At the wedding I attended last night, the bride and groom were always within arm's reach of each other. I thought that was so nice and that's the way it should be. When I told fh he was almost a bit irked....he told me I'll have to stand next to him while he does shots with his friends! I'm all for both of us having a great time at the wedding with all of our friends but the day is about US getting married. I can understand leaving for a few minutes here and there but I dont want to be across the room from him the whole day!
So, have you discussed if you are going to stick together for the majority of your wedding day? Does it matter to you if your fh goes off with his friends?
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Well I totally understand everything you are saying and would love it for my day. BUT, Ant doesnt dance and I LOVE too. So with that we will be together but, not the whole time. Oh and you know he smokes so he'll be outside alot as well, .
This is exactly how my FH and I are. So I'm sure we'll spend a lot of time together, but not the whole time. Besides, I have the rest of my life to spend with him
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I think we will DEF spend time apart. . both have friends we are much closer to and want to be able to enjoy them but we also will def spend a lot of time together. .have a sweetheart table and will both dance a lot!!!
Ok so leading up to the wedding DH was always telling me to promise him that I wont leave him and I'll stay with him the night at the wedding, however he doesn't dance, and I do so he said 'well ok that is the only time you will leave me right?' I said of course... however the night of the wedding every time I went to dance he went to smoke a cigar or hang out with his friends ... the majority of the night we were together but we mingled separately too...
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I brought this up once and he got irked too. The day of we did spend a ton of time together but I also danci\ed with my freinds and he partied with his a bit. I think a combination is nice. At some points is was so fun just dancing with my girls!
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I think for the most part I will be dancing with the girls and he will be drinking with the guys.. hes not one for dancing while I can't stop as long as there is music on.
I am sure when Im not dancing we will be together talking to our guests and celebrating together. He normally is my little shadow whenever we go out anyway its cute.
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if he can keep up with me then he can be near me but prob not he is going to have to peel me off the dance floor , i am not worrying about it at all we have the rest of lives to be glued to eachothers side
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we were together the entire time.........the only time we were apart was when he left before the ceremony - that was the only time we were apart and i was alone with my parents and the girls for a little bit.....
we took pictures together all day long which was so much fun - then we hung out with the bridal party and our parents during the afternoon while we were waiting for the ceremony to start - after the ceremony we went back to the bridal suite together so we could eat alone - it was sweet to have 20 mins alone right after we were married.... then we went to the CH together and stayed together while we made our way around saying hello...for the reception we stayed together the entire time as well....we already said hello to everyone during CH - we danced the entire reception....we both drink/dance - and that is what we did all night......yea, we danced with our friends and family as well - but we were both always on the dancefloor at the same time in eyesight - i couldnt imagine it any other way.....
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Prior to the wedding, I told DH he has to hang out with me because well- it's our day. Also, he doesn't dance either. I fretted about this until the day of...
On our wedding day, we hung out together for the majority of the night. AND he danced!!!!!!!! I wouldn't have had it any other way. We had the best time!
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It really doesn't matter to us. We have been together for a long time & we will have the rest of our lives together. Our wedding is about us & partying with everyone. We understand there will be some distractions.........it's not a problem with us.
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I HAVENT DISCUSSED THIS BUT NOW I SEE THAT IM GOING TO HAVE TO! actually I dont care if he goes to do shots with the guys but if he was gone for a long time I would be upset, becaues mostly all people there are his family and dad's coworkers ... so i dont want someone coming up to me and Im like who are you? embarassing! lol
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FH has expressed to me that he does want to be next to me the entire night.
Aw Gloria my FH too! He was like 'Baby I can't wait to just follow your beautiful a.ss around all night' it was the freaking cutest thing ever!
Ohhh tooo cute! I figure we will be togther for the most part of the night. We haven't technically discussed it yet... I think I'll text him that q and see what his answer is! Neither of us really dance a whole lot... but when I drink and the music is good I'll dance. SO I'm anticipating dancing for some of it. And no Jack and Coke's for FH... heinenken's only. He gets too wated from the jack's and cokes!
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we have discussed this and we both agreed that this isnt a typical party where FH hangs with friends and I hang with my friends. We are going to stick together and we are even telling our bartender no shots.
I agree
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Its gonna be a combination of both, no matter how you plan it. FH and I were together for the most part, sometimes we got pulled away at the reception by guests and then we'd reconvene once we were able to get away lol. But for the most part we were together. he even danced with me way more than i thought he ever would so that made me really happy too
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i dont think its necessary to spend all of your time together... i mean, we're lucky that we have all the same friends really and everyone knows everyone else... but we're not going to be attached at the hip ya know? im sure it'll be like any other outting we have... we mingle separately at times but will always check back in at points... im sure there will be times where he doesnt want to dance and i do... im sure it will all turn out fine... dont get mad at him... i think us liweds girls tend to overanalyze things and think about more crap that we dont need to think about ya know? just go with the flow...
the only thing i would object to is spending like an hour outside smoking a cigar or something... thats where id draw the line
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FH has expressed to me that he does want to be next to me the entire night.
Aw Gloria my FH too! He was like 'Baby I can't wait to just follow your beautiful a.ss around all night' it was the freaking cutest thing ever!
Ohhh tooo cute! I figure we will be togther for the most part of the night. We haven't technically discussed it yet... I think I'll text him that q and see what his answer is! Neither of us really dance a whole lot... but when I drink and the music is good I'll dance. SO I'm anticipating dancing for some of it. And no Jack and Coke's for FH... heinenken's only. He gets too wated from the jack's and cokes!
He said 'I want to be with you most of the night. I'm gonna want to be with you the whole night so we celebrate togeher. I know we will probaby be seperate for a little bit. you will be with your bridemaids and im sure ill be with my groomsmen somtiems. I think for 90 percent of it we will be together.' I can quote it because it's all through a text.
I think all in all... whatever works best for you is cool. Usually when we go out we seperate at times and aren't always joined at the hip... we make the occasional eye contact then re group at points. But I kinda want to be seperated less during the wedding... just because it's our wedding. I want most of my memories to be with him. But I would also like some private time with my closest friends as well.
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At the wedding I attended last night, the bride and groom were always within arm's reach of each other. I thought that was so nice and that's the way it should be. When I told fh he was almost a bit irked....he told me I'll have to stand next to him while he does shots with his friends! I'm all for both of us having a great time at the wedding with all of our friends but the day is about US getting married. I can understand leaving for a few minutes here and there but I dont want to be across the room from him the whole day!
So, have you discussed if you are going to stick together for the majority of your wedding day? Does it matter to you if your fh goes off with his friends?
my FH sounds exactly like yours!! alltho ive been trying to beat it into his head that obvi i want him to have a good time and dont expect him to be attached to my side the whole night, but this day is about us and not about you and your friends! i think now he says he is going to be at the bar doing shots all night just to get my blood boiling! lol i think the day of they will both realize that have fun yes, but we are what matters the most!!!
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I completely agree. The whole night is a bit excessive. DH & I spent some small time with our friends seperate & the rest of the night we danced talked & laughed together with friends, family etc. Thats how it should be. IMO. Im sure the day of he may feel different about it & just want to share the entire day with you. Talk to him & compromise. Im sure he will get it.
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I would imagine you would be together most of the night if he wants to take a moment to have pics with his friends taking shots fine, but he shoudnt expect to be away from you most of the night.
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i think that it honestly depends on your nature, personally fh and i are pretty social and we have different friends, i believe that he should enjoy his guy friends through out the night and i my friends, i am sure we will share special intimate moments through the night.....it really depends on how you relate with each other as a couple and what works best for you both :) you will have a great time do not worry!!!
