Bachelor Party/ Am I crazy??

Original post by anjelagain

Mar 01, 2011 09:18 AM

My FH wants to do a weekend getaway thing.. his friends are all single, insane. I dont have any brothers or cousins or any of my guy people going to his b party and it makes me uncomfy + nervous??

anjelagain Posted: Mar 01, 2011 12:13 PM

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Posted by pjc92980

oh honey i am with you 10000%!!1 you are not crazy at all! FH is the first of his friends to get married although there are a few that are in relationships. He is going away with 27 people in July for 4 nights...i am already going insane.

What it comes down to is that i trust him 1000000% and know nothing will happen (i mean yes he will get blackout drunk for most of the time but other than that he will be fine) lol.

i havent decided if i want to hear from him while he is away or not. part of me wants to not know whats going on and i dont want to stress out if i dont hear from him.

I feel like crumbling xanax in wine and sleeping through it!!! its just so dumb!! haha

anjelagain Posted: Mar 01, 2011 12:13 PM

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Posted by kdm822

basically look at it this way.. your fiance put the ring on yourrrr finger not those the girls who want their privates waving around inpublic for all to see. Truth is anytime anywhere someone could come up to your FH and proposition him.. you hubby to be is obviously marrying you for reasons he isnt going to find in any other girl

Maybe have your bach party the same day so your not sitting home and thinking what are those krazy boys up tooo

What great advice!! thanks so much

Yankeeelove Posted: Mar 01, 2011 12:35 PM

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Your not crazy at all! FH actually told me he didn't like the idea of strippers all over me either! So we both decided no strippers and no overnight trips. So I will be most likely going to the city for mine where we will do dinner and dancing, and he will go to a bar in the hamptons and take a party bus home that night. Short, simple and sweet.

kdm822 Posted: Mar 01, 2011 12:50 PM

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Posted by Yankeeelove

Your not crazy at all! FH actually told me he didn't like the idea of strippers all over me either! So we both decided no strippers and no overnight trips. So I will be most likely going to the city for mine where we will do dinner and dancing, and he will go to a bar in the hamptons and take a party bus home that night. Short, simple and sweet.

I like this idea... im not a wild crazy drunk person im more shy and would not be comfortable with a stripper dancing on me. Thats just not me. Im more of a lets get dressed up dinner date person. Or maybe go away some place warm for the weekend where i can get my tan on lol

VCanizalez Posted: Mar 01, 2011 02:26 PM

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Posted by Yankeeelove

Your not crazy at all! FH actually told me he didn't like the idea of strippers all over me either! So we both decided no strippers and no overnight trips. So I will be most likely going to the city for mine where we will do dinner and dancing, and he will go to a bar in the hamptons and take a party bus home that night. Short, simple and sweet.

ITA...

We decided on this too... Our idea of FUN is definitely NOT having a whole bunch of DI**, As$, Titts, Pus** All Over us...
We think that is completely disrespectful towards the other partner to do this...

JennJay Posted: Mar 01, 2011 04:38 PM

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My dh went away for his also. I was very nervous too, but in the grand scheme of things, I realized that he just wanted a vacation with his guy friends. I did, however, make sure my bachelorette party was the same weekend so I wouldn't think about it.

Watermelon5 Posted: Mar 01, 2011 05:24 PM

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i def dont think you're crazy! me and FH have been together 10+ yrs, gone on trips w/o one another, and completely trust one another! i still get jealous from time to time so the thought of someone else being all over him is def annoying LOL! I would voice your concern that its bugging you and see what he says. SInce you trust him its not that much of a biggie but I def agree that its annoying lol!

sbiancoviso Posted: Mar 01, 2011 05:38 PM

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you aren't crazy I would feel the same way!

Ellynrose Posted: Mar 01, 2011 05:44 PM

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I don't think you're crazy, but you have to have trust in him that he'll do what is right.

FH is going away for his - it was planned by his brother and friends, and I'm sure there will be a stripper... I told him as long as he doesn't bring anything home.. to have a good time :)

Jill52787 Posted: Mar 01, 2011 06:32 PM

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Posted by VCanizalez

Posted by Yankeeelove

Your not crazy at all! FH actually told me he didn't like the idea of strippers all over me either! So we both decided no strippers and no overnight trips. So I will be most likely going to the city for mine where we will do dinner and dancing, and he will go to a bar in the hamptons and take a party bus home that night. Short, simple and sweet.

