For all of you getting married in 2006, are you getting the same responses that I do from people when you tell them your date? If one more person asks me why I am 'waiting so long' 'what's his problem' 'that's too long of an engagement' 'too much time to change your mind' i am going to scream!!!! I need to know that other 06ers are going through the same thing!
7706bride
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i am so happy that so many of you girls understand what i am talking about. i am trying to ignore it, but it gets funny after awhile. i like the answer of saying we are waiting 'to have the wedding of our dreams!!' great response. I have to say it has ben great w/ having our first choice in vendors. I can't imagine having been dsappointed w/ not being able to get a vendor b/c it was already booked. I will think of all of you girls the next time someone makes a coment like: 'her wedding is like 10 years from now!!!'...PLEASE...only 1 yr and 9 months!!!
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Oh I totally know how you feel! We get this all the time too! When people usually ask when we're getting married we respond with the date and we say 'we have time...and we like it that way.' Usually people can't really say anything after that. Some people just don't realize their comments can be so rude and so annoying! Don't worry! You're not alone.
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As a 2005 bride who will have been engaged for 2.5 years on my wedding day, I can tell you a few things: 1) More people than I care to tell you will give you the ol' 'YOU HAVE SO MUCH TIME!' spiel 2) You will start to feel like you shouldn't be bothering people with details of your wedding when it's 'so far away' 3) You will smarten up and realize that you have EVERY RIGHT to 'bother' people with details about this great day that really does take that long to plan 4) You will find yourself at the one year mark faster than you can believe and ALL of the people who didn't want to hear about your wedding or who had a problem with it being so far away will be the ones who will not stop talking about how exciting it is that it's so close. This is what I have come to realize. With less than nine months to go, I can tell you, it still annoys me all the comments I got from people. But time will fly and those people can all go screw themselves!
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Definitely. i HATE 'why are you waiting so long?' I've taken to responding with 'We'd gladly get married sooner, if you'd foot the bill.'
Plus I like having time to plan everyhting leisurely and give me anf FH time to prepare and work out everything that needs to be wroked out.
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we got engaged in nov 03 and right away i said '06, b/c 04 is right aroind the corner and there are too many things to do and just not enough $$ to go around. i got all the standard comments, 'why so far away,' blah blah blah...it got to me at first - now i see more and more brides planning for '06 and '07 i say good for us!! and is it just me, or do the rest of you '06'ers find that these comments come from folks who are not even married? whats up with that?
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Let me tell you that annoying comments from people don't end after the wedding! Here's what I hear ALL the time: 'How's married life' 'Oh, it's great, we're so happy' (which is my response), they then say 'Oh, just wait! ha ha ha...you won't be saying that in a few years! You say that now!' Why would you say that to a happy newlywed? Just because they're miserable, they have to say that? Bitter, bitter annoying people... IGNORE 'em!
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Posted by EvenEdan
I got engaged in 02 and am getting married next month. I heard all the same comments, I learned to ignore them. People are idiots!
ETA: You can always say to the idiots, 'if you'd like to pay for the wedding, I'd be happy to move it up.'
The same thing happened to us. We were engaged in 02 and are getting married next month and people always had comments about the long engagement. We just politely ( and sometimes not so politely ) told them that if they would like to pay for the wedding then we would gladly move up the date
endlessluv429
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o man---you sound like me two years ago. i got the SAME EXACT comments when we got engaged in 02 and planned for 04. and here it is-4 weeks away!!! ignore them & enjoy your planning!! people need to get a clue and mind their own business. how does it effect their lives if you have a long engagement
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I am an 05er, but I know what you mean. My F-step-MIL, keeps saying that I have so much time. Grrrrrrrrrrrr......
I am on a quest for a corset and lost 6 weeks over the summer to the inept sales people in one store, yet I still have no corset. This is fine, because I had 6 months to go at that time. Had I waited until 2-3 months before the wedding and lost that time for a stupid BRA, I'd be screwed. It would affect my fittings, etc.
