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Are your fiance's parents paying for anything?

Original post by sarahradio5

Just curious... my parents are footing about 80% of the wedding costs, we're doing about 20% and my fiance's mom is doing the rehearsal dinner...

I know there are different versions of who should pay what depending on what 'tradition' you go by... how is everyone here doing it? I would like to ask his mom to help with limos or videographer or something to help lessen the blow for us. It's so awkward and stressful!
aliwnec10 Posted:

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I have great In-laws to be!!! Since i don't have a relationship with my father and my mother has no money (long story)... my FMIL & FFIL gave us $15,000 and my FH's aunt gave us $5000. The rest we are paying for.

Oh and did i mention that they gave us their marriott reward points for our hawaii honeymoon for 2 WEEKS!!
krispyc Posted:

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They're only paying for the limos. They haven't said anything about the rehearsal dinner yet but I really hope they offer because it'll just be too much for us.

My fiance and I are paying for the hall, videographer and the honeymoon. I'm paying for my hair and makeup. My mom/parents are paying for the invites, favors, part of the BPs gifts, my dress/veil/tiara, the DJ and the photographer.
LaurenluvsTJ Posted:

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They gave us some $$ which will pay for one vendor. They are also paying for the RD. My parents are paying for the reception, invitations, my dress. FH and I are paying for everything else.

hsacks23r Posted:

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NO
my parents are giving us some $$$$
they just gave a little becasue we asked
and they siad they will be givig us more
but his parents ..He doesn't think they will be giving anything
greekchic Posted:

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This was the most uncomfortable conversation for me and my fiance. But I just needed a clear answer. My mom took us to brunch & gave us a $$$. They told him they would match it-post argument-but who knows. It should be 50-50 or whatever you can addord. But its left a bad taste in my mouth which I am trying to get over.

spring06bride Posted:

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Me, FH, my parents and his are all splitting it down the middle.

lilqtny Posted:

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My parents can't afford to help us really either so we are doing it all on our own. His didn't give us a gift, a card, we actually didn't really even get a congrats, so $$$ ..... I wouldn't even dare to bring it up. With them, if they give me five dollars they will expect to make all the decisions so I think I am better off that they gave us nothing. He isn't surprised it matches the NOTHING they did for him growing up (emotionally, financially or otherwise). I didn't expect them to do for 'us' when they don't do for him. That is why I spoil him to death.

jellybean1420 Posted:

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FH's mother is paying for our photography & videographer as well as the rehearsal dinner. She gave us money and we decided to put it towards those two things.

laural2979 Posted:

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FIL's said to FH that they may be able to contribute. FH is afraid to ask them what they mean by that and they haven't brought it up again. So far me and my mother are the only one's who have put down any money.

Beth1210 Posted:

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they didn't offer- the even told my Hubby - my Dad has more money then they do!

( he does- but he has 3 kids to their 1, and is retired- they also said that right after my Mom died- so who are they to judge my Dad's finaces!) plus he put us all thru college-

so they paid for the RD- and gave a decent gift- my dad wasn't happy with it- it was less then 10% what he paid for the wedding

the best advice I can give anyone in the same situation is- LET IT GO- you don't want to start off the marriage being angry or bitter

klingklang77 Posted:

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his parents did the engagement party, and are giving us a set amount of which the rehearsal dinner comes out of.

Malone130 Posted:

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Part of the honeymoon and rehersal dinner

SPITSBRIDE Posted:

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My in laws paid for our rehearsal dinner.

shelby34 Posted:

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wow..i am surprised to many of your future in laws are paying for so much! My parents are paying for a lot of it and we are picking up the rest. My fiance's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner...and so far that's it. Gotta love tradition.....

Bobbysgirl Posted:

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Mine are great!!!

They are paying for limos, flowers, and rehearsal dinner!!!
ellebelle1 Posted:

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My FH's parents are paying for the band and half of the reception bill. It works out quite well for my family.
LaLa Posted:

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so far they haven't offered to pay for ANYTHING.
I hope this will change in the very near future.

update:

They have offered to pay for the rehersal dinner.
EJSD2006 Posted:

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Posted by kam29

Although they told us they were paying for the traditional grooms stuff they are only paying for the rehearsal dinner.


ditto for us too! FH and I have paid for all vendors, monthly payments to the hall, accessories, favors, etc. My parents are paying the final payment on the hall and FH's parents are hosting the rehearsal dinner. It'll probably be at their house considering they live a block away from our Church so they really get away with paying for virtually nothing. Gotta love them!
Beach-e-bride Posted:

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They are paying for the band, the flowers, most of the honeymoon, the videographer and their guests above the number my parents are giving them... I guess i'm very lucky
mskittynj Posted:

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My dad is paying for 1/3 of the catering hall and we're paying for the rest! His paren'ts are not giving us a dime from the look of it...
XOXOXO
Kitty

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