For all of you getting married in 2006, are you getting the same responses that I do from people when you tell them your date? If one more person asks me why I am 'waiting so long' 'what's his problem' 'that's too long of an engagement' 'too much time to change your mind' i am going to scream!!!! I need to know that other 06ers are going through the same thing!
Wintersbride
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Oh dear! I have been going through that too! Since we have been engaged (2001) especially now when people find out how long we have been engaged. They have this look on their face like, 'why? what's the matter? are you guys changing your mind?' I want to scream 'Hey! Are you paying for this wedding? Because if you are then you can tell me when I can have my wedding. Until then LEAVE ME ALONE!' :::pant::: :::pant:::
...ok, I am better now!
EvenEdan
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I got engaged in 02 and am getting married next month. I heard all the same comments, I learned to ignore them. People are idiots!
ETA: You can always say to the idiots, 'if you'd like to pay for the wedding, I'd be happy to move it up.'
ChristineC68
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People will always have something to say about everything - just ignore it.
7706bride
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good answer...many peopel just congratulate me and then there are those who have to have an opinion. I am going to snap at one more person who says to me we are waiting too long.
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Why are people so ignorant? After reading this my only comment is this: SPREAD HAPPINESS not NEGATIVE COMMENTS!
This is already a stressful time, no need to get stressed by other future brides!
Wishing all the 06 and so on brides all the best!
7706bride
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i usually find it to be the people who probably have not planned a wedding recently....mostly strangers i encounter...they obviously do not realize that things are different today.
kissy27
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People use to say it to me in the beginning...When I use to tell them FH & I want our house set before we are married, then back off a little...It really never bothered me though...I knew we had our reasons & that is all that matter to me...
Sometimes you can't take what people say to heart! They aren't the ones that are paying Our day will be here before you know it
DebMaher
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I am not an 06 bride but I wanted to repost this, my answer to a similar post on people making insensitive comments: 'First of all, this happens to EVERY BRIDE (at least every one I know) so don't stress at all. People are insensitive idiots; once you know and accept this, life is much easier. ;)
See I am meaner and more dark than many of you...when one person (friend of a friend of the family) started in with how stupid we were to have scheduled for a place with no caterer and hire an outside person, another time, why pick such a lacy dress, another time, why not get a more traditional band. And yada yada yada! So one time she started in, I just stared at her intently, crumpled my face and said, 'Oh, god you are so right...what will I ever do?' I whipped out my phone and made a big production of pretending to call FI to say 'we have to cancel the wedding we are doing it all wrong' -- well, she shut right up after that and hasn't said much since. '
brooklynbridezilla
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Posted by 7706bride
For all of you getting married in 2006, are you getting the same responses that I do from people when you tell them your date? If one more person asks me why I am 'waiting so long' 'what's his problem' 'that's too long of an engagement' 'too much time to change your mind' i am going to scream!!!! I need to know that other 06ers are going through the same thing!
I can be mean. I'd probably say something like, 'I don't know why you are asking, you aren't even invited.'
I started planning on the early side and am really glad I did. I was able to get my first choice of vendors, and I'm not as stressed out as I would be if I started later.
Bride22BB
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Yes I get that response also, why are we waiting so long for and why this and I could be dead by then and he could change his mind or your never know what's going to happen by 2006...People are so negative and instead of just wishing us well they are wishing us bad luck... I just respond with you know how organized I am, I need time to plan I am not going to plan a wedding in 4-6months and just settle for anything like my other cousin's did in my family and plus I don't want to be in no debt or stress trying to pay bills after the wedding....In my family we have like 3 more weddings that are going to happen next year, I say just save the BEST for LAST. my wedding in 2006.......
Good Question 7706bride, I needed to vent..
Thanks.
flower1017
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I always get that, it drives me nuts. People are always saying, 'Why wait so long', 'why are you planning so early', you have plenty of time'. Makes me want to strangle some people. But I just do one of these... Hopefully it will get better as time goes on.
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This is so funny because my mother is the one who keeps saying omg that is so long away and i just ask her if i can take the money from our money tree in the backyard i will be happy to move my wedding up!!!
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I hear ya!! When we get married in 2006, we would have been dating more than 10 years, so all we hear from people is '2006, oh, that's so far away.' I've learned to ignore and point out that we are paying for our own wedding, bought a house approx. 2 years ago and I have major student loans to pay off, so, if they would like to pay for our wedding, then no problem let's move up the date.
Many people forget that today's wedding costs are outrageous. Every time you turn around someone needs a deposit or another payment. I could go on and on, but I've learned to take it where it's coming from.
So, my point is, when I get that comment, and I still get them, I usually smile and say, 'well that's the date we wanted and it gives us time to make sure it's the wedding of our dreams.' Usually, it shuts them up.
nicknmb
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I got the same thing when I got engaged. Our engagement is 21 months total. Don't worry. The time goes by so quickly anyway. And it's you & FH's decision, not anyone elses.
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i dont want to butt in - but your reply can be - if YOU want to FOOT the bill we can get married tomorrow!
Another reason why FH & i took over a year to plan ours
gina674
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Posted by LadyPrincess
i dont want to butt in - but your reply can be - if YOU want to FOOT the bill we can get married tomorrow!
Another reason why FH & i took over a year to plan ours
This just happened to me this morning, and it's sooo annoying!! But the kicker was that my mom said' Well since my younger daughter is getting married in May '05 I asked Gina to wait a year so we could recouped' RECOUPE!!!! From what!!! We are paying for the darn thing, nobody else...Ughhhh!!!!!
DCSAAB06
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Ha....girls I am with you!! I always get that response...Why so long?????
My answer, 'do you know the cost of weddings these days?? You would wait too!'
Whateverrrrrr...I just brush it off and am secure with a 2006 wedding
nylisa
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We got engaged in Feb 02 and got married three weeks ago. I got the same thing. People kept saying to us 'Why are you waiting?', 'That is such a long time away', etc. Don't listen to them. Enjoy every minute of your engagement because as you get closer it will come and go very fast.
AJsMommy122
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I got the same thing! We were engaged Feb 02 and are getting married Feb 05. I was getting that from vendors up until the 6 month mark!! Since then I havent heard another comment. Honestly you enjoyed being single for a big part of your life and you will enjoy being married for a long time.. why not have a measily 2 years to enjoy being engaged??? Time flys and before you know it your day will be just around the corner ( another liw bride told me this a year ago and how true it is!!!!!!)