So, yes, I am getting things done now. People should mind their own business. Shut up if you don't have anything nice to say.
salsbride06
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I get the same thing. We got engaged Feb 2002 and everyone is still asking why aren't you getting married sooner, or wow that is a really long engagement. I cant stand it anymore. I really want to tell them to go fly a kite or something. Or tell them to pay for the wedding and I will gladly move it up when it is more convient for everyone else since it bothers them soopoo much. I honestly think that other people think that I have a money tree growing in my back yard. Well they are so long. There is a reason why the bride an groom pick the date. It is supposed to be something special for them. Not have everyone else in the family or even friends to pick the date or suggest it. I am getting so fustrated just talking about this.....uuurrghhh so I guess you guys aren't the only ones
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I had a 2 year engagemnt and got the same thing. People are rude and inconsiderate! I started to get tired of it and got kind of nasty, i told people if they have 5,000 or more for a band and that was to start maybe they can help me pay for my wedding and move the date up. LOL..... Just ignore them even though it is hard. When I would say this they would shut up and never ask me again. Enjoy your engagment, the planning, the thrill and anticipation, you have all the time in the world to be married , your day will get here, and you will be happythen too. hopefully it is the best time in your life. Engagement to marriage and then onward. CONGRATS to ALL the new brides and 2006ers!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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PS By doing everything early you will save $$$ and be able to relax in the end. Any vendor that was making these comments to me, I walked right out of. I had a photograher tell me he did not know how much $$ film was going to cost in 2 years. !!!!!!!!!!!
Marisa M
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Tell them you're doing it so SHE has enough time to save up for YOUR gift....hehe
My generic answer to every rude question re: ANY decision that we've made re: the wedding 'BECAUSE I WANT TO'
ckgmwedding
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I am an 05 girl but when we got engaged in Feb 04 everyone kept asking why we were waiting so long. (We are over 30 so that didn't help). Now the joke is aren't you married yet??? It is so annoying.
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We got engaged in 4/02. People kept asking us if we set a date. We said it will be sometime in 2005. They couldn't believe we're waiting that long. SOmeone at work even says, she'll see if she'll change her mind. When we finally booked the hall in August, everyone kept saying its about time. Do they think they're getting an invite. If they wanted us to get married sooner, then they should pay for it. What's the hurry. We love each other. We're doing when its good for us and nobody else.
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Posted by Bride22BB
I just respond with you know how organized I am, I need time to plan I am not going to plan a wedding in 4-6months and just settle for anything.
That's exactly what I say. Plus, I'm not really one to care about what people say or think about me, so I just take it with a grain of salt.
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I am now married. I was engaged four years ago and heard it day after day, because we never set a date. Then we decided to get married in september which was at the time six months away. After that we heard ' your not going to have enough time to pull it all together'. We did pull it all together and the day went great. Good luck
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From what I am reading...you guys have it easy.
FH and I have been together for 4 1/2 years and my entire family, who is very much into the idea of marriage before anything else, would constantly bother me about getting married. I really didn't let it get to me until I got engaged. Can you believe their response to my announcement was 'Finally, we almost didn't think it was going to happen.' Wait you'll love this one, my mom's response was 'thank god.'
That bothers even more than if they would complain about the date being too far out.
Maribelle7777
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Geez, it's the end of 2004 - that's normal to have a 2 year engagement I think. Ours was 17 months and I would have not minded if it was longer. Just smile and walk away. Anyone that gives a rude remark like that doens't deserve to get any sort of comment from you!
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Abosolutley! We just bought a house (its being bulit as we speak) so we have to do do both at the same time. My FH and I decided we didnt want to wait longer than March 2006 so we set a date for 3/31/06 and booked the Huntington Townhouse. I get the same reaction. I just ask them are they going to help finanice the whole thing? That usually shuts them up.
