Re: Would you forgive your hubby if he had a one night stand?

That's interesting!

Re: Would you forgive your hubby if he had a one night stand?

As I have told Frankie Lorena Bobbit is my idol!! You cheat- hide the knives!

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Oh, so a swinger is a threesome? I'm lost...I thought it was just switching partners. Ooppsie!

My friend's husband will meet women at work, and meet them for sex. My friend totally doesn't mind, because she does the same, as long as they don't tell each other details or anything, and they're using protection, they're fine with it. And they have two children and seem very happy.

I just can't imagine living like that...to each his own,

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wow interesting

I could never but hey thats what float their boats

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before children: ABSOLUTELY NOT!!

after children: I'm not sure, I would want to say no, but everything we have worked so hard to build would just be gone, so I couldn't say. I came from divorced parents and we both never ever want to do that to our children....

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I told DH before we were married that the first one night stand he has will be the last night of our marriage.

HELL NO.

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NO!!!!!! this is something we already agreed on if he or I step out on the marriage there is no going back or forgiving, all the trust is out the window. I could not live the rest of my life questioning whether or not what he says is true

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I would definitely not forgive, nor would I forget. If my husband ever decided to have a one night stand I would forever feel disrespected and I would lose respect for him. Once that is gone, the marriage is gone... children or no children!

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I also ditto Cira but i would not be able to trust him...

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Been there done that!! My ex husband cheated on me when we had been married for about 2 years. It was one of the most awful experiences of my life, but in the end we stayed together. We had a one year old daughter, but we did not stay together because of her. It was more because I really and truly loved him and it is just not that easy to turn it off. We all make mistakes and while this was a huge one, I ultimately decided to stay with him.

It took years before I was able to completely trust him again and he had to earn it back. I would call and check on him to make sure he was where he said he would be. Maybe that wasn't the right thing to do, but it is what I had to do to believe in him again. Although I did eventually leave him (after 18 years of marriage) the cheating had nothing to do with it. It was long forgiven and let go of by that time.

However....if it happened this time with this husband, I would be gone. He knows it. End of story!

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I honestly think he would never do that but IF he did
I would not forgive him, I would find a new husband!

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as of right now I'd say a BIG NO. Trust is a big thing and I don't think i'd be able to trust him again after that. Even if i had children I think it would be better to be apart then to stay together and be bitter and fight all the time.

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I think it is really easy to scream 'get out' on line, but when it comes to your real life it isn't so easy.

I have a friend that had this happen to her, they have 2 children. And while he did move out for a while, they discovered that maybe there was something very wrong with their marriage that needed to be fixed and cheating was just a small part of it. They got back together. Now, I have no way of knowing if she really forgives him or not, nor is it my place to judge. This is her marriage, her family so the decision needed to be hers alone.

In my case I can say all I want that I would kick him to the curb but the truth is my heart would break into a million pieces so I don't know what I would do in that case. I cannot imagine my life without Scott. I don't know if I would allow a mistake like this to destroy our lives- I just don't know either way. I pray that I never, ever have to make this decision.

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My husband knows that the day he sleeps with another women is the day I will leave him. I do not tolerate $hit like that and he is lucky if I don't cut off his D*ck.

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no, I wouldn't.

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NO WAY!!!!!! Once a Cheat always a cheat. If he had the Nerve to do it once, what makes you think he won't do it again, if he got away with it the first time. Staying together for the kids is not a good idea, it ends up making things worse, especially for the children. He'd be out so fast he wouldn't know what hit him.

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personally i would be unable to forgive.. but that is just me. i would feel sick everytime i thought of it. but that is my perogative, and i can see in other situations where that would not be the solution. I don't think its so easy to say either way if you are not in that situation....

teresa - i had a friend couple who used to do the same thing - bring home other peole to spice up their love life! needless to say that realtionship ended in a really f'd up way - she left him for one of the guys they brought home!

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I could NEVER forgive him

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NO. More so now than ever, because he should be thinking not only of me, but also of our baby.

Re: Would you forgive your hubby if he had a one night stand?

NO. I would never be able to, children or no children.