A solution to inconsiderate people.....!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Original post by jill13bean

Mar 23, 2004 12:04 PM

Well.... i was thinking and my FH and i are talking about who brings dates etc.... and his friends always have a girl but not a serious girlfriend (most of them anyway). Since i don't want trash and no shows at my wedding like people have said before and to prevent that response of 1 plus a date possibly.... i think that those that do not have a girlfriend or boyfriend for over like 6 months or even have a girlfriend at the time we send out invitations they won't get so and so plus a date..
there are other important people i rather include than having some random person at my wedding
if it is so important for someone to bring a date then they can ask and he can tell his friends that

how is this
i am not inviting every single person with a date

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Mar 23, 2004 03:24 PM

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Posted by NYCHICK

And adding to rob-luvs-me .How much per person.........

LOL sorry that was what I had meant when I said budget!

tiakisses Posted: Mar 23, 2004 03:25 PM

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we have alot of friends that are single so i think we are just going to invite them alone so they all can mingle...they pretty much no eachother or met eachother at least once anyway ...

june262004 Posted: Mar 23, 2004 03:27 PM

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Its ure wedding do what u want. Everyone that is invited to my wedding is invited with a date. I would hate to have gone to a wedding without a date. Especially if it was someone that I didn't know their family or other friends to well.

LIPrincess00 Posted: Mar 23, 2004 04:37 PM

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Personally, I always had a rule when dating. If I wasnt engaged but I was invited with a guest, I didnt bring them. I refused to bring someone when I knew I would know people there and have a good time. I am not inviting anyone who isnt engaged or living with someone with a guest. I want to cut my list and this was the fairest way.

nferrandi Posted: Mar 23, 2004 04:50 PM

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I've been invited to a few weddings with the option of a date and chose not to bring one because I would know so many people at the wedding and my date would not. I knew that I would have a better time dancing/hanging out with my friends than having to entertain someone else. I have spoken to a group of my single friends about the date situation and they all had no problem not bringing a date because they would have each other. So they may have to sit out of a couple slow dances, but that's not the end of the world. It's a perfect time to hit the bar!

butterfly20 Posted: Mar 23, 2004 05:05 PM

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i think as long as the person your inviting will be sitting with other people they know then its ok to invite them without a guest...

samsbride Posted: Mar 23, 2004 06:24 PM

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If these people know other people at the wedding and are not dating anyone seriously - I think it's fine not to be invited with a guest.

If they only know one or two people at the wedding - I think you have to invite the with a guest. I've gone to lots of wedding alone and only knew the bride and groom. I was miserable.

Smolokoff Posted: Mar 23, 2004 07:29 PM

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well i think ettiquette says you should invite all single adults with a date...............

Bull$#!+!!!!! If you don't have a steady, I am not inviting you!! To hell with etiquette. JMO.

kaangel217 Posted: Mar 23, 2004 07:31 PM

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I noticed that a lot of the guests that we invited with guests ( single people ) are coming to the wedding by themselves without a date. So there is hope!

SteffieSunshine1 Posted: Mar 23, 2004 07:35 PM

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I invited all my adult singles with a guest. I don't know about etiquette...I just though it was the considerate & polite thing to do.

I wouldn't want to go to a wedding alone, without the option to bring a date

BY THE WAY: Does etiquette say anything about inviting strangers from a wedding website to your reception just so you can make the minimum???

The responses are rolling in too slowly...I'm gettin nervous!!! Anyone free Memorial Day weekend!

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Mar 23, 2004 08:17 PM

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i totally agree with what your saying. i invited only my friends that were in commited relationships with dates. i didnt wanmt to have to invire 50 strangers instead of 50 friends or co workers. alot of my friends said they had a better time with the other singles and there friends then with a random date. one of my friends said it was so much less pressure because she didnt feel she had to scramble to find a date. i only think it would be rude if you didnt invite someone that was in a commited relatiosnship i think its perfectly fine if there single to exclude them with a date. my stepbrother did the same thing at his wedding. another friend is also doing it as well

charlotte227 Posted: Mar 23, 2004 08:24 PM

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I agree with you and understand how you feel however we decided to tell all of our single friends not to worry there would be other singles just like them....we have three tables of singles but we made the numbers of male and female equal at these tables so no one will feel left out...actually all of our singles friends are looking to do some serious mingling and hook-up at our wedding!

jill13bean Posted: Mar 23, 2004 09:18 PM

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if i invite 10 people with dates and they bring dates
i have to pay another $1500 for those 10 people i don't know... i don't think so... no way in ****

maybe if i was paying $80 a plate but not even
we are talking another $1500

i had to add that because some people here are saying invite with all singles with dates...i don't know what you are paying pp but not for the $$ i am paying... can't and won't do it
i will use discretion

wenndypoo Posted: Mar 23, 2004 09:28 PM

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Nobody said you had to darlin', don't get so upset!

It's your wedding, do what you want

jill13bean Posted: Mar 23, 2004 09:41 PM

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I just meant that people that are saying that it is so rude not to invite all adults with a date may be paying a lot less $$$$ pp

Imagin916 Posted: Mar 24, 2004 01:52 AM

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I have been invited to weddings without a date and I was not offended. If I know a lot of people there, I look foward to having a good time with my friends! I think if you are inviting someone who doesnt know many people at the wedding, they should be invited with a date, as well as people who are in committed relationships. I am no longer planning a wedding, but because my former hall only held 200, there was no way I could have invited all singles with a guest without cutting out family members..it wasnt even an issue with money.

oakslady Posted: Mar 24, 2004 11:49 PM

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we are only inviting people who are seriously involved with someone - as so and so with guest - otherwise it would blow our budget - they will all have to understand - and that is the bottom line

darly Posted: Mar 25, 2004 08:52 AM

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me too...
i have been to many wedding where i went w/out a date when i was single
it was not big deal - plus, i had fun!

eogara Posted: Mar 25, 2004 09:01 AM

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If I can put someone's name on the envelope as the date, they're invited. But, there will be no 'and guest' for those who are totally single. You wind up with people that even the person who brings them didn't want there, it's just to have someone and I'd much rather expand my list to the people I had to cut than to dates that no one knows.

And I don't think it's fair for people to assume that by not inviting a date, it's a 'they're not going to give me enough $' thing. That's pretty presumptuous since no one is fully aware of anyone else's situation on this board.