This!

ajudgeinthecourt Posted: Mar 01, 2011 07:15 PM

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Posted by kdm822

basically look at it this way.. your fiance put the ring on yourrrr finger not those the girls who want their privates waving around inpublic for all to see. Truth is anytime anywhere someone could come up to your FH and proposition him.. you hubby to be is obviously marrying you for reasons he isnt going to find in any other girl

Maybe have your bach party the same day so your not sitting home and thinking what are those krazy boys up tooo

this! fh is going to montreal with all of his friends, yea ill think about it, but ill be happy that hes having a good time with friends.

HeatherLynna Posted: Mar 01, 2011 07:36 PM

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I don't think you are crazy at all. I have a thing against strippers and not because I think FH would decide that he wanted to hook up with a trashbag, but because I think it is disgusting. The fact that you are getting married a couple of months later does not equal some hooker's T&A all over your junk.

Honestly though, it ALL depends on the person. I have learned that over the years because I have ALWAYS felt this way. Some women don't mind at all, some want to abolish the 'profession.' All in all, if you really have a problem with it, let him know and perhaps he won't do it out of respect. I'm all for him having a GREAT time with his friends, blacking out, doing whatever- just keep the skaaanks away from my man.

adelya21 Posted: Mar 01, 2011 07:43 PM

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agree 100000% theres no way my fiance is going to hve dirty strippers on him sorrrrryyyyyyy lol luckily neither FH nor I are into strippers so its a non issue for us but if he wanted this I would have serious issues.

Posted by HeatherLynna

I don't think you are crazy at all. I have a thing against strippers and not because I think FH would decide that he wanted to hook up with a trashbag, but because I think it is disgusting. The fact that you are getting married a couple of months later does not equal some hooker's T&A all over your junk.

Honestly though, it ALL depends on the person. I have learned that over the years because I have ALWAYS felt this way. Some women don't mind at all, some want to abolish the 'profession.' All in all, if you really have a problem with it, let him know and perhaps he won't do it out of respect. I'm all for him having a GREAT time with his friends, blacking out, doing whatever- just keep the skaaanks away from my man.

StephanieJoy Posted: Mar 01, 2011 07:50 PM

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the talk for my FH is AC for his

BrideAS Posted: Mar 01, 2011 08:20 PM

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I don't think you're crazy at All. I trust fh more than anyone I know. However, when fh gets blackout drunk and his single friends think it's funny to do something stupid, thats a problem. He is going to ac with like 30 guys -none of my fam. I'm not going to stop him, nor am I mad at all. But it's the friends that worry me.

thefloreswedding Posted: Mar 02, 2011 12:42 AM

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yeahh thats a tough one, but it will be his last night out...and personally you should put him in check before he makes his decision LOL tell him how you feel but let HIM make the decision. Its technically his last night out but remind him that he doesnt want to do anything stupid to ruin what he REALLY has....
he should have the b a l l s to stand up to his friends and be man enough to say, no i dont want to do this..but u know how guys are...LOL

make a mutual agreement on what you BOTH are going to do and agree to it ,this way no one feels uncomfortable. He is marrying you not his friends good luck!

anjelagain Posted: Mar 02, 2011 06:44 AM

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haha, thanks too much guys..... Yes, his friends are RIDICULOUS but oh well gotta get over it plus, Now that i got it out, I feel vented.

Thar1127 Posted: Mar 02, 2011 07:18 AM

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i dont think your crazy at all, to be honest i think bachelor parties have gotten out of hand and guys can get too crazy. like disgusting things going on, strippers, hookers--- why are these guys getting married if they want this stuff? I think its an old tradition that has become a horror for some brides, a co worker of mine cancled her wedding bc of what went down at a party. I think if you know ur FH and FH friends and feel comfortable with them then you should be fine. My FH is going sky diving, camping and paint balling-- haha all 3 things that i refuse to do

anjelagain Posted: Mar 02, 2011 07:51 AM

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Thar omg...... My fear exactly..... Its such an unfair double standard that this is acceptable and on top of it at a time where we are are most stressed before a wedding?

Ok, so..... the verdict is, hes gonna have a bparty w/ no strippers for a weekend...

I just was trying to explain its not about trust i just dont agree with the idea of whats behind it, lets all hope it goes smoothly!!!!!