work together - that's how DH and I met. They set us up It's nice that they get along so well though, because it makes our lives SO much easier since we can all spend holidays and parties together.

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Our Moms are friends and will go out together from time to time. Our Dads get along just fine; however, they are extremely different, so I don't think they would ever 'hang out.'

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They get along fine. They will call for holidays and stuff like that and see each other at different functions/holidays but that's about it...I wouldn't call them 'friends.'

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They are cordial when in person, but my Mom does not like my MIL at all for the way she has treated me...both my Mom and Dad like FIL just fine.


ILs live in Ohio so its not really a huge issue.

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yes they all get along thank god! my mom and MIL text all the time. we actually all had thsnkgiving at the in laws this year and i have to say it was the best thanksgiving i have had in a long time!

over the summer we all get together all the time and hang out.

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my parents are 700 miles away...

but when they are all together they love eachother.

... my parents love everyone though. even though they see how crazy my ILs can be.

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they are nice and friendly to eachother when they see eachother but thats it. No calling or emailing eachother. Pretty much goes for Me and IL's too lol

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as my parents live in a different country there is no relationship. they met 3 days before the wedding and thats it. they cant even communicate that well to MIL as she doesnt speak or understand very well Hebrew and my parents dont speak any English.
makes me sad that they will pretty much always be strangers to each other.
MIL gets along really well w/my SIL's IL's. they all have each other over for holidays, dinners and I guess email each other.
pizzes me off cause my parents are waaaaaay nicer than all of these ppl put together and they have no contact with this side of our life

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our parents get along really well. theyve come over for the major holidays in the past few years. their relationship wont really go past the IL stage cuz they are sorta different plus my ILs dont speak english too well.

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They have never met. DH's parents moved to CA at least 20 years ago and have not been back since. DH has not seen them since they moved

If they were to meet each other, I do not think they would get along.

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they're cordial but not friends

doesnt bother me

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ehhh my in laws love my dad however my mom has put a bad taste in their mouth a few times because she doesnt think before she speaks. Oh well.

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Mine never met DH's parents. Sadly, his parents are both very ill & live in Missouri and couldn't make the wedding or the festivities.

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both my mom and MIL get along pretty well. They met the day after we got engaged (Christmas Eve) and now we always spend Christmas eve together. They actually went out for NYE together. They speak on the phone with each other about once every 2 weeks.

I'm not sure if they'll be best friends but they def. both make an effort to become friendly with one another which is all I can ask.