How often do you speak to your Mom?

MrsTC Posted: Jul 02, 2004 05:52 PM

How often do you speak to your Mom?

just curious.

We usually speak about 3 or 4 times a week. Being that I live in NJ and she is in NY, my dad gets mad at the long distance bill so we either try to talk when I am at work (which is inconvenient) or on the cell phone after 9 or on weekends. I feel guilty on the days we don't talk.

Irishbride Posted: Jul 02, 2004 06:14 PM

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I talk to my Mom once a week.

The Original 2nd-time-around Posted: Jul 02, 2004 06:19 PM

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Once a day. ONCE IN A WHILE we'll miss a day, but there are also days where we'll talk 2-3 times. I love my mom

wc0143 Posted: Jul 02, 2004 06:30 PM

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I said every couple of days but we IM every day!!

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 02, 2004 07:05 PM

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every couple of days if not every day

We both jut got OptVoice so there's no long distance charge. We also 3-way in my grandfather in Fla at least once a week.

Robeymuse Posted: Jul 02, 2004 07:29 PM

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I try to talk to her twice a week. It is hard being 1000 miles away...

chmpgnrose Posted: Jul 03, 2004 11:34 AM

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I choose hardly ever. She was not happy with the results of our wedding. She said that DH and I did not do certain things that she wanted us to do. DH and I didn't do them because she NEVER communicated directly to us as she used MIL to communicate her wishes. She 'expected' this.. and that... to be done which we didn't know she wanted. We didn't know because we CANNOT read her F*** mind as she did not communicated directly to us. She is very disorganized and not having a written list of wants/wishes but just 'expecting' us to know them in hopes that we can read her mind. It's been almost 2 years of our wedding and she still compare our wedding against other family members and how other brides/groom have ___, and have that___ and how DH and I didn't have or do those things that other brides/grooms did/have. She is a very insecure person who constantly needs to compare things and people against others to see if ours is up to par. At the end of our wedding reception she did not bid us a happy marriage or a congrats as she was furious with both of us as stated above.

Now almost 2 years later she still compares and rant about our overall results and why we didn't do certain things. Many things we did which she didn't know as many of her family didn't see as they were not sitting at their designated tables and other stuff we need to cut costs somewhere and not have table photos as it is $200.00 per table to photograph. She now 'expects' a grandchild which will not happen for a very long time as DH and I have to take care ourselves first since we spend our whole lives doing things FOR our parents' wishes. Thus, my mother and I were never on good terms especially now after our wedding. She will never change as she LOVES to compare and talk about other peoples' weddings against ours and how great and grand others were and how crappy ours was. NO ONE took any action to help us thus DH and I suffered a lot and work on our wedding plans entirely ourselves while other people just talk. Talking is cheap as action speak louder than words.

chmpgnrose Posted: Jul 03, 2004 11:43 AM

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During our Parisian honeymoon I received an e-mail from my mother's cousin thanking us for a grand feast that DH and I planned. It read:

Hi Tina,
I trust that you and Nicholas had a wonderful honeymoon. I presume your life is back to normal after your hectic wedding. I must say that you have done a wonderful job in arranging your wedding ceremony as well as the reception. I thought the restaruant was great.
The service and food were great and the flower arrangements were superb. You
must spent a lot of time and thoughts to plan this great reception. I want to congratulate you on that. As for myself, it was a great opportunity to see all my cousins again after so many years. Please hi to your mum for
me. I can't believe seeing her dancing with your dad. It almost blow me out.
Thank you.

I printed the e-mail and shown it to my mother which she then waken up and smell the coffee to realize what a superb job we've done for our wedding. I've then collected all e-mails and written compliments of our wedding as proof that DH and I planned a very successful wedding as we've satisfied above and beyond all our 150 guests and parents' needs. We've shocked our guests as it showed how much time, effort and energy we've put into planning our biggest day in our lives.

2003fallwedding Posted: Jul 03, 2004 12:19 PM

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I try to chat with her every day. I miss living at home because I would have dinner with her almost every night

christy Posted: Jul 03, 2004 03:21 PM

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we dont talk at all, but trust me, it is a good thing.

MrsTC Posted: Jul 04, 2004 11:07 AM

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I'm sorry Tina and Christy

Tina - as long as you and your DH are happy that's all that matters

christy Posted: Jul 04, 2004 06:07 PM

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Thank you! It took me a really long time to get over it, but I am happy now. We cant choose who our parents are I guess....

juju Posted: Jul 05, 2004 09:13 AM

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my parents live in TX, but we speak every single day! It's a must for me.

usuk2004 Posted: Jul 05, 2004 09:36 AM

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We used to talk almost every day, but now that I'm living in London, we talk about twice a week. But we email every day.

for girls with phone bill problems, try bigzoo.com--it's about 2 cents per minute throughout the US and 3.5 cents to call abroad.

VickiC Posted: Jul 06, 2004 08:19 AM

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We speak every couple of days. I'd rather go over there to chat with her than call her on the phone though. I only call if I have something to ask her or tell her. Otherwise I wait until I see her to talk to her.

Niecey Posted: Jul 06, 2004 10:11 AM

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Typically 1-2x/week...

Donna Posted: Jul 06, 2004 10:20 AM

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Almost every day.

CherylBooch Posted: Jul 06, 2004 11:52 AM

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Once or twice a week for me.

bluegrl24ny Posted: Jul 06, 2004 01:08 PM

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Posted by MrsTC

just curious.

We usually speak about 3 or 4 times a week. Being that I live in NJ and she is in NY, my dad gets mad at the long distance bill so we either try to talk when I am at work (which is inconvenient) or on the cell phone after 9 or on weekends. I feel guilty on the days we don't talk.

That's exactly the same deal as me, but I'm in NY and she's in NJ. We always talk when I'm at work, just about every other day. Same thing on the guilt trip if more than a day goes by and I don't call her!