Seems that some of us are 'old'

michele31 Posted: Mar 09, 2003 04:17 PM

Seems that some of us are 'old'

It feels weird sometimes when I visit the BHB and see new names. I used to know everyone on the board. I used to know about everyone's plans and dreams. We all supported each other and honestly, there was not too much 'drama'. Sometimes we disagreed, sometimes we agreed. In the end, nothing got very personal. And especially if one of us was pi$$ed at a vendor. The bride was NEVER personally attacked because of that.
What makes me really sad is the fact that some of the 'new' brides will almost attack one of 'us' because we post something they do not agree with. It really upsets me that Stef was so attacked because she posted that she didn't agree with something a vendor did. Of course, that could happen to ANY of us. I almost don't want to go to the BHB anymore. Why share and help when you will just be attacked so quickly if you don't like something?

So to my Newlywed friends...thank you, thank you, thank you. I don't know how active I would have been on this board if I just started posting today. It is because of all you....the girls I planned side by side with, that I have formed so many true friendships.

yabbobay Posted: Mar 09, 2003 04:46 PM

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Michele...I totally agree with you!! I was just thinking myself how I don't know a lot of the people...and they don't know me!

I think people in that post really fueled the fire...It shouldn't have gone that far...

radiostar Posted: Mar 09, 2003 05:19 PM

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Hmmmmmm??!?!?

I agree too!

Diane Posted: Mar 09, 2003 05:31 PM

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I agree too with you Michelle.
Well, some people have their own opinions/experiences about certian ideas, vendors, etc.

It shouldnt have gone that far either.

shamma Posted: Mar 09, 2003 06:55 PM

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what did I miss?? did someone hurt one my NW buddies??? Shamma will not have any of that, who did or said something, speak now or forever hold your piece. Michelle, a lot of the NW are not visiting there much anymore, there are more questions here daily to us. I hope it all got resolved.

Teri Posted: Mar 09, 2003 07:30 PM

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I still liked to go over to BHB and post my 2 cents.....but it's not worth getting in the middle of an argument anymore.....especially if comments and opinions aren't appreciated.

Sonicstef Posted: Mar 09, 2003 07:44 PM

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Teri: I appreciate your comments.

NIHA Posted: Mar 09, 2003 07:46 PM

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When I joined LIW over a year ago, I don't remember the BHB board being as hostile an environment as it is now. Maybe I was oblivious to it since I was so wrapped up in planning, but I do prefer to stay over on this side b/c of the hostility and other stuff that goes on over there.

If brides want to ask questions to newleyweds, they can post here. But, I don't think the hostile brides, the ones who attack, should be posting on this board on other threads (like this one).

Lisa Rose Posted: Mar 09, 2003 08:02 PM

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I agree with all of you....I do not feel that the BHB board is a very 'HAPPY' place anymore and I do not like to visit there. I afraid ,that some of the brides that are involved with all the drama, once they come over to this board, will bring the crap with them! I really hope not because as soon as that happens I will have to find somewhere else to go.

I think it is very wrong when anyone posts on the BHB board and they get ripped apart, but to see what happened with Stef was wrong.

Diane Posted: Mar 09, 2003 08:05 PM

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Lisa Rose....I sure hope they dont come over here with that DRAMA CRAP

Misty Posted: Mar 09, 2003 08:44 PM

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I still have 2 months until I am supposed to post here, but I have just had it with that board.

I think it's completely dispicable how Stef was treated. She gives so much of herself, and no one on that board bothered to read what the issue even was before ripping her to shreads. Even the people she's helped!!! Talk about ungrateful!! If everyone here had to pay for the knowledge Stef has given us, we'd all be in the hole for thousands. It's childplay over there now, and it's why I've stuck to the NWR and May boards.

I can't wait to come over here permanently already. I have to remind myself that this is a website, and it's not worth getting angry over...but I'm just so !@#$ sick of it! What kind of wives are these women going to make if they can't even give a computer the benefit of the doubt!!

Samanthas Mom Posted: Mar 09, 2003 09:04 PM

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michele
everytime I go to that board and look at the first page practically every post is started by a name I have never seen!!! LOL
Anyway it is much saner over here
kinda like we all know each other which by now most of us do anyway! SURE , there are some lovely ladies over there, who will add to our side soon and they know who they are
you can figure out who you are
yes, lara I meant you too! LOL
AND lauren and lisa, and marcela1654, jenn AND CHRISTINE
now I feel like I am on romper room
the rest know who they are but those girls might yell at me! lol

But the dramamakers lol
are a little too much

allure Posted: Mar 09, 2003 09:15 PM

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I agree the drama should end

Cira Posted: Mar 09, 2003 09:22 PM

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I've mentioned this before too ... but Michele, Lisa, Diane, Erica, I agree with all of you too - I felt that we had a more personal bond and connection.

And then we got married and moved over here - and I too hope that it doesn't change to become some 'soap opera' - I told Shamma that if that's the case, we are going to have to two NW boards! - invitation only!

I didn't read the post that attacked Stef - because I am never on the BHB - but whoever you are, you don't realize how wonderful Stef really is and all the great advice that she shares with all of us so generously!!

Cindy Posted: Mar 09, 2003 10:03 PM

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I have been away and just got to read what has been going on.

I was on this board during most of my planning year. I only remember this board as being a caring and supportive one. After all my planning was over I got to walk away happy knowing I got to meet wonderful people and had the chance to share the planning with all these friends.

I myself like others cant believe some of the posts on the BHB board. It was never like that in 2002. I dont know the whole story, but I think most of those brides never thought of or took into account Stephanie's feelings at all before they added their posts.

yabbobay Posted: Mar 09, 2003 11:08 PM

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I just don't understand the cruelty...there are threads all over this board...and little innuendos floating around...

I guess stress of planning a wedding? more people on the board...less of a community?

Val R. Posted: Mar 09, 2003 11:23 PM

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I think the reason it has gotten to be the way it is over on BHB is the volume of people on it!! I have been on these boards for 3 years now.... there were maybe 30 people tops when I started I swear! Honestly, even many of the regulars on here now, I do not recall from when I first found this board.... I know I do not post frequently.... but I also have staying on 'this side' lately. But I so much enjoy coming here still..... so I just stay over on the NW side!!

Suz Posted: Mar 09, 2003 11:57 PM

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I know I'm not technically a newlywed for 3 more weeks, but I just wanted to say that I agree with you ladies. I wish people wouldn't say anything if they aren't directly involved. I feel like some people post just to post and it doesn't do anyone any good.

So anyway, I am very excited to join you on this side of the fence very soon!!

Sonicstef Posted: Mar 10, 2003 07:43 AM

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First - the whole bunch of side comments and 'FM' notifications in these threads are beyond childish. The people who do that are not even involved!

But more importantly - Its really upseting that this sort of thing has 'ruined' a perfectly fun experience for me. I used to really ENJOY helping some of the brides with their projects and I just assumed they were appreciative of the time and effort it took. I guess not...and the thanks i get is nasty comments like 'poof, be gone'.

Well - what do I say to that? I am evidently not welcome there.

And now I feel really uncomfortable sharing anything on this side too.

It just makes me sad