how do you deal with fake people...

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Posted by VickiR510

Ok there is a difference between not liking confrontation & being mature & not making a huge scene.

When i was younger i def would have went right up to your face & confronted you about it. Today as i get older. I realize its not worth it. I really dont care what people think of me. I know im a good person & care about the ones i love to no end. Yes its very disappointing to find out that people you consider your friend is really a fake phooney biotch but if i were you id prob just cut that person out & if you saw them id just try to ignore them & let them figure out why you dont buddy up on her anymore. lol IMO its their loss of great person in their life.

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Ditto..in high school or when I was in my earl 20's I would have walked right up to the person and told them off. Now, I'm like you. I don't need anyone's approval. If you like me good and if you don't oh well...

Gina sorry you are going through this. I never met you in person, but you seem like a very nice person.

I personally don't like conforntation and I usually try to avoid it. If you see them a lot (have friends in common) I would say hi, but I would not tell them anything or I would be careful what you say to them. If it is really bothering you then see if you could talk to her? Hope things work out

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Posted by gina409

Let's get off this topic....who had sex tonight? Was it good lol

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DH and I finally consummated our marriage this morning!!!!!


Anyway...I am a loudmouth, but I don't really call people out unless I have to...if I'm presented with an opportunity I take it, but I don't create one for myself. Case in point...one of my vendors was really not cutting it for me on Sunday but I wasn't really saying anything until they complained to me that my MOH was being nasty to them (when she was just trying to make sure everything that needed to get done was getting done)...since I was presented with the opportunity I told the vendor that I hired them to do a job and that's what I wanted them to do, that I didn't care about whatever drama was going on, they needed to do their job.

So...like if this person gave you an opportunity to, I'd let them know frankly what your problem is with them. Otherwise just ignore.

Oh and P.S. I LOVE YOUUUUU and anyone who has a beef with you has a beef with me!!!!!

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Posted by VickiR510

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Posted by gina409

they don't know I know...they def r not trying to start drama..just said something to someone I guess they thought would not tell me...and just don't know how to act when I see or talk 2 this person....I mean don't get me wrong I know people talk bout everyone on this website...I know some people don't like me and that cool but this person I thought was a friend

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Who doesnt like you Gina??? You are like the nicest person on here. Take it from a girl who has had her ups & downs on this board. I think youre fabby. Also i have learned the ones that always preach are usually the worst ones. lol Its a shame. In the long run remember you are a better person because you are not like that. I hope it turns out ok.

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totally agree!!

Hmm...I think I might have an inkling about what's going on.

That being said, I would probably ignore it, but get your jabs in when appropriate. I've had my issues as well, and you've seen how I handle it...just be the bigger person and pretend nothing is going on. People like that aren't worth even acknowledging...why go out of your way to speak to someone you know doesn't like you and you don't either? That's not to say you can't get a good snark in when the opportunity presents itself lol. I know you're very sensitive, but please don't let it bother you, and please FM me if you need to vent!

I know a lot of girls here made very strong friendships through this site, and I wish I could say I came out of this with a bunch of BFFs too...yes, I'm friendly with a bunch of girls, but if I found out some were talking smack about me behind my back, it really wouldn't bother me too much because as time goes on, who's really going to keep in touch, you know? Maybe I'm just jaded because I haven't been super involved in the g2gs and whatnot and don't feel like I have a close-knit circle from the site, but I really wouldn't worry about what someone on here is saying about you, because in the grand scheme of things and in years to come, it won't matter. I know it's easier said than done, but trust me!

Gina, Ive learned one thing, you have to confront whoever it is because sometimes, things r said in a way that may be written wrong... however... sometimes people are just fake and need to be called out on..

with that being said...

i think ur the most amazing person i know,and i always talk about u... but in a good way... and a concerned 'im so afraidpeople take advantage of her' way...and icant see how ANYONE would have anything bad to say about u...

love u

I think that you can talk to someone without being confrontational. If your feelings are hurt, the friend who told you will understand you telling the other girl. That's just not right for people to talk about other people. I never really understood that! If I don't like someone, I just don't talk to them. It's not worth it to talk about someone - especially if you truly don't like them - why would you waste your time.

I'm sorry you're going through this Gina, you totally don't deserve it!