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so did she reply?

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Lol! Believe me, you can afford to eat all the ice cream you want!

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hehe you are so funny! ;)

No she didn't respond, she is not always on email.

Whatever it is it is now and I will deal with it as it comes.

(btw sunny - this DOESN'T get repeated!! heeh - when am I going to see you and DH??)

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Posted by Sunny

Lol! Believe me, you can afford to eat all the ice cream you want!

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We have still not gotten some gifts from people at the wedding. One was a person who told me to read what they wrote in their card and we didn't get one from them. My feeling is I am not going to deal with it....if they gave cash and they lost it someone has that cash on and there is nothing I or they can do about it. If they gave a check they will realize when no one cashes it (hopefully).

I plan on NOT sending these people thank you cards. I know some people do to say thank you for spending our special day with us but I for one feel they should have some manners - I don't look at gifts for monetary purposes but the thought. If one of my guests gave me $50 for a couple I would be fine with that (and we did have a few who did). But this is JMO. I am not fine with coming to a party and not giving something (no matter how little) to the bride and groom. I would not do it and I don't expect people I know to do it.

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Posted by Jmg11

ok well then one more question - lets say I never ask - and they never bring it up.


Then what do I do about a Thank you card??

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You still send a thank you card to her and anyone else without a card - Just thank them for celebrating your wedding with you, etc.

I did that thinking it would 'remind' some of the people that stiffed us but I still haven't got anything - oh well they do have a year...

did you friend reply yet?

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sounds good to me

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I would have to disagree with the people who said I wouldn't send it. We gave cash to a couple and they never got the card. Thankfully the groom said something and we knew and took them out to dinner. We were glad because now we will never give cash again and there is not some underlying animosity between us and the couple for stiffing them at the wedding.

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Posted by myasmom

I wouldnt have sent anything.
People who gave cards the check wont clear so they will know and ask why you didnt cash it.
If cash was missing..consider it gone.

As for people who stiffed you, I am a little different. I do not want a pity gift..either really want to give it or dont.

I am more forgiving of Bridal party members because it is alot of $$ to be a BP member ..they are taking on the expense to help you through..YOUR DAY. They could have said no and not take on the expense. But thats JMO.

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What if the person did give a card and it was lost and it didn't have a check in it but it DID have cash?

It happened to me. Now I know better. But the couple weren't from the states so a check wouldn't help and I didnt' ahve time to get a American Express Travellers Checque.

I would say exactly what mrs wask said.

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you have FM

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don't feel bad, our best man never gavce us anything eithe r- he used ot say it was at his house but now it has fallen off the reasons list too..its not the gift that bothered me so mcuh, he didn't get us a card either and i am sentimental!!

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I absolutely REFUSED to send a TY to people who did not even bring a CARD. There were a few of my husband's friends who are very well off and did not bring a gift. I know the day is not about gifts, but it is about principle. Would you show up to some one's home with out knocking with your knees? We are very generous to his friends when they get married, some well wishes would have been nice. Three years later, we have about 5 people who didn't give anything. The irony is that when we meet up with them, they say things like ' I know we (I) still owe you a gift' I mean come on, we let it go. Stop making excuses.

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I'm only sending Thank Yous to people who gave something. The way I see it is this - anyone who DOESN'T get a thank you will inevitably call us, or one of our parents to complain that we never sent a thank you. For goodness' sake, some of DH's parents' friends are ALREADY complaining that they haven't gotten a thank you note. (Um, we got married a month ago, were away on honeymoon for two weeks, and the following two weeks were the High Holy Days. Shove off. Most of these, I'm sure, were people who couldn't RSVP in any sort of timely manner either.)

Anyway, don't send her a Thank You. She'll say something and it'll be ironed out.

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I think you should send the e-mail. I had two cards lost at my wedding and then I find out later that all of the cards that were attached to a gift were ripped off of the gifts and then shoved in the treasure chest. So as I was opening my cards I was thinking ok I got a card and no gift meanwhile all of my gifts had no cards. I had to call a few people and explain the problem so I could thank them for the gifts. I had a few gifts that were handmade and I really wanted to know who they were from.. I say send it. When I called my MIL called my husbands aunt she realized she had left the card in her dressy pocket book and never dropped it in the box. I guess she drank a lot that evening. You never know.. Good luck.