Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

It really doesn't bother me who visits this board. So what if there is a dupe post!!

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

i think the original goal of this board has fizzled as much of the topics that NW's often discuss has been separated into other boards. what topics other than home, crafts, NWR, recipes, parenting - do NW's really discuss??? i agree wholeheartedly that the community was never really the same once all these boards were created.

i still stand by my original statement that the same post does not need to be posted in more than one place. i saw the same post posted 4 times today - how does that help anyone other than the original poster trying to 'up' their post count??

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

The only thing that bothers me is the B2B's who come over and ask the same questions over and over again. Do a search and you'll find your answer!

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

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Posted by btrflygrl

I'm in agreement...I wonder if Ron & Liz can do anything about it....Can they delete them from our boeard if they aren't relevant?

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Why would you even make a statement like this? I think it is rude and close minded. You are essentially saying what you don't think is relevant should be deleted? You have been a newlywed not even two mon. and are already 'bothered' by questions B2B post on here? What's up with that? How would you like if you posted something and it got deleted because someone thought it was not relevant?

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

I think what Brides to be should do is post on the BHB and if they don't get the respse they are looking for, then post here. In the case of the apartment person, post it on the NWR side, you will get a ton of responsed, that board is very active.

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

It doesnt bother me.. Sometimes I think its helpful because we already had our weddings. So if they have a question we would probably be better to ask, rather than someone who hasnt had their wedding yet.
As far as them replying to a thread, that doesnt bother me either. Sometimes they have really nice things to say, if we need cheering up it doesnt only have to come from a Newlywed...
And I post on BHB all the time, but I am not technically a bride anymore

ETA - Also I dont think they should be nervous about posting here... Most of the Non-newlyweds start their threads with 'Sorry to post here but...' They shouldnt have to apologize for asking us a question.

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

winterbride2005....

I DO NOT mind when B2B ask questions here...you asked the SAME question on 3 different boards.

My point was that some of the newer B2B don't think that the newlyweds answer on the BHB board, but we do!! This website truly is an addiction and we bounce around to all the boards....I'm sure you notice that when someone does a Repeat post, the tag it 'Repost'....it's a courtesy for those of us that may have answered already on another board!

No hard feelings??? It just gets very confusing for the newlyweds to address their newlywed issues amongst the wedding questions from the soon-to-be newlyweds....k?

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

Brides to be have a multiple boards to post wedding related questions. Newlyweds was created for brides to discuss post-wedding issues - name changes, in-laws, handling finances, dealing with how to split up the holidays, who does the chores, etc.

As one who's been here for over 3 years, I don't come to the Newlywed board much anymore because the above topics are not of primary interest to me, I come just to offer my insight from experience, just as I do when I venture to the BHB board.

I think it's the general posts that clearly could have been answered had the poster done a search on the topic that tend to annoy some people, not the occasional specific question. Or when more than half the posts on the first page are from brides to be, asking BHB questions.

Keep in mind that the newlyweds are done with the wedding planning, and moving to a new stage in their life. Many go back to BHB to offer advice. They are just asking that the brides to be respect the intent of this forum which is to provide a place for Newlyweds to discuss their own issues, not bridal planning issues.

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Posted by btrflygrl

winterbride2005....

I DO NOT mind when B2B ask questions here...you asked the SAME question on 3 different boards.

My point was that some of the newer B2B don't think that the newlyweds answer on the BHB board, but we do!! This website truly is an addiction and we bounce around to all the boards....I'm sure you notice that when someone does a Repeat post, the tag it 'Repost'....it's a courtesy for those of us that may have answered already on another board!

No hard feelings??? It just gets very confusing for the newlyweds to address their newlywed issues amongst the wedding questions from the soon-to-be newlyweds....k?

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No hard feelings.

fyi: I only posted on BHB and then when I didn't get many replies.. I posted on newlyweds.

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

Why does this issue keep popping up??? In the last few months before my wedding, I had so many questions for the newlyweds and they were so helpful and kind to me. There are questions that the brides have that other brides can't answer. I remember posting things like 'did anyone else stop sleeping right before the wedding.' How is someone who is not getting married until a year after me going to respond to that?

I do agree with Christine that if someone planning their wedding has a question about planning it should be more specific - 'Did anyone use Patken' rather than 'Which photographer did you use', but I am not terribly bothered by it either way.

As far as searching, the search option is terrible. I have searched for something that I remembered seeing very well and put in all of the words that I remembered being used, and have still had trouble finding threads. If you want to suggest something to Ron, suggest that he get his Search option in order.

I think that there are more brides posting here right now because we are getting into 'wedding season' and not because they are trying to take over. I personally like when the brides start posting over here as they get closer to their wedding because I like to know who the people are when they become newlweds. So when I see 'I am a newlywed' I am not trying to figure out who that person is.

I don't want to alienate anyone who is eventually going to become a member of this board. Post away, brides.

*jumps off soapbox*

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

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Posted by Karen H

I think it's the general posts that clearly could have been answered had the poster done a search on the topic that tend to annoy some people, not the occasional specific question. Or when more than half the posts on the first page are from brides to be, asking BHB questions.

Keep in mind that the newlyweds are done with the wedding planning, and moving to a new stage in their life. Many go back to BHB to offer advice. They are just asking that the brides to be respect the intent of this forum which is to provide a place for Newlyweds to discuss their own issues, not bridal planning issues.

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I agree with Karen.

Re: Does this bother any OTHER Newlyweds?

Winterbride2005

You have been a newlywed not even two mon. and are already 'bothered' by questions B2B post on here? What's up with that?

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Posted by btrflygrl

winterbride2005....

I DO NOT mind when B2B ask questions here...you asked the SAME question on 3 different boards.

that's not fair for you to say especially since you have also posted the same topic on mulitple boards.