QOTD: if you could have your marriage be like any other couple, whose would it be and why?

Original post by jennbaby

Dec 10, 2003 09:51 AM

I'll post my reply in a bit, have to make some calls

Sage10.03 Posted: Dec 10, 2003 10:48 AM

Re: QOTD: if you could have your marriage be like any other couple, whose would it be and why?

Posted by JENHOS

I would have to say My parents. They were married 41 years when my mom died and had a great relationship. I will never forget a night when Matt had stopped over there for something and came home and was so overwhelmed that when he walked in they had been laying on seperate couches but holding hands while watching TV. I guess I never thought much of it because they always did it. He reminded me how amazing that was after all those years.

And while she was sick my dad was amazing and it was just something inspirational to watch. So I can only hope after that many years married Matt and I will be that way!

Jen - that is so amazing (I had tears while reading)....and I hope DH and I can be like your parents!!!
I didn't have the geratest example growing up, but always envied friends parents that were like yours....
What a treasure to have grown up around such love.
I can only hope to be holding my DH's hand throughout all our lives!

chmlengr Posted: Dec 10, 2003 10:51 AM

Re: QOTD: if you could have your marriage be like any other couple, whose would it be and why?

No one. I know that every marriage has it's ups and downs, and that even the happiest most secure couples have their probelms, so I wouldn't want our marriage to be like anyone else's. I Would hope people want theirs to be like ours!!

jennbaby Posted: Dec 10, 2003 10:55 AM

Re: QOTD: if you could have your marriage be like any other couple, whose would it be and why?

Posted by JENHOS

I would have to say My parents. They were married 41 years when my mom died and had a great relationship. I will never forget a night when Matt had stopped over there for something and came home and was so overwhelmed that when he walked in they had been laying on seperate couches but holding hands while watching TV. I guess I never thought much of it because they always did it. He reminded me how amazing that was after all those years.

And while she was sick my dad was amazing and it was just something inspirational to watch. So I can only hope after that many years married Matt and I will be that way!

Amazing

Samanthas Mom Posted: Dec 10, 2003 11:54 AM

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I would not want to be like another couple because then we wouldn't be us

We have our ups and downs which is normal but we were made for each other, even DH says no would would put up w/ his crap than me and vice versa

My sister went to a well known psychic?SP?
and my sister asked about me and craig and supposedly my passed on grandmother said
'they are used to each other and that is a marriage!'
it made me laugh when I heard the tape b/c it sounds like something that she would say!

shamma Posted: Dec 10, 2003 12:22 PM

Re: QOTD: if you could have your marriage be like any other couple, whose would it be and why?

I have never seen a perfect marriage or one that I would fashion ours off of. I'd rather say, there are things about certain people's marriage that I admire. I look at those couples and I say, I hope one day, with time, we will gain those skills and learn how to do things better to make us a more loving and a much stronger couple.

A marriage is what you make it, as far as I have seen in this short period of time. It can be sweet and it can be sour. Take the good with the bad.

I am sure any marriage or couple out there, had to deal with their share of bumps in the road to get to where they are at. In the time that I have been married, I have seen in our marriage, areas that once used to hamper us no longer does. As they say, you live and you learn.

Jenn P Posted: Dec 10, 2003 01:02 PM

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I'm with the-I wouldn't mind if we took after my parents-crew. They had an amazing relationship for 24 years defined by mutual respect and admiration, true enjoyment of each other's company, and personalities that fit together perfectly.

It's got to be hard to make that kind of love last that long. Although my mother and I wish it lasted even longer, I'd rather have that kind of marriage for that duration than a weaker one for fifty years.

jlf41 Posted: Dec 10, 2003 01:10 PM

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JenRenee took the words right out of my mouth. I think we may even have the same parents!!

JennRenee Posted: Dec 10, 2003 01:19 PM

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Jessica! I always wanted another sister!!

mv1003 Posted: Dec 10, 2003 02:38 PM

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I've got the same exact thoughts as all of you!
K- So true!!! The grass isn't always greener.
Shamma- we are ----------><---------------right here.

I don't want anyone else's marriage but my own. I can tell you what I want my marriage to be like today, tomorrow, 5 years from know, 10, 25, you get the picture. I can only hope that we are like a fine wine, & we just get better with age.

I can also state that I hope we do not have a marriage like his parents, or mine. Mine divorced when I was 3. Although his parents are still married, it's not my idea of 'marriage'.

So far, I think we're on the right track

kmcwed Posted: Dec 10, 2003 02:49 PM

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Posted by MarcellaBella

I wouldn't want it like any other person's relationship.. EVER.. I am soo happy with my marriage and the closeness I have with my husband.. All the money in the world could never substitute that...

I completely agree. That's how I feel as well. I wouldn't want anyone else's relationship. I'm very happy with the one I have with my DH. I think we are one of the happiest and most compatible couples we know. Perfect? No way, but by far the best in my eyes.

maria96 Posted: Dec 10, 2003 02:49 PM

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I've known my husband since I was 13 yrs old. We were friends before anything. We didn't start dating till I was 17, we know each other so well...we finish the others sentences...I know what he's thinking before he says it. I feel like we grown up TOGETHER, which created a strong bond btw us. We are Best Friends. People still comment on how we are so much in love...we've been married for 6yrs.

I would never trade my relationship w/ DH for anything in the world!!!

nrvbrd Posted: Dec 10, 2003 02:51 PM

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Unfortunately in my family I have not seen good examples of marriages.

My parents were not together long, my grandparents marriage was bizarre and my Dh's parents have a horrible marriage,so I will still stick with my first post that I love my OWN marriage.

TrayLu47 Posted: Dec 10, 2003 03:31 PM

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It's pretty much a unanimous decision that we are all happy with own marriages. If I haven't learned anything else in life, I've certainly learned (especially in the last 4-5 years) that the grass is always greener. No one really knows the peaks and valleys of another persons relationship. Oftentimes I've found that people will put their best foot forward. Then BAM one day out of the blue a couple divorces or you find out that things are the total opposite of what you thought. Also, not everyone shares the same values and not everyone gets married for the same reasons.

I like my marriage, and like all other couples we have our strengths and weaknesses. However, we have been building our own foundation with our own unique style. What we have is special b/c as the years build, we are growing together as a couple and as individuals and we appreciate the value that each of us bring to our marriage.