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Am I Wrong? *WITH UPDATE*

Moonmist09 Posted:

Am I Wrong? *WITH UPDATE*

VCanizalez Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

(I read it all =-) It wasnt so long )


NO
NOT AT ALL....
WOW I am in Now...
This should NOT BE HAPPENING!!!!

WOW!

OMG I cant even think now....

THIS IS UR HONEYMOON!
U AND UR HUSBAND!



ETA:

Sorry i cant even write....
I dont understand why!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so mad now...
Can i talk to ur FH??!!!!!!



ETA 2:

I know you always have to compromise in a marriage... BUT NO, I WOUDLNT GIVE IT BC THIS IS UR HONEYMOON NOT A FAMILY VACATION!
I know myself... and i would NOT give in...
Im sorry, this is a honeymoon not a family trip...
DCgirl82 Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

Its a tough situation.. Going to europe to visit family is $$$$ and he probably wants to be able to use the time to see them while you are there HOWEVER... The HM is supposed to be for you 2 to spend time together. If you are only going to be stoppin in these places for a day visiting with family is going to restrict you from doing the stuff you really wanted to do there. Im sorry you are going thru this.. I totally see where u are coming from. If you are going to be in those places for a limited time and hes bent on seeing his fam... tell him your only stopping in to say hi.. like a few hours max so that you still have enough time to do everything you want to! You only get one HM!

Just wanted to add... If that were our HM we wouldnt be stopping to see anyone LoL.. I want to enjoy EVERY minute of it!
Moonmist09 Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

Posted by VCanizalez

(I read it all =-) It wasnt so long )


NO
NOT AT ALL....
WOW I am in Now...
This should NOT BE HAPPENING!!!!

WOW!

OMG I cant even think now....

THIS IS UR HONEYMOON!
U AND UR HUSBAND!



ETA:

Sorry i cant even write....
I dont understand why!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so mad now...
Can i talk to ur FH??!!!!!!



LOL!!!!!!!! now you know why I am so mad! please talk some sense into him because i can't!
VCanizalez Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

Posted by Moonmist09

Posted by VCanizalez

(I read it all =-) It wasnt so long )


NO
NOT AT ALL....
WOW I am in Now...
This should NOT BE HAPPENING!!!!

WOW!

OMG I cant even think now....

THIS IS UR HONEYMOON!
U AND UR HUSBAND!



ETA:

Sorry i cant even write....
I dont understand why!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so mad now...
Can i talk to ur FH??!!!!!!



LOL!!!!!!!! now you know why I am so mad! please talk some sense into him because i can't!


Ill talk to him...
Im sure he will HATE ME after it... but i am so mad...
This even made me mad chica..
WeezyGirl2354 Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

I read it through and not to sound harsh, but I'm going w/ FH on this one and here is why: If I had the chance to take the HM you are, I would but we don't have that kind of $$ or time. It's a 20 city cruise you said correct? Is one day w/ his family going to ruin your whole HM, I would say no.

i get it - its YOUR HM, a time for you and your DH to spend together but if its important to him don't you think you should meet him in the middle too? You are getting 19 other cities just the 2 of you.

If I had the chance to go to Italy and meet all my relatives who I have never even seen or spoken to in my life I would expect my DH to be all about it. Yes, your DH has spoken to them but like you said, when will you have another vaca to do such a thing?

Maybe invite them to do the excursion w/ you in Palermo and kill 2 birds w/ 1 stone.

I think the bigger issue is FH opening his mouth to his family before talking to you first about this - that I agree with you 100%. No decisions should be made about your HM w/ out you being involved.

That's just my 2cents.
sujeire Posted:

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I totally agree with you. It's a honeymoon not a family gathering!!! I would be upset and its nice of you to compromise because knowing me there's no way in hell I would do anything like that.

Moonmist09 Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

Posted by DCgirl82

Its a tough situation.. Going to europe to visit family is $$$$ and he probably wants to be able to use the time to see them while you are there HOWEVER... The HM is supposed to be for you 2 to spend time together. If you are only going to be stoppin in these places for a day visiting with family is going to restrict you from doing the stuff you really wanted to do there. Im sorry you are going thru this.. I totally see where u are coming from. If you are going to be in those places for a limited time and hes bent on seeing his fam... tell him your only stopping in to say hi.. like a few hours max so that you still have enough time to do everything you want to! You only get one HM!


.
ItalianBella1122 Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

First of all,

YOU are right. This is the one time in your life to have a romantic only-about-you-two trip. Do not get family involved. Tell FH that maybe in a few years you can plan a trip back to Sicily (maybe when the kids are old enough to travel so they can meet family on the other side).

If you have to compromise, you could just have a meal with them or something I suppose, but I'd define the time line...we can only meet up with them from noon to 2pm and that's it...

I completely understand though. I'd be worried it would turn into a family trip, too.

Edit after reading your reply to DCgirl82:

Can they meet up with YOU maybe? Like invite them to the ship or something? Or if you are going on an excursion in Palermo, maybe they can meet you at the tail end of the day before you get back on the ship?
adelz Posted:

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What if you go there for a dinner? That way, you still have the whole day to spend out with him and do things, but still get to make him happy and visit the family. I totally get your point about making it all just you guys alone, but since you have a pretty long honeymoon, if you do just a few hours it will make him happy and remove any tension. Hope that helps!

ColliMac23 Posted:

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I am so sorry to hear! I would say if you want to visit them we can go back another time. I would understand if they were close but it's your Honeymoon!

cc2011 Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

Antonella, you are NOT WRONG at all!!!! This is the EXACT reason I refuse to go to Italy on my honeymoon. A honeymoon is not meant to spend with your family...it's YOU and FH only!!!

