An explanation....I'm sorry, very long.

Not that I feel the other post about being a bridezilla was directed towards me...but I do feel that I need to explain a little of the background as to why I'm hurt that some of my BMs can't attend my shower and bachelorette party. Some of you who FMed me heard a little of this

I don't have any sisters or female cousins that I could have in my BP, and over the years I've had incredible bad luck when meeting girls and becoming friends with them. On numerous occasions I've spent a lot of time and effort becoming friends with girls that end up being no good and hurt me deeply. So, I don't have many close girl friends, and I always felt that I was scrounging to have people in my BP. I feel like my BP are my good friends, but that maybe I consider them better friends to me than they consider me, because they have other close friends. So with all the bridal party activities, I feel very alone. My FH has 4 guy friends the has known since grammar school, and they would do anything for him. I don't feel that any of my friends feel the same way for me. It's a lonely feeling.

That being said, I have tried SO hard not to be demanding of my bridal party. I am paying for their hair to be done any way they want. I didn't even ask for a shower. My mother and FMIL are paying for one for me since I could never ask my BMs to throw me one. So they are all attending the shower as guests. I felt bad that the OOT BMs have to travel to Boston, so I gave one BM my frequent flier miles so she could fly free. I am even having my BMs stay at my parents' house with me during the shower weekend because I don't want them to pay for a hotel. I'm really not expecting so much from them, just to be there for me. Not even financially, but in their spirit.

I know some people said they would NEVER disclose so much information to strangers, but I do feel somewhat close to you girls. I may never get shout outs from the other brides, but when I need someone to listen, you are there for me. I thank the girls that sent FM to me. It was nice to have someone listen when I needed it. I just wanted to explain that I really am trying to go out of my way to be accomodating to all my BMs, and I feel like I'm not getting the same consideration in return. Sorry for going so long.

Aww Beth, I'm so sorry!! I know how you feel too, my MOH is really the only friend I've got. I'm closer with you brides on LIW than any other girls, so I know the lonely feeling; but don't think you're alone.

We are here if you need us!!!! You are definitely not alone!!!!

Oh, Beth - you are so not a Bridezilla. You are very sweet and I really enjoyed meeting you at wedding of the year. I hope you are surrounded by love at your shower and BP- even if all of the girls aren't there.

Yes, you aren't a Bridezilla, you're just disappointed, which is totally understandable in that situation!!!

I wouldnt say you being upset about your BM not extending themselves makes you anything close to Bridezilla. You have every right to be upset and I hope everything works out GREAT for you in the end. We are all here for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh Beth...I can relate! I hjave my 3 sisters and 2 friends in my bridal party and so far I have done everything myself. I feel so close to you girls as well. Cheer up!

Beth, your not a bridezilla. I too don't have alot of close female friends, My BP consists of my 2 sisters, 2 close friends, and 2 of my cousins. Don't feel bad for venting on LIW.

Awww Beth You are definitely not a Bridezilla - you are like the opposite, you have been so accomodating and flexible with your BMs.

You know my feelings on this topic already so I will continue to give you support and remind you that you do have us LIW girls and you can vent, cry, scream, share great moment and bad ones with us and we will either lend an ear and give hugs or give advice if asked

I don't know you, but it sounds like your a very nice person and your bridesmaids are lucky to have you in their life Kindness is the best weapon!

Good Luck with everything!

You are far from a bridezilla. Although I've never met you in person, I can tell through your posts that you are a warm and sweet person who would do anything and everything for someone. I totally understand how you feel and am here if you need me!

I want to thank everyone for responding. I really just wanted to get that off my chest, as well as explain my other posts about BMs not attending pre-wedding events. I'm not really angry, but I'm hurt. It feels good to have other brides here who know what I'm going through. Thank you again, everyone.

Oh beth I am soooo sorry to hear this!!!!!!! You ar elike the sweetest girl I have ever met and I find it really ahrd that these girls wouldn't go out of there way for you! I mean, whi takes pictures of a complete stranger and emails them to her!!

I am here for you!!

OMG....your a great friend .......anyone would be lucky to have a friend like you.....i cant believe all you are doing for your BMs that is so generous ........you have such a big heart........im so sorry yur feeling like this ......remember this wedding is about u and your Fh ...thats who u will spend your life with

I didn't respond to the other post but this is what I would have responded....

'YOU POSTED THIS ON A WEDDING WEBSITE.'

Just by the nature of us being on this website, we are all VERY interested in our weddings. We are/were all worried/anxious/disappointed/excited/happy/nervous etc. etc. etc. about our WEDDINGS...hence, the LIWEDDINGS.COM

Think about how many brides DON'T go on this website...that's cause they don't need an outlet (or maybe they don't know about how cool this is).

I don't know whether that post was directed at you or anyone in particular, but in my lowly opinion, it was shortsided. This is a community and a place where people talk over what is bothering them. I applaud anyone who can communicate their issues and find resolution on this website. The only time I get nervous for the brides is when you are talking ill of your FMIL because you wouldn't necesarrily want your FH to read something like that (unless he agrees!)

Girl, keep posting your posts. Your FRIENDS on this site care a lot about you.

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I didn't respond to the other post but this is what I would have responded....

'YOU POSTED THIS ON A WEDDING WEBSITE.'

Just by the nature of us being on this website, we are all VERY interested in our weddings. We are/were all worried/anxious/disappointed/excited/happy/nervous etc. etc. etc. about our WEDDINGS...hence, the LIWEDDINGS.COM

Think about how many brides DON'T go on this website...that's cause they don't need an outlet (or maybe they don't know about how cool this is).

I don't know whether that post was directed at you or anyone in particular, but in my lowly opinion, it was shortsided. This is a community and a place where people talk over what is bothering them. I applaud anyone who can communicate their issues and find resolution on this website. The only time I get nervous for the brides is when you are talking ill of your FMIL because you wouldn't necesarrily want your FH to read something like that (unless he agrees!)

Girl, keep posting your posts. Your FRIENDS on this site care a lot about you.

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heyyyyy :)

i am in a pretty much similar situation as you are... i only have 3 BMs and out of the three the only one i am close to lives in cali... so basically i have done everything on my own, even planning my own shower. i have been bummed out a lot, but i think i am finally getting over it and learning to accept my friend situation and move on to focusing on MY wedding with my fh...

i love this site and i like the fact that everyone is sooo involved in their weddings because i learn alot of things about wedding planning that i would never know otherwise.
Thanx girls