Before FH proposed...

Original post by yelley77

Aug 01, 2007 11:36 AM

did he ask your parents permission?

FH asked my mother and stepfather!

yelley77 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 12:46 PM

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Posted by ant n tilde

ok so i got engaged christmas eve 2005 - FH decided to do it less than 10 days before. So, he kept trying to come to my house B U T it was the transit strike so my job kept letting me out super early, i almost caught him going into my house a few times! He finally got to do it THE DAY BEFORE! lol

he snuck in the back of the house and asked my parents. . . they both cried and were so excited ( AND SURPRISED!)

funny story: after i said yes i said 'did you ask my dad, bc if you didnt i have to take that back' LOL

also, my BFF got engaged the NIGHT BEFORE - so when we went there on Christmas Eve morning to congratulate her. my mom LOST HER FRICKEN MIND i mean she grabbed my BFF's mom and like dragged her into the kitchen and they were both sobbing and i was like OMG I AM SO EMBARRASSED she is totally overreacting to my BFFs engagement. . . well they were crying bc it was so beautiful that we had been best friends since grade school and we were going to be engaged at the same time!

also, when we were leaving my house to go to his for Christmas Eve my mom VERY DRAMATICALLY goes to FH 'DON'T WORRY ANTHONY YOUR TIME WILL COME TOO' and FH said she even WINKED but i was oblivious!!

awe... don't you just adore dramatic moms!!! my mom knew but didn't give it up, however, once we got home, she was a dramatic mess (in a good way)

GinaBambina08 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 12:47 PM

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FH spoke to my father and other about it before...

KitWisdom Posted: Aug 01, 2007 12:51 PM

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Haha, nope! They were thrilled anyway.

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:00 PM

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he asked mom (dad's passed on) and she almost couldn't keep the secret!!!

Junebride62108 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:00 PM

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yes. He asked both my parents. When he asked my dad, my dad kind of stared at him with a blank face for about 10 seconds. FH almost started shaking...then my dad smiled and gave him a hug lol..(what a jokestar he is!) and my mom of course started to cry.

JTsGal829 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:01 PM

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fh has spoken to my mom and grandma numerous times about it. my dad isn't in the picture so i'm sure that was a huge weight lifted off his shoulders..lolol. My grandmother always gave him a hard time about it though cause she's a ball buster... but she loves him..

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:02 PM

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before he gave me the ring, he called both my mom and my dad on the phone...

We booked our RH about 4 months prior, so it wasnt a shock to them, and we were living in our house together already

florezpeeps Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:06 PM

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awww this is a cute thread Danielle!

fh told me: he asked my father to help shop for my ring since my father has friends in the district, they went together & on the 3rd try they found the right stone for me, at that point fh realized he really didn't ask for 'permission' so he did, & my pops nearly busted out laughing at him (but didn't) since it was an obvious yes at that point!

mrspalomino148 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:08 PM

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nope he didn't ask mine, but his parents knew

cherish83 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:21 PM

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Mine did. He asked them 3 months before the engagement because thats when he originally wanted to do it. He asked my mom, dad and stepdad.

yelley77 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:31 PM

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Posted by florezpeeps

awww this is a cute thread Danielle!

fh told me: he asked my father to help shop for my ring since my father has friends in the district, they went together & on the 3rd try they found the right stone for me, at that point fh realized he really didn't ask for 'permission' so he did, & my pops nearly busted out laughing at him (but didn't) since it was an obvious yes at that point!

Thanks, Helen!!! I'm so glad to see you on the boards and that you didn't leave!!! :)

TGs Lady 22908 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:36 PM

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My FH didn't ask my parents. Don't get me wrong I LOVE my parents to death and I have an excellent relationship with them but I've been independent from them since I was 19 and I never thought it was necessary for my potential FH to ask them.

That said....if he did ask them/tell them...I would have known right away because my mom can't keep a secret to save her life....

He didn't tell his parents either...or ANY of our friends, he told NO ONE...He sat on a ring for months until we went on vacation.

