been very upset lately...long

Original post by kimnsteve

Nov 05, 2006 10:29 AM

ok girls i have been trying to keep this in for awhile to see if things would get better but they have only gotten worse....for the past month my FH and I have done nothing but fought ...and not just like little stupid fights ...i cant figure what they heck i am doing wrong ....i know has a lot to do with the fact that he had OCD and if something is out of place in our house he flips...and i am totally the opposite...we havent spent any time together nor have we gone put i over a month...he totally blew off our 7 year anniversary last month ( he told me he was taking me out and then that night he told me he was too tired and then had his neice come over so i could babysit her!)
i am thinking about moving back home ...but i know if i do that it had to be final...cant go back...i cannot have him keep coming in and out of my life whenever he feels like being nice to me
he hasnt said to words about the wedding ...all he does is complain about me ...that i do nothing for him...helllooo i work full time in manhattan ...dont get home til 7pm and then go to the gym afetr that ...where does making dinner every night fit itn?????
i just dont know ...i was hoping that some of u girls had some advice
sorry this is so long i am just so upset i have spent the entire weekend in my house crying ...i am just so sick to my stomach about all of this

TIA

Collweenie21 Posted: Nov 07, 2006 01:04 PM

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It may be... I gotta tell you, it was the most trying time of our relationship. I always tell people, live together first before you get married. Even if you spend all the time in the world with someone, nothing compares to living together. You guys are used to having your space, now on the same schedule, the other is always around. I compare it to when couples fight. Lets say you get into a big fight. You can always walk away and go 'home', but when you are living together.... you are home and theres no where to go. Give it some time. Maybe change up your gym schedule or go out for coffee with the girls just to escape for a little while. It'll work out.

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 07, 2006 01:08 PM

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thanks for the advice ...i lalways tell people that also ...you never find out who the person really is that u are with until you live together ...as much as we say we know them....u really dont

i am planning a bunch of things for the next couple of weeks with my friends ...starting the gym again ( after being lazy for 2 weeks)

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Nov 07, 2006 02:08 PM

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I definately agree about living together with someone before. It can help. Nothing compares to when you have shared responsiblities.
personally i never had a bad experience in the begining of living togehter, sure there were fights, and there was no where to run to, because that was our home!!! We had to work it out, because we had to sleep in the same bed.

My FH does alot for me, he pays every bill, including my personal ones. He gives me a car to drive, a credit card for gas, a house to live in. I am very grateful, i wish i could do more around the house like laundry, dishes, and cleaning. He even pays a cleaning lady to come in. I really need to get my A$$ is gear, if there was a website for men i am sure he would be on there complaining about me!

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 07, 2006 02:14 PM

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wow lucky girl!

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 07, 2006 02:25 PM

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Posted by kimnsteve

wow lucky girl!

Seriously!!!

ya know, I never even thought of the whole living together thing. Kim, that could totally be it!!!!!!!! I feel good about this conclusion!!!!

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 07, 2006 02:28 PM

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oooOOOOO Weeeeeeee

i promise Kim that'll be the last time ...but i love saying it!!!

i hope this is what the problem is

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 07, 2006 03:09 PM

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HAHAHAHAHAHA

Did you see on one of the Yo Momma trailers a montage of him saying oooOOOO WEEEEEEEEE a million different ways!!! I nearly died!!!

ooooOOOOO WEEEEEEEE

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 07, 2006 04:00 PM

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i saw it too funny!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 07, 2006 09:50 PM

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Any news since you've been home?

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 07, 2006 09:51 PM

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nope he pulled a double tonight! ughhh which means another bad day tomorrow...dont his bosses know i got some talking to do

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 07, 2006 09:53 PM

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Yeah seriously!!!

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 07, 2006 09:54 PM

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maybe we both need some time to cool off ...and realize what we have ....and hopefully by the weekend we can talk..not yell

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 07, 2006 10:10 PM

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true. perhaps him working a double isn't really a bad thing.

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:09 AM

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How are we doing this morning?

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:21 AM

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nada !
this mornig he thought he was sooo cool trying to do things for himself !.u know what he was eating for breakfast.......STRING BEANS AND RICE! because he doesnt know how to cook and thats the only food i have left because i havent been around ( brothers bday was yesterday) ...hahahahaha sooo funny

sometimes its the little things that make u happy ...he obviously doesnt wanna talk yet ...so ill let him do this until the weekend and then im puttin my foot down

Jesses Girl Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:27 AM

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grrrr boys are soo stubborn sometimes. I read what was going on. I hope everythign works out. I think u are right for you know standing ur ground..let him do the things for himself.

if he doesn't respond i would try to make adinner date...so you guys can speak over dinner...relax...and then it will not turn into an argument if u are out in public. maybe that would help...

id go crazy if i were in ur shoes! im not good when the issue is ignored!

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:32 AM

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mmmmm... string beans and rice! now there's a breakfast for ya!
What is he going to do when you don' t make enough dinner for him???
And what did he do when you worked totally different schedules??
Well, at least you're laughing about some of this.

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:35 AM

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im really not laughing i am trying to but i am not ...its very hard and stressful and it is definitely taking its toll on me...i feel like i am getting sick...anyways ...i like Diane's idea ...i think a dinner date would be wonderful...