06er's, I really need your help!***Updated at bottom
Original post by thefirstlady
Last night I hit 1000 posts, and got to change my avatar. So FH was asking me what I changed it to, and as you can see, I have Michael Copon, The Hot Power Ranger. Well, he flipped out on me in a jealous rage, and we didn't speak for the entire night. So I wanted all of you girls who have a hot guy (that you'll never get to meet anyway) other than your FH on your avatar to respond to this, so my insanely jealous FH can calm down. You can write something to him if you want on here. I was thinking about the reasons why it's so stupid for him to be mad about this, and here's what I came up with:
1. I'm on a WEDDING website talking to WOMEN all day about planning my own WEDDING and how much I love my FH!!!!
2. I certainly cannot be the only one on this website that has a guy she thinks is cute on her avatar.
3. I'm never going to meet this guy, and if I was going to, I'm ENGAGED, which is like being married already.
Please help girls! Sorry so long! Thank you for listening, I'm going to the gym now!
Well, after 24 hours of almost silence (only neccessary conversation happened) we made up. He was very angry that I had posted the hot boy for all you strangers to see, I guess in his mind it was disrespectful in some way to him. Anyway, I told him to get over it because I'm marrying him, he's the one I love, and all that good stuff. He wants me to change it, but on principle I won't. He doesn't see it ever, and I don't see anything wrong w/ it because of what I said before. I don't care if he had magazines, watched certain channels, or even talked about hot chicks, I'm secure enough in myself not to! So in the end I decided not to show him this post, and add insult to injury, but I thank all of you for your support and funny comments. I was sad and I missed him during those 24 very long hours, but now he's back and I'm happy! Thank you!!!!!!!!
thefirstlady
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Thank you all so much for responding!! Now I just have to get him to read everything. To answer some questions: He's 27, and is bothered by it when I say an actor or anyone besides him is cute. He has a thing for Jessica Biel, which I only get on his case jokingly about, I actually could care less! He's on 2 different chat websites (sports and cars) and I honestly wouldn't care who he posted on there, I'd rather it wasn't me! This whole thing is so stupid, and if you heard what he said to me last night before he stopped talking to me, you would see why. He didn't even state what made him mad about it. Everything you guys said only validates that. I'm engaged, not dead, but I would never put anyone above the man I love. Thanks again girls, and I'll keep you posted if he starts talking to me again!
Goldi1021
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FH would worry if I didnt find other men attractive. I would worry if he didnt find other women attractive. If I close my eyes at night and think I am sleeping with Christopher Meloni then so be it. If he thinks he is sleeping with Pam Anderson then yay for me, I saved money on a boob job!
A fantasy is just that - a FANTASY. I am sure you give him no reason to be concerned that you would ACT upon those fantasies. As Cindy said, I would not invalidate his feelings, but perhaps he has an insecurity that you are not aware of. Be sensitive to him and at the same time, he should know you would never betray his trust.
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Posted by Goldi1021
FH would worry if I didnt find other men attractive. I would worry if he didnt find other women attractive. If I close my eyes at night and think I am sleeping with Christopher Meloni then so be it. If he thinks he is sleeping with Pam Anderson then yay for me, I saved money on a boob job!
A fantasy is just that - a FANTASY. I am sure you give him no reason to be concerned that you would ACT upon those fantasies. As Cindy said, I would not invalidate his feelings, but perhaps he has an insecurity that you are not aware of. Be sensitive to him and at the same time, he should know you would never betray his trust.
Thank you Goldi! The Pam Anderson thing made me laugh! I do worry a little bit about him b/c he told me that the other day he and the guys were watching the game and some hot chick came on. The guys were commenting on her, and they asked him why he didn't and he said something like 'I'm already taken, I don't care' I'm sorry, but taken doesn't mean blind or devoid of any sort of feeling when you see something beautiful!
Sunrise813
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It sounds to me like maybe he’s feeling are hurt cause he is confusing finding someone attractive to wanting to be with them. You have to explain to him that when you see someone attractive whether in real life or on TV, magazine etc, its just that a moments thought, its not like the person you are totally in love with that you think about all day.
Just be careful that he’s insecurity does not get out of control, because then you will have to spend a lifetime reassuring him.
thefirstlady
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bump
MrsD06
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I take it all these jealous guys are not having strippers at their bachelor parties? I find a lot of guys have such a double standard..like they can have crushes on models, actresses, etc. but god forbid if their women do the same.
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Posted by LR5883
I take it all these jealous guys are not having strippers at their bachelor parties? I find a lot of guys have such a double standard..like they can have crushes on models, actresses, etc. but god forbid if their women do the same.