I don't know how the boy could have kept a secret like that all to himself.

yelley77 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:38 PM

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Posted by TGs Lady 22908

My FH didn't ask my parents. Don't get me wrong I LOVE my parents to death and I have an excellent relationship with them but I've been independent from them since I was 19 and I never thought it was necessary for my potential FH to ask them.

That said....if he did ask them/tell them...I would have known right away because my mom can't keep a secret to save her life....

He didn't tell his parents either...or ANY of our friends, he told NO ONE...He sat on a ring for months until we went on vacation.

I don't know how the boy could have kept a secret like that all to himself.

That is why I started this thread, I was curious if guys still asked the girls parents. My grandma was talking recently about how grandpa asked and it got me thinking.

I don't think I would have really cared if FH didn't ask, but now that he did, I'm kinda glad!

florezpeeps Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:39 PM

Re: Before FH proposed...

Posted by TGs Lady 22908

My FH didn't ask my parents. Don't get me wrong I LOVE my parents to death and I have an excellent relationship with them but I've been independent from them since I was 19 and I never thought it was necessary for my potential FH to ask them.

That said....if he did ask them/tell them...I would have known right away because my mom can't keep a secret to save her life....

He didn't tell his parents either...or ANY of our friends, he told NO ONE...He sat on a ring for months until we went on vacation.

I don't know how the boy could have kept a secret like that all to himself.

months!!! holy WILL power!!!

florezpeeps Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:41 PM

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Posted by yelley77

Posted by TGs Lady 22908

My FH didn't ask my parents. Don't get me wrong I LOVE my parents to death and I have an excellent relationship with them but I've been independent from them since I was 19 and I never thought it was necessary for my potential FH to ask them.

That said....if he did ask them/tell them...I would have known right away because my mom can't keep a secret to save her life....

He didn't tell his parents either...or ANY of our friends, he told NO ONE...He sat on a ring for months until we went on vacation.

I don't know how the boy could have kept a secret like that all to himself.

That is why I started this thread, I was curious if guys still asked the girls parents. My grandma was talking recently about how grandpa asked and it got me thinking.

I don't think I would have really cared if FH didn't ask, but now that he did, I'm kinda glad!

same here, we've been living together downstairs from my parents for 4 yrs, so i didnt think it necessary at all~but the fact that he did & my father played a role in our engagement did make it all the more special to me

yelley77 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:45 PM

Re: Before FH proposed...

Posted by florezpeeps

Posted by TGs Lady 22908

My FH didn't ask my parents. Don't get me wrong I LOVE my parents to death and I have an excellent relationship with them but I've been independent from them since I was 19 and I never thought it was necessary for my potential FH to ask them.

That said....if he did ask them/tell them...I would have known right away because my mom can't keep a secret to save her life....

He didn't tell his parents either...or ANY of our friends, he told NO ONE...He sat on a ring for months until we went on vacation.

I don't know how the boy could have kept a secret like that all to himself.

months!!! holy WILL power!!!

They all have so much will power!!! My FH picked up my ring the second week in September and gave it to me December 31st!! I could have never held out that long!!!

yelley77 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:45 PM

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Posted by florezpeeps

Posted by yelley77

Posted by TGs Lady 22908

My FH didn't ask my parents. Don't get me wrong I LOVE my parents to death and I have an excellent relationship with them but I've been independent from them since I was 19 and I never thought it was necessary for my potential FH to ask them.

That said....if he did ask them/tell them...I would have known right away because my mom can't keep a secret to save her life....

He didn't tell his parents either...or ANY of our friends, he told NO ONE...He sat on a ring for months until we went on vacation.

I don't know how the boy could have kept a secret like that all to himself.

That is why I started this thread, I was curious if guys still asked the girls parents. My grandma was talking recently about how grandpa asked and it got me thinking.

I don't think I would have really cared if FH didn't ask, but now that he did, I'm kinda glad!

same here, we've been living together downstairs from my parents for 4 yrs, so i didnt think it necessary at all~but the fact that he did & my father played a role in our engagement did make it all the more special to me

awe!

MrsD71208 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:46 PM

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Of course! He called my mom and step-father and asked them (he was working all weekend and couldn't come to see them WITHOUT me being home) and called my dad and step-mom to ask too. It's a respect thing, especially in Italian families.