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Not everyone is like this, but It's A LOT of people. The competitiveness of who has what annoys me. If you have something better then someone else, they have something nasty to say. If you don't, they still have something to say. I see like 11 year olds with coach and LV bags, top of the line cell phones, with tons of makeup on. Drives me nuts.
Posted by Greeneyes8705
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I don't think that the 'LI Life' is necessarily shallow and plastic....of course there are many people on LI that represent that, but on the other hand there are many people that just want to live healthy, fulfilling, successful lives.
Thank you! I cant understand how so many people are saying that LI is filled with 'plastic' people who are shallow... OF COURSE they are out there, BUT I completely disagree that it is the Long Island Lifestyle...
Most of the people in my neighborhood are shallow. And almost every area on LI that I've seen is that way too. Its keeping up with the Joneses here. It is SO different in other states. I can't wait to leave LI. Apart from the rising cost of housing, everything here is just getting ridiculous.
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Posted by jes81276
I don't think that the 'LI Life' is necessarily shallow and plastic....of course there are many people on LI that represent that, but on the other hand there are many people that just want to live healthy, fulfilling, successful lives.
Thank you! I cant understand how so many people are saying that LI is filled with 'plastic' people who are shallow... OF COURSE they are out there, BUT I completely disagree that it is the Long Island Lifestyle...
Most of the people in my neighborhood are shallow. And almost every area on LI that I've seen is that way too. Its keeping up with the Joneses here. It is SO different in other states. I can't wait to leave LI. Apart from the rising cost of housing, everything here is just getting ridiculous.
I left Long Island...same thing where I am...a mix of people, some just happen to be more inclined to be one up on everyone else, my point is that it is not a LI thing... Ever been to Florida- same thing, CT- same thing-California- same thing... I can go on but I wont. I simply think that the generalization of who and what Long Island is comprised of is incorrect...and I do not think it is an 'American Dream' My thinking has always been that the American Dream is for a good life...job, kids, health,house.,happy marriage... (IF THAT is what your dream is-but everyone has a different dream)
Posted by JennandPhil827
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I agree with you!!! I am not 'from' LI and they all disgust me---to an extent. I remember when birthday parties were water balloons, cake, ice cream, opening underwear from mom (grr), sleepovers and something you didn't really do until you were 8....my 4 year old has gone to 5 parties that were basically at kiddie catering halls...I mean, what else can you call them? It's ridiculous and now we will have to give her one because she enjoys them and now wants one for her birthday! A friend of mine takes her 5 year old a fresh, warm bagel every Wednesday for lunch! My daughter will have to make due with PB&J...that's just stupid. I will not drive a mini-van no matter what...SUV only because there are so many already on the road that in my tiny car, I can't see *** is going on. Of course, most young adults are moving away because thanks to the middle-aged parents we all have, none of us can afford to live here anymore! Where I grew up, $1800 rent got you a 5BR house or a 3-4BR apt. with a garage and gated security and probably included a few utilities! Insanity.
I'm not really a complainer, but this struck a cord with me! Glad someone else hates the 'li lifestyle' too!
It is really wrong to generalize everyone like this. All the people I know aren't this way and are hard workers making a life for their families and I dont think it is fair to the many people who care about morals and values and raising a healthy, caring family here on LI like my granparents and parents did.
Posted by STBMrsDaniRella
Even though I was offended by what you wrote I am trying to see through that and help you with words of advice, not that I'm an expert, but...
I really feel very bad for you that you have such a negative outlook on life and people in general.
It's unfair to generalize the idea of the 'American Dream' because everyone's dream is different and unique to who they are.
I know people who's dreams are to live in the city in an apartment their whole life and never get married. Or people that want to donate every penny they have to charity. I also know people who just want to travel around the world forever, then I know people who want the picket fence, kids, and two dogs. Of course I know some who have a passion for jewelry so they work hard for their money and decide to spend it on diamonds.
The point is, do whatever makes you happy and don't frown upon others unfairly because it happens to differ from what you want in life... it's just going to hurt other people's feelings and is not going to help you in your life and the pursuit of your dreams.
Of course be disappointed in people who intentionally hurt others (you can't be happy all the time in this world) but if they want to get their nose fixed because others have poked fun at it their entire lives--then that's their dream. If they want to have a normal size chest because they are as flat as a board and can't get out of training bras as an adult woman--then that's their dream. (Unfortunately, I can relate to that!! LOL)
Your dream should be do what makes YOU happy and not to worry about what others are doing because ultimately that doesn't matter in your life. You need to be happy with yourself first in order to really view the world in a positive light.
I really hope you find that.
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..And I thought I was the only one.. You have me cracking up over here!! FH wont let me ge them for the same reason so I am in the same boat as you.. Thank god for the 'Miracle Bra'
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I guess Big boobs thats my new American Dream
Before I met my FH my American Dream was to NOT have to give each guy I dated 'the disclaimer' (as I lovingly refer to it) before they saw 'them' for the first time. EXAMPLE...
