UPDATED - FUUUUUUUUMING!!!!! Calm me down. Hold me back!!!!

Original post by carolinebr

Jan 09, 2008 11:37 AM

So for Christmas, DH bought me a beautiful Rolex watch. Now, I did NOT ask for this gift. I did not need a Rolex. I find it to be silly & too expensive but yes, it is very nice & yes, ok... I am wearing it. Fine, whatever.

So yesterday, I can't find my Concord watch, which is also a VERY nice watch, that was given to me by an ex-boyfriend. I wore it EVERY DAY for 7 years, until I got my new watch. It was gold with diamonds & worth about $3-4K. Beautiful. I was FREAKING out. So I finally ask DH if he has seen it... and he said... are you ready....?.

'Oh, I gave that to the jeweler. You don't need that old thing anymore. Besides, gold isn't 'in' anymore.'

Basically, he traded in my Concord for the Rolex.

Um, you did WHAT???? You SOLD MY WATCH???? Are you out of your f*cking MIND???? Now, I knew he has a little jealousy issue with my ex, but is he INSANE? I stayed calm but the more I think about it, the more p!ssed I get.

Thoughts???

********UPDATE:*********
So last night I was ready to stab DH with a pickle fork
but I stayed calm. I told him that I was really upset that he took something of mine without asking, etc...

He was shocked that I was upset & I think he sincerely felt bad. He swears that he didn't do it for spite, that he really thought I wouldn't need it once I had my new watch.

He said that the watch is still at the jeweler & that the jeweler has it on consignment. He said he'll go get it back today. I compromised & said that we can sell it BUT the money is either going in Ella's college fund or in our new house fund. He agreed.

jtgarsik Posted: Jan 09, 2008 08:58 PM

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oooooh boy. dh should just be glad it wasnt me!! he pawned ur stuff??!?!!!! i mean - of course we're to pick our battles...but he sold something of YOURS. i'd be pist, dissappointed & upset all at the same time boys can be so stupid & just not think sometimes

medic6809 Posted: Jan 09, 2008 09:43 PM

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I would have flipped.......I would bring on WW5

Mich0621 Posted: Jan 09, 2008 09:50 PM

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride

yikes. thats definite an issue. its the principle that he took one of your personal belongings and essentially pawned it without any little mention to you...and then used it to give you a gift. def let him know that you are, in no way, okay with him doing that and that youd never do something like that to his things. if he felt jealous about you having a gift from your ex....now its weirder...your ex bf essentially bought you a rolex! how does dh feel any better about using the ex's money to buy you a gift?

its not that i cant understand the jealousy. i can see how it would bug him that you still have something from an ex but like others have said, you get attached to things you like and it doesnt necessarily mean alot to you bc you still have feelings for the other guy. if he had an issue with you still having that watch from the ex...the problem with what he did is that...it was a very passive aggressive way of making his point!

not to mention that he was comfortable keeping the info from you, until you found it was missing. if you never noticed, would he had never said anything?

if you guys talk it out and it comes out that he was just very upset or jealous, try to be understanding. but..let him know he should have just talked about it with you instead of doing that.

sorry caroline!

Well put. It is great and all that he got you a watch, really a watch you helped pay for. That is unfair of him and I would put him in the dog house.

I still wear a David Yurman bracelet my ex got me and DH doesn't care. He is WRONG!

BoxOfRocks Posted: Jan 10, 2008 12:44 AM

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I'd be furious. He had no right to take your possessions and sell them! Quite honestly, I think it was a very manipulative move. I agree that a long talk is in order.

carolinebr Posted: Jan 10, 2008 09:22 AM

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bump for update

MrsQ-in2007 Posted: Jan 10, 2008 10:14 AM

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Posted by carolinebr
********UPDATE:*********
So last night I was ready to stab DH with a pickle fork
but I stayed calm. I told him that I was really upset that he took something of mine without asking, etc...

He was shocked that I was upset & I think he sincerely felt bad. He swears that he didn't do it for spite, that he really thought I wouldn't need it once I had my new watch.

He said that the watch is still at the jeweler & that the jeweler has it on consignment. He said he'll go get it back today. I compromised & said that we can sell it BUT the money is either going in Ella's college fund or in our new house fund. He agreed.

Ok so that makes it a little better - the fact that he didn't use the profit of that watch towards the Rolex. He still shouldn't have done it without speaking to you, but I'm really happy you guys spoke about it, worked it out and came to a resolution you're both happy with! Bravo!!

lilqtpie2181 Posted: Jan 10, 2008 12:31 PM

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well i just read the whole post. original and update! i would have been very mad too but i would have done exactlyw hat u did. TALK about it instead of fight.
its very nice that he agreed to get the watch back so u guys can sell it for a better good!