been very upset lately...long

Original post by kimnsteve

Nov 05, 2006 10:29 AM

ok girls i have been trying to keep this in for awhile to see if things would get better but they have only gotten worse....for the past month my FH and I have done nothing but fought ...and not just like little stupid fights ...i cant figure what they heck i am doing wrong ....i know has a lot to do with the fact that he had OCD and if something is out of place in our house he flips...and i am totally the opposite...we havent spent any time together nor have we gone put i over a month...he totally blew off our 7 year anniversary last month ( he told me he was taking me out and then that night he told me he was too tired and then had his neice come over so i could babysit her!)
i am thinking about moving back home ...but i know if i do that it had to be final...cant go back...i cannot have him keep coming in and out of my life whenever he feels like being nice to me
he hasnt said to words about the wedding ...all he does is complain about me ...that i do nothing for him...helllooo i work full time in manhattan ...dont get home til 7pm and then go to the gym afetr that ...where does making dinner every night fit itn?????
i just dont know ...i was hoping that some of u girls had some advice
sorry this is so long i am just so upset i have spent the entire weekend in my house crying ...i am just so sick to my stomach about all of this

TIA

Jesses Girl Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:41 AM

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i dont kno exactly how u feel but i get really bad anxiety especially with relationship things...dont forget we are here to talk..and whenever u think ur gonna need someone that understands FM us....

but u have been together for this long maybe it is the job takin its toll...i mean my FH works 2 jobs is tired all the time..after our 1 big fight we are okay now but i kno how I felt..super sick!

Jesses Girl Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:42 AM

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like kim says hang in there u will be ok... u kno <3

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:58 AM

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aww thank u !!!

Jesses Girl Posted: Nov 08, 2006 12:32 PM

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Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Nov 08, 2006 07:17 PM

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So how long is it that you haven't been talking? I also like the dinner idea..private time together..I think you need a quiet place to talk..For now though give it time..Let him get over it..Things always have a funny way of working out...Good luck!

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 08, 2006 08:39 PM

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its been 4 very long days

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 08, 2006 09:19 PM

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megzzie Posted: Nov 08, 2006 11:16 PM

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I'm so sorry that you guys are going through a rough patch right now! I hope things work out for the best. Good luck!

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 09, 2006 09:49 AM

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How we doing Kim?

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 09, 2006 09:58 AM

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same ....sorry im frustrated too !

Belongs2DanBuckley Posted: Nov 09, 2006 10:34 AM

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Are u close w/ any of his friends? Maybe u can talk to one of them and be like 'Listen, he won't talk to me...i don't know why but he's making me crazy and he's being an @$$ about this. He ate friggin stringbeans and rice for breakfast because he's stubborn....Can you talk to him before he's wiping himself with coffee filters because he dosent want to use my toilet paper...'

IDK...that's what i would do...its worth a shot...I'm pretty close with some of FH friends and when we had problems...I would turn to them and be like...alright...waht's the deal?????

HTH

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Nov 09, 2006 10:46 AM

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

Are u close w/ any of his friends? Maybe u can talk to one of them and be like 'Listen, he won't talk to me...i don't know why but he's making me crazy and he's being an @$$ about this. He ate friggin stringbeans and rice for breakfast because he's stubborn....Can you talk to him before he's wiping himself with coffee filters because he dosent want to use my toilet paper...'

IDK...that's what i would do...its worth a shot...I'm pretty close with some of FH friends and when we had problems...I would turn to them and be like...alright...waht's the deal?????

HTH

This sounds like a great idea!!!
Maybe his friends can give you some insight, i can't imagine living with someone and going through this, how long has it been now that you arent talking?

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 09, 2006 10:47 AM

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i really dont wanna get his friedns involved ...i have done that before and he has gotten mad ..i am close to alot of them but i feel bad to make my problems their problems ..ya know

thanks though ..we'll talk this cant go on forever

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 09, 2006 10:48 AM

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That might be a good idea, but I would just be super cautious because if it got back to him that you went to HIS friends for help (no matter how close you are with them), it might set him off and get him even more pissed off... KWIM?

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Nov 09, 2006 11:00 AM

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Hey Kim SI, all the other girls have been giving you great advice! I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you - I hope everything works out for you!

Dana Z to Be Posted: Nov 09, 2006 11:04 AM

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I haven't been on much lately and I just saw your post. I am so sorry to hear about this. Something like this happend a while ago with me and my FH. All we did was fight for three months straight. It was awfull, but we got threw it. You will too. Give it some time and please don't get upset. I know everything will work out for you guys.

Belongs2DanBuckley Posted: Nov 09, 2006 11:14 AM

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OK...as a last resort...and don't take this the wrong way, but maybe all you need is one good romp. Maybe if he comes home tonight and you don't talk, you attack. Wear the sexiest thing you have...have a glass of wine and have yourselves an anger bang...Rip 0ff his clothes and TAKE HIM !!!!

If u guys can't even do that...then u know its serious, but at least it might get him to open up about what the problem is....

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 09, 2006 11:25 AM

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

OK...as a last resort...and don't take this the wrong way, but maybe all you need is one good romp. Maybe if he comes home tonight and you don't talk, you attack. Wear the sexiest thing you have...have a glass of wine and have yourselves an anger bang...Rip 0ff his clothes and TAKE HIM !!!!

If u guys can't even do that...then u know its serious, but at least it might get him to open up about what the problem is....

That sounds like fun even if you're not in a fight... thanks for the idea

That doesn't sound too bad Kim.... besides, there's something in it for you!!

Belongs2DanBuckley Posted: Nov 09, 2006 11:31 AM

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exactly.....

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 09, 2006 12:18 PM

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

OK...as a last resort...and don't take this the wrong way, but maybe all you need is one good romp. Maybe if he comes home tonight and you don't talk, you attack. Wear the sexiest thing you have...have a glass of wine and have yourselves an anger bang...Rip 0ff his clothes and TAKE HIM !!!!

If u guys can't even do that...then u know its serious, but at least it might get him to open up about what the problem is....

i wont see him until saturday ( working nights this week) but i will defin try then !!
thanks girls for all ur advice !! i really appreciate it