how to handle the person who CRASHED my wedding??

OK I need advice here. I had one particularly RUDE individual crash my wedding, and show up in jeans and a T-shirt.
Yes... that's right, jeans and a T!!!!
He is a friend of the family that I can't stand. I refused to invite him because he SKEEVES me. And what pi$$es me off is that HE IS IN SOME OF MY RECEPTION PICTURES because he was living it up and all over the dance floor!

I just found out that this weekend I'm going to see him at a family function. And i ABSOLUTELY want to say something. I didn't on my wedding day because I didn't let it get to me, but I need to confront him. what should I say?

Oh and PS.... did you think he brought a card or gift??
Yeah right.

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Wow that's amazing. How come no one else in your family try to get him to leave the wedding?

He sounds like a wacko.

I wish I knew what to tell you but since I don't know him I don't know how he'd react to you.

Good luck hope he doesn't give you more trouble!

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Posted by Maribelle7777

Wow that's amazing. How come no one else in your family try to get him to leave the wedding?

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I was thinking the same thing!

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Here's the deal- he is a friend of one of my younger uncles. He unfortunately has lost EVERYONE in his family (horrible story) and he basically has our family as a surrogate family.
But I think myself, my mom and one of my aunts are the only people who see him for what he really is... a SLEEZE! He used to hit on me and my aunt ALL the time!!! He says the most inappropriate things all the time to me & I am just constantly uncomfortable around him. He was trying to hit on DH's cousin at the wedding!!!!!

But no one sees this except for the three of us. My mom is equally pi$$ed as I am, and if she goes near him, she'll rip him a new one. That is why I want to say something first.

What makes this so difficult is that my uncles and my grandmother adore him, and when around her, you can't say a bad thing about him with out her defending him like crazy. ('Grandma, 'Bill' made a comment about my breasts' 'Oh Cheryl, how can you say something like that... He has no family' )

It boils my blood. And no one can go against grandma. Some of the pics that my photographer took are pics of her dancing with HIM!!! .

I just want to know what to say civilly so there isnt' a family brawl.

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Ew what a total freak! I wouldn't even know what to say to him!!!!!!! I mean, yeah it's sad that he lost his whole family, but that shouldn't excuse him for being a disrespectful pig!

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I say let it go and don't say anything.

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Posted by lullabella

I say let it go and don't say anything.

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I agree. What's done is done.
I am sure he got the drift that he wasn't welcome at your wedding when he didn't get an invitation. If it was going to be handled, it should have been handled at that moment.

Next time you have a function, do whatever you must to ensure he doesn't crash it.

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What a jerk!!! (sounds like my ex!!) ha!

You did the right thing by not making a scene at the wedding, but I would definately say something to him now. I mean, if you're going to crash a wedding at least wear a button down shirt and dark pants....look SOMEWHAT like a human being (sorry, he sounds alot like someone I know, would have KILLED him!). Grr!!

On a lighter note, maybe you can get your photographer to blow up a picture of him and you can put it on a dart board!! HA! I'm sure if he ruined any pics that you like, they can erase him out of it also.

Sorry that happened, hope the rest of your day was fabulous! Congratulations!!

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i think that there isnt really much you can do because it is over and done with but i would make a comment to your uncle and voice to him exactly how you feel that he wasnt invited and still showed up and then didnt even give you a card. im wondering how he knew all th edetails? could it have been that your grandmother or uncles invited him without your knowledge?

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What good will it do? This guy has issues! Good luck!

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If it were me, I would say something becuase I hold grudges and can be quite bitc*y....

Let us know how it works out.

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No I'm pretty fed up and I'm definitely saying something, b.c his inappropriateness has gone on for way too long. I mean this is the ultimate rudeness.

I just need to figure what to say and how to say it with class.