Does anyone feel disconnected from their DH?

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Posted by prncssrachel

I think JT and I just act like we're friends with each other, and not husband and wife. Needless to say, we both agreed that it's something we need to work on, and while it ***** that we have to TRY to do this, it's important and we really can't let it go.
Thanks again, ladies.

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Again Rachel, I could have said the exact same thing. Brad and I started out in the same group of friends before we started dating, and for awhile we had a problem with me not feeling like we were 'together' when we were with those friends. We're not very PDA people, but we just made an effort to hold hands more, put our arms around each othe rmore, and little things like that. It worked.

Also, remember that one of the most important things about being together with JT is that you ARE friends, and it's important that you can be individuals within your group, as well as a couple.

Yes, that sounds exactly what is happening btwn DH and me. It feels like he doesnt want to hang out with me recently. We are spending a lot more time together now, but isnt that the POINT of marriage?

And all this time we are together, we are usually in different rooms (NOT my choice)

Im getting really frustrated and lonely and wanting to have a husband.
This blow$

I just quit my job today to be closer with my DH- he works 6 days a week and on his day off manages to still work at least 4 hours- and with my hours of work- we didnt spend any time together- when he got home Im in bed to wake up at 6 am. So we will see now- Im prob gonna be bored- but Ill be on here more and I have the chance to catch up with the things I couldnt for years for myself . But I totally understand that feeling on non connectiveness- and we h ave lived together for almost 5 years- 1 thing is I have noticed the small spats over stupid things has stopped since the wedding so thats a good thing. Sometimes and I know this sounds bad, but the small spats would bring some fire into the relationship as where now allthough Im glad we are not fighting , its kinda quiet. I guess its cause our fights/spats never end bad- we wind up making fun of eachother and laughing in the end - I guess I miss that part. Relationships/marriages always have their ups and downs. Good thing you are talking about it NOW thats important keep that door of communication open 24-7! Good luck and dont worry we are all in the same boat at some time or other!

I sometimes felt like we were so caught up in everyone elses lives (we've had a BUSY summer) that this did happen a bit, but we've really had to try and make time for each other again and it's so great!

it's hard sometimes though! for example, my moh called and kind of invited herself to dinner with us last saturday and i had to say sorry, we planned a date and need to be alone for dinner (we went to port jeff, had dinner and even bought our first xmas ornaments ) but then we went to a movie with her after...

making time for each other and spending quality time is what is most key i think

I feel disconnected sometimes. We never lived together so its definitely been an adjustment and since we've gotten married we've had very little quality time. We are always running errands afterwork or being invited to our families houses for dinner and things like that. I wouldnt worry too much about it (I know I try not to) I think its just an adjustment period and it will pass.