'Oh, Jeff, umm before you, umm well--do that I just want to let you know that you might be let down a little because umm, I wear a padded bra so what you see with my shirt on.. umm, isn't exactly what you see with it and the bra off. I'm so sorry!' *If I don't do that then I get that let down look on their face when it comes off!!!*
Thank GOD I don't have to ever worry about that again b/c it's just FH and he's already had the disclaimer which he thought was SO funny!
Hey, I call a spade a spade!!![]()
Oh - yes, the disclaimer, well, after breast-reduction surgery - esp from 10 years ago - you are left with some significant scars, so I know that disclaimer all too well!!!
my FH actually knew when he felt them for the 1st timeas he was with 2 other GF in his life who had it too - whats THAT about???
Posted by VeeandRich
Not everyone is like this, but It's A LOT of people. The competitiveness of who has what annoys me. If you have something better then someone else, they have something nasty to say. If you don't, they still have something to say. I see like 11 year olds with coach and LV bags, top of the line cell phones, with tons of makeup on. Drives me nuts.
Posted by NinaChris07
I just had to put my two cents in here.
I have lived in Long Island all my life, and this is definitely NOT the impression I get from the vast majority of the people living here.
Maybe there are certain parts that are very wealthy and are like this stereotype you speak of, but for the most part, I would say thats a VERY small amount of communities (maybe 5-10%) compared to the average middle class neighborhood in Long Island.
I see mostly hardworking mothers AND fathers, trying to educate and raise their children in good communities....
Posted by JennandPhil827
Posted by NinaChris07
I just had to put my two cents in here.
I have lived in Long Island all my life, and this is definitely NOT the impression I get from the vast majority of the people living here.
Maybe there are certain parts that are very wealthy and are like this stereotype you speak of, but for the most part, I would say thats a VERY small amount of communities (maybe 5-10%) compared to the average middle class neighborhood in Long Island.
I see mostly hardworking mothers AND fathers, trying to educate and raise their children in good communities....
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Posted by greta
it depends on what you consider 'the american dream.' i think the american dream is more about the opportunities this country provides and the chance to go as far as your goals, dreams and abilities take you.
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middle aged women with these plastic bodies and fake boobs and diamonds everywhere and rhinestone jeans....
just sounds like a bunch of disturbed people who belong on dr. 90210![]()
Posted by SomethingBlu
Posted by greta
it depends on what you consider 'the american dream.' i think the american dream is more about the opportunities this country provides and the chance to go as far as your goals, dreams and abilities take you.
this:
middle aged women with these plastic bodies and fake boobs and diamonds everywhere and rhinestone jeans....
just sounds like a bunch of disturbed people who belong on dr. 90210![]()
Wow greta, I came on here to write pretty much this...so thank you for posting exactly what I meant to say!![]()
Yes, I want the 'American Dream', as I came here for this very reason. The house, the white picket fence, the kids, the dog, the cat, the loving husband, the career...I want it all.And thank God I'm moving closer to it. But to me that dream can be achieved anywhere, definitely not just on LI. And it's not a physical thing to me or a status thing. It's a simple, family thing...it's working to enjoy your life, not living to work. Because of this the dream will be happening outside of NY for my husband and me.
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is there a reason why you were with all of these people that you seem to have nothing in common with? maybe if you surround yourself with more down to earth people, you won't be so down on Long Island because although such people are stereotypical of 'LI', you shouldn't want to leave because of them. There are materialistic and superficial all over the nation. You need to seek out people who are more like you.
Posted by amyg1033
is there a reason why you were with all of these people that you seem to have nothing in common with? maybe if you surround yourself with more down to earth people, you won't be so down on Long Island because although such people are stereotypical of 'LI', you shouldn't want to leave because of them. There are materialistic and superficial all over the nation. You need to seek out people who are more like you.
Posted by Preshy7
thats why i moved to CT...its not as bad here..its bad but not AS bad..
I think we an easily say that LI is not your typical place....
too much neuvo rich people...flaunting thier money ... old ladies wearing juicy couture sweat pants...getting their hair blown out every day...having their 10 nannies care for their kids whle they are out getting their nails done banging their personal trainer while their businessman husband is working 12 hours a day and probably banging his secretary...
its disgusting, really. and no i dont want to be like that at all...
sorry to rant! but its makes me so mad the way people measure success these days
Posted by amyg1033
is there a reason why you were with all of these people that you seem to have nothing in common with? maybe if you surround yourself with more down to earth people, you won't be so down on Long Island because although such people are stereotypical of 'LI', you shouldn't want to leave because of them. There are materialistic and superficial all over the nation. You need to seek out people who are more like you.
Posted by JennandPhil827
Posted by amyg1033
is there a reason why you were with all of these people that you seem to have nothing in common with? maybe if you surround yourself with more down to earth people, you won't be so down on Long Island because although such people are stereotypical of 'LI', you shouldn't want to leave because of them. There are materialistic and superficial all over the nation. You need to seek out people who are more like you.
Well said!
