you think it's OK if....

you send out Christmas Cards even though Thank You's aren't done yet? We are only 3 months out yet -- but still haven't sat down to decide on a picture for our TY's.

I feel so guilty sending out Christmas Cards before TY's? Anyone else feel the same?

I should get over it right?

hey date twin... i wouldn't worry about it.

I'm waiting for my proofs to be ready, and print photos before sending out my TYs...

Im sure no one would care... and if they do... ew--creepy.

I think the 'etiquette' says you should send thank you carsd out within 1 month to 3 months tops BUT thats not taking into account that most people these days do photo thank you cards and not the traditional generic ones. You need to wait for the proofs obviously and when people see then they will understand why it took longer than 'its supposed to.'

Don't stress. I think if you get them out before you make 6 months you'll be A Ok

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Posted by PeteysBride

I think the 'etiquette' says you should send thank you carsd out within 1 month to 3 months tops BUT thats not taking into account that most people these days do photo thank you cards and not the traditional generic ones. You need to wait for the proofs obviously and when people see then they will understand why it took longer than 'its supposed to.'

Don't stress. I think if you get them out before you make 6 months you'll be A Ok

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I am usually so on top of thank-yous, like for our e-party and shower, they were done and in the mail in 2 weeks. I plan to get them done and out by mid January What a relief that will be

I wouldnt worry about it steph ~ I am picking up my Thank you pics but I am not sure if I am going have time to write them all out before Christmas...

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Posted by fallinlove91407

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Posted by PeteysBride

I think the 'etiquette' says you should send thank you carsd out within 1 month to 3 months tops BUT thats not taking into account that most people these days do photo thank you cards and not the traditional generic ones. You need to wait for the proofs obviously and when people see then they will understand why it took longer than 'its supposed to.'

Don't stress. I think if you get them out before you make 6 months you'll be A Ok

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I am usually so on top of thank-yous, like for our e-party and shower, they were done and in the mail in 2 weeks. I plan to get them done and out by mid January What a relief that will be

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I hear ya! I had my BS thank you's out the same weekend and it made me feel antsy that I had to wait for my proofs to do the photo thank you's. But most people understand now. Some of the older folks may not get it because they dont really understand photo thank yous and the modern touches but generally people won't bat an eyelash.

i was so worried about this esp. since i used a wedding pic on my christmas cards.. so I'm nuts but i worte out 90 of them the other night and i'm waiting to finish the ty's tonight and mail out tomorrow then mail our christmas cards next week... My family is crazy so don't go based on me..

I think its fine to send your christmas cardsout first... I'd just never hear the end of it

Phew!! I feel better!! Thanks ladies

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Posted by PeteysBride

I think the 'etiquette' says you should send thank you carsd out within 1 month to 3 months tops BUT thats not taking into account that most people these days do photo thank you cards and not the traditional generic ones. You need to wait for the proofs obviously and when people see then they will understand why it took longer than 'its supposed to.'

Don't stress. I think if you get them out before you make 6 months you'll be A Ok

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Not to be contrary to my lovely Jenn, but ettiquette wise you actually have ONE YEAR to send out Thank You cards! (And guests have one year to give a gift).

However, I think 3-6 months for Thank You's is the more generally accepted time frame. GENERALLY SPEAKING.

My friend sent hers 12 months after her wedding and she was so embarrassed, but I kept telling her it's always better late than never! In her case, she also got pregnant 5 months after the wedding so the Thank You's went on a back burner. So long as you get them out, you should be fine!

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Posted by MrsQ-in2007

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Posted by PeteysBride

I think the 'etiquette' says you should send thank you carda out within 1 month to 3 months tops BUT thats not taking into account that most people these days do photo thank you cards and not the traditional generic ones. You need to wait for the proofs obviously and when people see then they will understand why it took longer than 'its supposed to.'

Don't stress. I think if you get them out before you make 6 months you'll be A Ok

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Not to be contrary to my lovely Jenn, but ettiquette wise you actually have ONE YEAR to send out Thank You cards! (And guests have one year to give a gift).

However, I think 3-6 months for Thank You's is the more generally accepted time frame. GENERALLY SPEAKING.

My friend sent hers 12 months after her wedding and she was so embarrassed, but I kept telling her it's always better late than never! In her case, she also got pregnant 5 months after the wedding so the Thank You's went on a back burner. So long as you get them out, you should be fine!

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Hm ok. Guess conflicting info :)

I looked it up and said actually up to 5 weeks-should be 2 weeks after your honeymoon and no more than 3 months for gifts recieved at th wedding. Gifts recieved after, you send thank you's as you get them.

You DO have a year to give a gift and of course then you write yout thanks you's as you get the gift, but 3 different sites did say you should do them as soon as you get the gift. And from experience I know women who waited till a year and the talk of 'tackienss' never ended. I think its considered polite within 3 months. And honestly, if you get checks, we all cash em pretty soon but REALLY tacky to cash a generous gift and then wait a year to say hey thanks. But yea thats the 'technically proper' way that is saying thank you's should be the tarditional one, not photo ones. For photo thank you's you are fine.
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Expert: Amanda Gamble
Date: 9/19/2006
Subject: Wedding thank you's

Question
What is the appropriate time to send thank you notes for gifts received at a wedding. My stepdaughter says she has up to 1 year, I think it should be done within a month or 2. HELP

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Answer
Dear GH,
She has is wrong. People have up to a year to SEND a
wedding present. After a year the couple is no
longer 'newly wed'. She needs to get those thank you
notes out within two weeks.
Please point out to her that these people were not
obligated to give her anything. They spent their limited
time and hard earned money. Writing a brief note
expressing gratitude is not a job she should begrudge.
Best regards,
Amanda Gamble

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Posted by PeteysBride

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Posted by MrsQ-in2007

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Posted by PeteysBride

I think the 'etiquette' says you should send thank you carsd out within 1 month to 3 months tops BUT thats not taking into account that most people these days do photo thank you cards and not the traditional generic ones. You need to wait for the proofs obviously and when people see then they will understand why it took longer than 'its supposed to.'

Don't stress. I think if you get them out before you make 6 months you'll be A Ok

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Not to be contrary to my lovely Jenn, but ettiquette wise you actually have ONE YEAR to send out Thank You cards! (And guests have one year to give a gift).

However, I think 3-6 months for Thank You's is the more generally accepted time frame. GENERALLY SPEAKING.

My friend sent hers 12 months after her wedding and she was so embarrassed, but I kept telling her it's always better late than never! In her case, she also got pregnant 5 months after the wedding so the Thank You's went on a back burner. So long as you get them out, you should be fine!

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Hm ok. Guess conflicting info :)

I looked it up and said actually 5 weeks. You DO have a year to give a gift and of course then you wirte yout thanks you's as you get the gift, but 3 different sites did say you should do them as soon as you get the gift. And from experience I know women who waited till a year and the talk of 'tackienss' never ended. I think its considered polite within 3 months. And honestly, if you get checks, we all cash em pretty soon but REALLY tacky to cash a generous gift and then wait a year to say hey thanks.

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Heck I think everyone would agree that the sooner you send your thanks the better! I do know that in this day and age when most couples have to wait for pics to be in to then choose pics for their ty's and get the cards, then write them out etc., it's common for cards to not go out until the 3-6 month mark anyway.

Weekend twin, I'm in the same boat!!
I'm still doing Christmas cards....I haven't even ordered my TYs yet!!

My holiday cards are going out this weekend and my TYs will go out sometime in the next 2 weeks, which really means month in my world.

just ordered cards through costco.com and did a photo card with and e-pic.....save the wedding pics for out TY's. that works right?

What do you think?