1st Fitting: Very disappointing (pics removed)

so i went to the fitting....and well i'm not happy. the dress shop assured me they had a bra that i could purchase for my gown. so i went to the fitting with my bridal shoes, as they had my slip & gown. well turns out the bra they gave me does NOT work with my dress. so when i put the dress on, i looked absolutely terrible!

the top part of the gown is all pooched out cause of the bra, and is really big on me. so big, that i really don't know how they are going to pin/alter it enough so that it doesn't stick out when i do get the right type of bra. the back is WAY lower than i thought it was, so i'm a little weirded out about that, cause i'm not a fan of my back and now it's gonna be allll out there. hopefully my veil and hair will cover my back fat!

the gown itself, is beautiful, and the length only needs to be taken up a little...but the sweetheart neckline and sides are too big, and it made me feel so fat. the jury is still out on whether or not my arms looks gigantic in it or not. i just couldn't get a feel for it because of the lack of proper bra.

to make it allll worse, they couldn't do a THING for my fitting, and now my REAL first fitting will be scheduled Jan. 9th!!!!! barely 6 weeks before my wedding!! i'm really upset about my dress and how i'll look in it, i hate having this total insecurity moment, but i just didn't feel gorgeous in it, and i'm hoping that it will get altered correctly in time.



sorry for the long vent. i'm just really sad. i took some pics, but my mom is retarded and can't figure out shiit with a camera. not sure if i should post what i have. i'm almost embarassed to show the pics i feel like a damn cow.


UPDATE:
sorry...deleted all the pics so that any 'lurkers' that might know me won't show the pics off to my FH!

Awe darlin,
I'm sure it's not as bad as you think. I don't know what else to say. I'm sure the dress shop will have it ready and perfect for you in Jan. I'll personally hurt them if they don't!

Oh sweety don't feel like that..I'm sure with the proper adjustments and under thingies you will look fantabulous!

we are always our toughest critics...

i'm sure it is not as bad as you think-- but i understand how you feel. i am very hard on myself too... i'm SURE the salon will think of something or you will be able to do something, anything to make you feel more comfortable!

just have hope and try not to let this get you down honey!!

i'm so sorry!!!

Melissa, in pics that Ive seen of you, you are a very pretty woman.

Im sure you look GORGEOUS in your gown. You just dont see it bc you wanted to already SEE the finished product. Im positive once you go back with the right bra you'll look like a princess.

And if you dont feel happy, bother them until you are

aww.. i'm sorry. I know when something like this happens you can't help but feeeling down. Trust that they will alter it correctly & it will be perfect

Oh no Mel, I'm so sorry! I have to agree w/ Dani that we def. are always our worst critics.....keep in mind that first fittings are always scary b/c the dress isn't perfect yet......it will get there and it will be beautiful....

You know my sister and she had a damn panic attack at her first fitting,remember....' I have buttons on my a**...' (as she proceeded to cry lol) I think it's just natural to feel this way....I know our words might not help & that no one can tell you how you should feel but do keep in the back of you head that IT IS the first fitting & that IT WILL be perfect in the end!!!

I am sorry to hear that it didn't go as well as you had hoped. However, keep your chin up, the dress is too big and that can be fixed I am sure that you will be amazed at what the right bra will do and when the dress fits properly.

AAWWEE!!! You need a hug!! It will all work out!

Dani is right. We are our own worst critics. Take a breather. You'll see things differently in the morning.

I'm here for anything.

I am sorry the shop had the wrong bra-idiots. Give yourself a break. I am sure, once it is fitted properly, you will look beautiful.

I'm sure you will be much happier once you get the perfect undies and things for your gown! As for it being too big the seamstress can fix that without a problem I'm sure! Just try to stay positive and confident! You are a gorgeous lady and are going to look wonderful in your dress

once you get all the proper undergarments, and they do their magic with the alterations, your dress will look stunning on you!!!

Dont feel like that, I am sure that when it is all done and fits you the way its supposed to you will feel beautiful! They will make it work dont worry

Dont worry everything is going to work out just fine...just keep reminding urself that you are going to have the BEST wedding ever! and trust me you are.

The bra makes a HUGE difference, you really will not believe it! Once you have everything altered and fitting properly, I know you will see a difference!

Not to totally pry here but is AF coming to visit? When I am due from a visit from her I feel totally horrible about myself and beat myself up.

Dont do that to yourself, go and get a good bra from a actually lingerie place. Then go back and try it on. I am sure your arms are toally fine but if you are really self concious perhaps you can get a shawl that they can pin on kinda off the shoulders?

I am so sorry it didnt go as you wanted, but I know how you were when you got the dress, it's gorgeous, and so are you, and you are going to look wonderful!