Now that you are married...

christy Posted: May 30, 2005 08:43 PM

Now that you are married...

would you be okay with getting pregnant? (If you are not currently TTC and it just happened?)
I am not in this situation, but DH and I were talking about the whole 'what if'...
This happened to friends of ours who were not planning on a baby anytime soon. They were shocked at first, but now are so happy! It seems like it was meant to be. How would you all take it?

mrswask Posted: May 30, 2005 08:56 PM

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Honestly - I would be very unhappy - we are not planning on children in the near future and I would not want that right now

christy Posted: May 30, 2005 09:02 PM

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I go back and forth on how I would feel too. I am probably giving it too much thought. But when you see a friend go through it, it makes you wonder. Thanks for answering so honestly.

mrswask Posted: May 30, 2005 09:04 PM

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I'm sure I'll get flamed from someone

christy Posted: May 30, 2005 09:09 PM

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Well not from me, I appreciate honesty.

mrswask Posted: May 30, 2005 09:15 PM

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Posted by christy

Well not from me, I appreciate honesty.

Thanks!

peabody Posted: May 30, 2005 09:19 PM

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I am not sure how I would feel. We are not ready yet, but I don't think it would be the worst thing in the world. I want to travel more this year and then TTC.

We are thinking about TTC to next summer.

usuk2004 Posted: May 31, 2005 05:43 AM

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Posted by peabody

I am not sure how I would feel. We are not ready yet, but I don't think it would be the worst thing in the world.

I agree. ideally we would like to have our own home and I don't really want to have a baby until we move back to the US....but I'm sure we would be very happy with the surprise.

RedHead Posted: May 31, 2005 06:28 AM

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Although we are still wanting to get a few things done first...We would be EXTREMEMLY happy if i was PG

xjulietx Posted: May 31, 2005 08:02 AM

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I think I would go through a whole range of emotions. Right now I don't have a job and am looking. Being pregnant would throw me off track. I

MCDO15 Posted: May 31, 2005 08:08 AM

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Posted by RedHead

Although we are still wanting to get a few things done first...We would be EXTREMEMLY happy if i was PG

exactly...

shocked at first...but after the shock..you realize you get to be parents... i think there is no feeling like that

VickiC Posted: May 31, 2005 08:23 AM

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Even though we would be shocked at first since we are not trying at all, I think then we would be happy about it. It's always the initial shock that throws people off I think.

CaCRmr Posted: May 31, 2005 08:27 AM

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We would be thrilled We wouldn't be 'ready' but then again who really is?

lanabean Posted: May 31, 2005 08:58 AM

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Christy--hey! To be honest...I wouldn't be happy. DH and I did not live together before marriage so we are truly in a great stage and just starting out. There is so much we want to do before even thinking of kids. That said, if it happened, it happened. We would be thrown off track but would embrace it, I am sure.

hbradio Posted: May 31, 2005 09:18 AM

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Posted by mrswask

Honestly - I would be very unhappy - we are not planning on children in the near future and I would not want that right now

No flames from me - I am in the same boat as you!

Janice Posted: May 31, 2005 09:18 AM

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at this point, I think the only way we will ever be preggo is if it is a surprise. so I would be happy.

nov04LIbride Posted: May 31, 2005 09:39 AM

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Posted by mrswask

Honestly - I would be very unhappy - we are not planning on children in the near future and I would not want that right now

Me too. There is soo much I want to do before TTC. I just started school again while working full time, and I know if I did have a child before finishing my doctorate most likely I would not have the time to return to school. We also want to travel more, save more $ for a house, and enjoy not having that added responsibility. It honestly would make both of us so upset if it did happen at this point. I know it is not the right time for us. That said, we are still so incredibly careful with BC because I do NOT want to get PG that hopefully (knock on wood!) we will never have to deal with a surprise!

JimmysBride Posted: May 31, 2005 10:22 AM

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Well...this is exactly what happened to us. We got back from the HM to find out only a few short weeks into our marriage that we were PG.

I'll be honest...neither one of us was happy about it. I cried for days. We weren't planning for children for several years, we also didn't live together before marriage and were so looking forward to that time together.

It's been a real rollercoaster of emotions for both of us trying to adjust to the reality that regardless of all our careful planning and prevention, we are going to have baby now, not later. Shock, confusion, excitement, happiness, depression, denial, sadness, fear have all been part of the process.

However, I trust that in end, when our son finally does arrive that somehow our questions will be answered, our fears will be calmed, and we will understand.

It's funny because whenever I hear of someone ELSE'S surprise PG I think it's WONDERFUL news, even if THEY don't think it is or feel they aren't in the best position. For them, I know it will be great... when it's you... it's a little different!

AtticaQT Posted: May 31, 2005 11:05 AM

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Posted by mrswask

Honestly - I would be very unhappy - we are not planning on children in the near future and I would not want that right now

You shouldnt get flamed- i feel the same way.

MRSJLK Posted: May 31, 2005 11:20 AM

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Posted by AtticaQT

Posted by mrswask

Honestly - I would be very unhappy - we are not planning on children in the near future and I would not want that right now

You shouldnt get flamed- i feel the same way.

me too!