bachelor parties

Ser29 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:23 PM

bachelor parties

ok... so any of you being told that you aren't allowed to know what your future spouse is doing... its a surprise i know that but its eating me alive
best man said to trust him and its nothing R rated but im soooooo upset over not knowing that i cant take it its gonna wind up ruining my own night out which i made sure is the same night so that i can get drunk and not think about it ..
its funny the min he proposed i thought to myself **** he has to have a bachelor party and now i'm three nights away and its eating me alive i hate these things .. i do have an awesome best man that i do trust i'm just scared

tricia3381 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:26 PM

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don't worry sweetie, everything will be ok. i'm sure best man will make sure fh has an awesome time , but not too awesome u go out and enjoy ur night with girls!! have a shot for me.

babygirl71777 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:44 PM

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you sound just like me!! me and him are having it the same night so i can go out drinking and not think of what hes doing. i kinda know what he is doing but its killing me because my FBIL wont give me all the details AND he is the best man so im freaken out. his friends love strippers and hes not all for it and told them he doesnt want them and he promised me no strippers but i know thats going to fly right out of the window lol im trying not to stress and you do the same! we need to enjoy our last night out!!

jboota22 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:46 PM

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doesn't it suck to have to worry about that! You just have to have faith. ....and get drunk and have a good time yourself!!!!!!!!!

Ser29 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 10:56 PM

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well i think i'm just gonna get piss *** drunk so i dont have to think about it

Christys0925 Posted: Mar 27, 2007 11:11 PM

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That is one of the first things I thought of when he proposed also. I completely trust , but it makes me nervous. He said he doesn't even know if he wants one though. God I hope not,

PegaLega Posted: Mar 28, 2007 01:45 AM

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Dont worry about it. If the best man is telling you to trust him-I would. I know FHs BM and I think he has that lil twinkle in his eye when it comes to crazy stuff...but Ive told him what is ok and what is not...and I know no matter what he wont cross that line

Go and have a good time

LisanAshMay07 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 06:21 AM

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I'm having the same problem! The Best Man is in his brother-in-law, and not only do I have him keeping me in the dark but his sister too!

LyseeH Posted: Mar 28, 2007 07:06 AM

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My DH ended up going to dinner then a strip club, when I asked if he got lots of lap dances he said he honestly just talked about me the whole time!

Don't know how true it is but I'd like to keep in my mind it is!

TLC1018 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 07:31 AM

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my fh just had his bachelor party this past wekend, they had two strippers...but I trust him more than anything!!

jjk1007 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 07:34 AM

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My FH and I discussed our parties. But I think thats more because of the scale of ours. Im going to New York for mine cause thats where all my family and friends are. (I live in Milwaukee) And hes going to Vegas. So its not really like were just going out for one crazy night on the town ya know?

I wouldnt worry yourself about it. Hes marrying you and im sure he would not do anything that would jeopardize that. Just get piss drunk at yours and pass out at home and then the next morning it will all be over!

Ser29 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 07:39 AM

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thanks for the support girls... i do trust him and our bm i just dont like the thought of not knowing... i'm sure i'll find out though eventually hopefully before the fact so as to calm my nerves

SoulMates422 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 08:06 AM

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I would not worry too much. You have to have faith in the man you decided to marry. Worrying is not going to cause you to do anything other than make things up in your head. If it bothers you that much then maybe your should express your worries to him and he can set your nerves to rest

ido07 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 08:46 AM

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I agree not to worry about it so much..I mean you are marrying him so you must trust him. It sounds like you have a great best man, and I am sure everything will be okay.

Have a few drinks to take the edge off...but watch out for drunk dialing!! I know when I get completely wasted that psycho part of my brain turns on and I imagine all kinds of horrific scenarios! So make sure one your BM's takes your phone, and don't let drunkeness ruin yours (or his) night!

Enjoy YOUR night!!

werock0709 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 08:54 AM

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You wanna hear when my FH husband is having his? Right after our rehersal dinner. Reason being is because a few of his GM live outta town, and thats when they'll be here. Their going to see Spiderman 3, and then going for a few cocktails. We actually just had this conversation yesterday. He's not into cheesy strip joints, and he certainly doesn't want to have a hangover the day before our wedding.( Our rehersal dinner is May 4th, we're getting married on the 6th ). I trust fully in him, and his boys. Everything will be ok.

TNT Posted: Mar 28, 2007 09:22 AM

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You just have to talk to you FH and let him know your true feelins on it. Fh and I have spoken about this severall times, we both agree no strip clubs. If either one of us had the erge to go then we would go together. (hell, thats better then FH going with a group of guys, thats chessy) We both decided one night parties, 8/25/07 me and my girls going to Hamptons, FH going to NYC. One night bachlor/bachorlette party thats enough for us.
Whatever you ladies do ENJOY!!!!!!!!!

Fall Bride 2008 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 09:23 AM

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I wouldnt worry but thats kinda not cool.

hmv12 Posted: Mar 28, 2007 09:25 AM

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I think it is totally human nature to have some jealousy in our bodies, however, he is marrying you because he loves you, and the more faith and trust you have the better you will feel. He is going to be doing the same stuff as you....going out with friends and getting drunk....The best part is you get to have him forever!!!!

TNT Posted: Mar 28, 2007 09:26 AM

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hmv12 i agree, its one night and then you two forever.

TNT Posted: Mar 28, 2007 09:29 AM

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This may sound cheesy, but FH and I have decided after our seperate parties, we are renting a limo, getting dressed up, going to dinner and going bar hoping. Its our together bachlor/bachorlette parties. I am more excitied about that then going with friends to be honest.