So I'm having this internal dilemna. My sister is getting married at the end of this month. We already had her shower and I got her a lovely gift. Now, my sister did not give me a my husband a gift of any kind for our wedding. I never confronted her about this because I didn't want to be a *****. My question is, do I not gift her like she did to me, or should I be a better person and get her something small? (The whole situation just makes me angry because she should know better.)
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If I were you I wouldn't get anything crazy. Maybe something small and meaningful. Something she could use the day of?
bettybcafe82
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My sister was my MOH at my wedding and she never got me anything. But I also wasnt expecting anything. If you want to get her something I'd say just get it...dont bring it up that she never got you anything. Just give it to her and let her be happy. When you had ur shower, did she have a good job? or was she having financial problems?
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How old is your sister? Or is she in a bad financial situation?
Depending on the relationship with your sister I would still give a gift based upon your answer to this.
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Is she much younger than you? Is she in a bad financial way right now?
Im kind of going if she had said to you 'Look were both paying for weddings, let skip gifts with eachother since we dont have the $$' ....THAT would make sense...I dont know for me it would depend on other factors such as my financial siutation VS hers
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u do what your heart tells you, not your head. if deep down u really do not want to then don't. Personally I would still give her a gift...and i'd probably still give her the generous one i initially felt to give. Maybe there was reasoning behind why she didn't give you one & she was embarrassed to talk about it? maybe not... and maybe if u DO give her a gift, she will actually talk to you about why she never gave you one..?? lol wow. hope that's not as confusing as i think it is lol. all that to say, yes, i would still give a gift.
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If it were me, I would still get her something. Maybe not as lavish as I would have gotten her but I still would give something.
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Posted by bettybcafe82
My sister was my MOH at my wedding and she never got me anything. But I also wasnt expecting anything. If you want to get her something I'd say just get it...dont bring it up that she never got you anything. Just give it to her and let her be happy. When you had ur shower, did she have a good job? or was she having financial problems?
She had the same job that she has now. She's not struggling. Her FH is an Air Traffic Controller as well. They're not struggling.
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My sister was my MOH at my wedding and she never got me anything. But I also wasnt expecting anything. If you want to get her something I'd say just get it...dont bring it up that she never got you anything. Just give it to her and let her be happy. When you had ur shower, did she have a good job? or was she having financial problems?
She had the same job that she has now. She's not struggling. Her FH is an Air Traffic Controller as well. They're not struggling.
hmm...so then maybe i would just get her something small & sentimental... maybe a nice jewelry box with something engraved rather than mula???
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I think it depends on what her situation was. My sister was my MOH and didnt give me a gift, however, she was 21 and still in college. We knew she wouldnt give us a gift but that was ok. When she gets married though, i will definitely be giving her a gift because we are able to.
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My sister was my MOH at my wedding and she never got me anything. But I also wasnt expecting anything. If you want to get her something I'd say just get it...dont bring it up that she never got you anything. Just give it to her and let her be happy. When you had ur shower, did she have a good job? or was she having financial problems?
She had the same job that she has now. She's not struggling. Her FH is an Air Traffic Controller as well. They're not struggling.
Oh, well thats a little different. Im not sure why she didnt get you anything then I would still be the bigger person and get her something. Dont go crazy, but something small an meaningful...good luck
ETA: My sis is currently in grad school so I understood why she didnt have the means to buy us something for the wedding, but obviously your situation is a bit different.
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My sister was my MOH at my wedding and she never got me anything. But I also wasnt expecting anything. If you want to get her something I'd say just get it...dont bring it up that she never got you anything. Just give it to her and let her be happy. When you had ur shower, did she have a good job? or was she having financial problems?
She had the same job that she has now. She's not struggling. Her FH is an Air Traffic Controller as well. They're not struggling.
Was she responsible for paying for your shower? Maybe she couldnt afford anything else??
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I like the idea of getting her something small for the day of her wedding. No need to go crazy.
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Posted by bettybcafe82
My sister was my MOH at my wedding and she never got me anything. But I also wasnt expecting anything. If you want to get her something I'd say just get it...dont bring it up that she never got you anything. Just give it to her and let her be happy. When you had ur shower, did she have a good job? or was she having financial problems?
She had the same job that she has now. She's not struggling. Her FH is an Air Traffic Controller as well. They're not struggling.
Was she responsible for paying for your shower? Maybe she couldnt afford anything else??
No. Ready to have your mind blown? Nobody in my family wanted to throw a shower for me. So one of my husbands female friends and my MOH (my best friend) hosted my shower.
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No. Ready to have your mind blown? Nobody in my family wanted to throw a shower for me. So one of my husbands female friends and my MOH (my best friend) hosted my shower. Im sorry hun WHo threw your sister's shower
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No. Ready to have your mind blown? Nobody in my family wanted to throw a shower for me. So one of my husbands female friends and my MOH (my best friend) hosted my shower.
Im sorry hun WHo threw your sister's shower
My other sister and her Future in Law's.
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i would get her something special, not big or small or cheap or expensive....its the thought that counts
lizzie217
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Sounds like a tricky situation but I wouldnt personally go empyt handed. Of course you have to do what is right for you
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Sounds like a tricky situation but I wouldnt personally go empyt handed. Of course you have to do what is right for you
I know, I know. It's just something that's been bothering me since January. I'm the type of person that overthinks things.
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Posted by bettybcafe82
My sister was my MOH at my wedding and she never got me anything. But I also wasnt expecting anything. If you want to get her something I'd say just get it...dont bring it up that she never got you anything. Just give it to her and let her be happy. When you had ur shower, did she have a good job? or was she having financial problems?
She had the same job that she has now. She's not struggling. Her FH is an Air Traffic Controller as well. They're not struggling.
Was she responsible for paying for your shower? Maybe she couldnt afford anything else??
No. Ready to have your mind blown? Nobody in my family wanted to throw a shower for me. So one of my husbands female friends and my MOH (my best friend) hosted my shower.
Why would your other sister throw hers and not yours?? I would do what you feel is right. It sounds like some other stuff may have been going on...
