Re: Am I the ONLY one who WANTS kids at their reception?

We aren't having kids at our wedding. It's mainly because there are no young kids that we are close to (if we both weren't only children and had nieces and nephews, and even younger first cousins, they'd be invited!)

I just think it's ballsy for people to get invitations addressed to just them, without the family, and then just invite the family and not respect the bride and grooms decision.

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Posted by ali120206


I just think it's ballsy for people to get invitations addressed to just them, without the family, and then just invite the family and not respect the bride and grooms decision.

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Me too

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I am neutral about it...I love kids so it would not matter to me if someone wants to bring their child. It's going to be a late night though, so as long as they will be okay with it, I'm okay w/ it.

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I love children BUT...

I have gone to so many weddings where kids run around, get hurt and cry, roll on the floor, break something, run between tables and run into people (why not.. the parents are enjoying themselves and could not care less where their kids are, right?),etc.....

Most of the parents' kids let them run around with no supervision whatsoever and it's up to all the other guests to worry about the kids.

They yell at their kids once per hour like that's going to do something.


I have 2 kids at my reception. The FH and RB. They are both 5. I am getting them activities (coloring books, bubble bottles, etc..). My wedding is a day wedding also.

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Posted by sr081906

I love children BUT...

I have gone to so many weddings where kids run around, get hurt and cry, roll on the floor, break something, run between tables and run into people (why not.. the parents are enjoying themselves and could not care less where their kids are, right?),etc.....

Most of the parents' kids let them run around with no supervision whatsoever and it's up to all the other guests to worry about the kids.

They yell at their kids once per hour like that's going to do something.


I have 2 kids at my reception. The FH and RB. They are both 5. I am getting them activities (coloring books, bubble bottles, etc..). My wedding is a day wedding also.

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I know it can get out of hand. Mostly what Im saying is that everyone can decide what they want to do. Im having kids but most of them will be above the age of 7 and they are well behaved. I am having my ring bearer who will be about 4 as well.

I think its a personal choice AND I respect both sides. I just can see both sides of the issue like when a family member gets insulted when their child is excluded. Its a hard situation.

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I am not having kids at the reception. I will have my two nieces (who will be 2.5 and 3) in the BP at the ceremony, but then they are going home. The CH starts at 5:30 so I figured it was too late to have kids. Also, if I allowed some kids it would be hard to draw the line as to who can bring their kids and who can't. Most of the people I told no kids to were happy that they would have a night off

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Im having kids at the wedding...i would never be able to turn down any of my little cousins they want to come and celebrate just like everyone else.

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We dont have really any kids in out family except for my Niece and Nephews...and they WILL be there.

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I have 3 nephews...1 will be 4 and a half at the time of our wedding and he's our ring bearer so of course he is invited to our wedding. My other 2 nephews will not even be a year old - they are not invited and no one is mad at me - my sisters don't want to bring their babies to my wedding...they want to have a good time and not have to look after their young child.
FH's brother has twin niece and nephew - they were just born - they're not invited either and we're already worried that they want to bring them. I just don't feel a wedding is a place for a young baby.

We are inviting some cousin's kids b/c they are coming in from out of town and have no one to leave their kids with. So we're only having family kids at our wedding. We do have some friends with kids who have told us they don't know who they'll leave their kids with but that's just not our problem. It would be a circus if we let all our friends bring their kids - we love them dearly but our evening wedding is just not a place for them.

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LOVE kids! But we only had my first cousins as kids at our reception since if we invited everyone with kids it would have been about 50 kids total!

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I do want kids at the wedding; unfortunately there are too many in my family and our guestlist is already out of control. So we narrowed it down to all our nieces & nephews (we have 10 total ranging from 2-20 years old) and a handful of younger cousins that we are extremely close with (our extended nieces & nephews we like to call them!). All the other guests will be 18 & older. I know a lot of people in my family are going to complain but there is not much more I can do - my family is WAY TOO BIG!

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Posted by ZuzusPetals

I think its a personal choice AND I respect both sides. I just can see both sides of the issue like when a family member gets insulted when their child is excluded. Its a hard situation.

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I think the problem is the people who get all pi$sed off are usually the ones with the 'out of control' kids. I had to exclude ALL children because my 2 cousins are ANIMALS. The ONLY person who was mad at me for the 'no kids' rule was.... of course... the mother of those 2!! I'm kinda mad because I had to exclude 4 other children that I would have LIKED to have had attend!!

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Posted by N.Y.bride

I think its great if people want to have kids. I only included the children in my bridal party. I just have WAY too many cousins. theres no way I could afford it. Besides Im a parent and an elemetary teacher so it was nice to have a day without them kwim?

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Down time is a good thing Im looking for a permanent teaching position for September. Do you know of any elementary/special ed. positions? haha or HS math for my FI? lol

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If I hear of anything Ill let you know :) My sister teaches HS Math. If you dont get a job try to figure out where someone will be retiring next year and sub sub sub :) Good Luck!

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I am more than happy to have fam. kids there ...

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Posted by sr081906

I love children BUT...

I have gone to so many weddings where kids run around, get hurt and cry, roll on the floor, break something, run between tables and run into people (why not.. the parents are enjoying themselves and could not care less where their kids are, right?),etc.....

Most of the parents' kids let them run around with no supervision whatsoever and it's up to all the other guests to worry about the kids.

They yell at their kids once per hour like that's going to do something.


I have 2 kids at my reception. The FH and RB. They are both 5. I am getting them activities (coloring books, bubble bottles, etc..). My wedding is a day wedding also.

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I know it can get out of hand. Mostly what Im saying is that everyone can decide what they want to do. Im having kids but most of them will be above the age of 7 and they are well behaved. I am having my ring bearer who will be about 4 as well.

I think its a personal choice AND I respect both sides. I just can see both sides of the issue like when a family member gets insulted when their child is excluded. Its a hard situation.

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That's so true. It's a personal choice. I also understand that it's very difficult for OOT guests to not bring their children with them. My little brother was 6 when he went to my cousin's wedding. He was so behaved and so adorable with his little tuxedo.

I guess it's a decision both the bride and groom and the guests have to see how they feel about it. If you want to bring your kids and the kids are not invited, you would have to be OK not to come to the wedding.

My hall is charging 1/2 price for the kids after we hit the minimum. So it's not so bad and I really just have two.

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i dont mind a handful, but when you are talking about 8 month old screaming twins, about 10 kids in the 3-7 range, and 10 more in the 9-12 range, thats way to much for me!

i everyone to have fun and not worry about the kids for a night!

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I want children at my wedding. as a matter of fact ALL my neices and nephews and FH's little brothers are in my wedding.

Our 6 groomsmen are all under 18 except for the best man.

I also invited my cousins children. they are part of the family, and a wedding is about getting our family together-including kids.

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i say kudos to you ladies allowing children at your wedding. if our families weren't so damn big, i would've considered it. but i would wind up with a romper room wedding. our guest list is only about 120 people, and if we let them bring kids (immediate family ONLY ) we'd have about 17-22 children under the age of 10. that would have been just too much!

but it's great if you are having a kid friendly wedding!

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We're inviting them. I'm setting up a special table for them with parchment paper and coloring books so they can keep busy.

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i couldnt imagine having a reception w/o my nephew, so we are having kids