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If none of the above work, I would fly them all and **** it up

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I would suggest getting them bus tickets...

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Hmmmm being the wack that I am I would say hell no! let them figure it out on their own. There is no excuse why she can't find a sitter for them.
However, morally I know that is wrong. Family is family and you have to help them in times of need. Unfortunately this affects you financially. I would say give them another option taking the bus, train, or renting her a van for the week?

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Thanks for all you suggestions. Im leaving this one to Fh whatever he decides is fine for me. Im not driving myself crazy with this.


It just irks me sometimes. His mom deserves to be at her sons wedding and we will make sure to get her here. But his sister is anohter story. I have one pet peeve, I dislike bailing people out of wrong decsions that they KEEP making. Its not our responsibility. She chose to have 3 kids with a jackass. Now shes a single mom. Did she really think the situation was going to get better.

I think I harbor a little resentment.

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Wacky - FH's sister got married this past August. I was in the hospital w/ kidney stones 3 days before the wedding which was 6 hours away. We wound up not going (I wasnt going to be in pain for a 5 hour party 6 hours away). She was okay with that. We saw a video and looked at the pics. It was like we were there... moral of the story... A mother is one thing to have attend a wedding but a sister/brother would be great to have them there but not necessary. If you dont want to shell out the $150 plane ticket PLUS for the kids AND the hotel don't you have enough to worry about... there will always be pictures. Shes a grown woman... she shouldnt be relying on you and FH. JMO

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Wacky, I don't mean to be judgemental nor do i know a tonn about your FSIL, but I doubt she herself wanted to be a single mom with 3 kids. Not everyone is able to make the right choices all the time!

However, I do think that she should be able to find childsitters, and then you'd only need to pay for her to fly here and stay... That's the most logical way to do things, b/c as much as FH may want her at the wedding, she should also try to understand your pt. of view with regard to expenses and perhaps meet you half way, somehow.