It's one thing if you guys were just vacationing in Italy...fine....but NOT on your honeymoon. I'm very passionate about this because FH brought it up last year and I blantantly stated...HELL NO! You won't have any privacy whatsoever! It's not fair to you at all!
Do you think that he feels forced to go to visit because his relatives know he's going to Italy for his honeymoon? When my sister went to Italy w/ her friends all she told relatives was that she was going to be in town for one or two days and then went off to do her own thing as she originally had planned with her friends.

Is FH open to the idea of visiting his relatives in Italy the following year maybe instead of using your HM?

Let me tell you...I COMPLETELY KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH!!! Just because you don't want to visit his relatives on your honeymoon does NOT mean you are not family-oriented!!!

I can't even begin to tell you some of the b.s. I've had to nip in the bud already regarding some things!!!!

I'm here if you need to talk...
PazzaRagazza Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

we are taking a 2 week trip to italy in 2012 to satisfy our family members who cant make it to the wedding from Northern italy alllll the way to Sicily.... why not plan a trip for the following year and just enjoy your honeymoon this year!!!

ETA:

Where if your FH from?
Moonmist09 Posted:

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Posted by WeezyGirl2354

I read it through and not to sound harsh, but I'm going w/ FH on this one and here is why: If I had the chance to take the HM you are, I would but we don't have that kind of $$ or time. It's a 20 city cruise you said correct? Is one day w/ his family going to ruin your whole HM, I would say no.

i get it - its YOUR HM, a time for you and your DH to spend together but if its important to him don't you think you should meet him in the middle too? You are getting 19 other cities just the 2 of you.

If I had the chance to go to Italy and meet all my relatives who I have never even seen or spoken to in my life I would expect my DH to be all about it. Yes, your DH has spoken to them but like you said, when will you have another vaca to do such a thing?

Maybe invite them to do the excursion w/ you in Palermo and kill 2 birds w/ 1 stone.

I think the bigger issue is FH opening his mouth to his family before talking to you first about this - that I agree with you 100%. No decisions should be made about your HM w/ out you being involved.

That's just my 2cents.


Moonmist09 Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

Posted by ItalianBella1122

First of all,

YOU are right. This is the one time in your life to have a romantic only-about-you-two trip. Do not get family involved. Tell FH that maybe in a few years you can plan a trip back to Sicily (maybe when the kids are old enough to travel so they can meet family on the other side).

If you have to compromise, you could just have a meal with them or something I suppose, but I'd define the time line...we can only meet up with them from noon to 2pm and that's it...

I completely understand though. I'd be worried it would turn into a family trip, too.


WeezyGirl2354 Posted:

Re: Am I Wrong?

Posted by Moonmist09

Posted by WeezyGirl2354

I read it through and not to sound harsh, but I'm going w/ FH on this one and here is why: If I had the chance to take the HM you are, I would but we don't have that kind of $$ or time. It's a 20 city cruise you said correct? Is one day w/ his family going to ruin your whole HM, I would say no.

i get it - its YOUR HM, a time for you and your DH to spend together but if its important to him don't you think you should meet him in the middle too? You are getting 19 other cities just the 2 of you.

If I had the chance to go to Italy and meet all my relatives who I have never even seen or spoken to in my life I would expect my DH to be all about it. Yes, your DH has spoken to them but like you said, when will you have another vaca to do such a thing?

Maybe invite them to do the excursion w/ you in Palermo and kill 2 birds w/ 1 stone.

I think the bigger issue is FH opening his mouth to his family before talking to you first about this - that I agree with you 100%. No decisions should be made about your HM w/ out you being involved.

That's just my 2cents.


It sounds like he is sayin he wants to see them more b/c he already told his family yes and they are pressuring him to do so than more because he wants to.


This is what I feel your biggest problem is - I get you are upset with the idea of seeing his family but that aside, i think your real issue w/ all of this is what you just said - he isnt putting his foot down for the 2 of you and is just giving in (ive had that experience w/ my FH before). I think you guys need to have a bigger discussion about this issue - not just the family in Italy.
Thats-What-She-Said Posted:

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I'm going with FH on this one. You have an amazing opportunity to spend time with his family in their native village. This is probably a once in a lifetime thing. Imagine showing your children video/photos of Aunt Blah Blah's in Italy.

FH might never get to see these people again. It is 7 hours out of a 20 day honeymoon. Give in.
Moonmist09 Posted:

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Posted by ItalianBella1122

First of all,

YOU are right. This is the one time in your life to have a romantic only-about-you-two trip. Do not get family involved. Tell FH that maybe in a few years you can plan a trip back to Sicily (maybe when the kids are old enough to travel so they can meet family on the other side).

If you have to compromise, you could just have a meal with them or something I suppose, but I'd define the time line...we can only meet up with them from noon to 2pm and that's it...

I completely understand though. I'd be worried it would turn into a family trip, too.

Edit after reading your reply to DCgirl82:

Can they meet up with YOU maybe? Like invite them to the ship or something? Or if you are going on an excursion in Palermo, maybe they can meet you at the tail end of the day before you get back on the ship?


VCanizalez Posted:

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He has absolutely NO RELATIONSHIP with this people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He talks to them Every NOW and THEN!
He doesnt talk to them on a REGULAR BASIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!






Moonmist09 Posted:

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Posted by PazzaRagazza

we are taking a 2 week trip to italy in 2012 to satisfy our family members who cant make it to the wedding from Northern italy alllll the way to Sicily.... why not plan a trip for the following year and just enjoy your honeymoon this year!!!

ETA:

Where if your FH from?


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