Update--Another bridesmaid and I talked to the bride last night and convinced her that A/C will be a blast and not too cheesy! I'm so happy that I don't have to put a security deposit down on a house in Hamptons and all I have to do is make hotel reservations at the Tropicana!
Thanks everyone for support---it was a rough day yesterday (especially after getting a rude e-mail from other bridesmaids that demand we change so that she can attend her 5-year old nephew's birthday party ) but all is well now.
Phew.
MrsC2010
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ugh im sorry. you should really talk to her and tell her she is being unreasonable.
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why u MUST do everything she demands to be done? I understand requesting some things but actually demanding things? ppl do have to understand that all are strapped for cash now isnt her mom paying for most of it?
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That stinks you are going through this. Def talk to her. Maybe she doesn't even realize she is bring a total bridezilla.
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Sorry you are going through this. You have every right to talk to her about it, she obviously knows you are planning your wedding, so she should be a little more sympathetic.
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Talk to her. If you can't do what she wants then tough... she'll have to learn that you have a life and your own wedding to plan and can't spend all of your $ on her.
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I'm sorry and I hope this doesn't stir up drama... but I don't get how brides can demand what they want in a bach party! I can see giving a few suggestions so the BP has some direction but ultimately it should be up to them the BP. THEY ARE THE ONE'S THROWING IT! This way everyone can consider their own financial situations and are not made to feel like the cheap a$$ of the group bc they *might* not be able to swing what unreasonable plans the bride has in mind.
Again I hope this doesn't start something but I know EXACTLY how you feel and used your post as a way to vent for myself. This is JMHO sorry if I offended anyone....
hang in there hun I hope it all works out
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Posted by soontobecruz
I'm sorry and I hope this doesn't stir up drama... but I don't get how brides can demand what they want in a bach party! I can see giving a few suggestions so the BP has some direction but ultimately it should be up to them the BP. THEY ARE THE ONE'S THROWING IT! This way everyone can consider their own financial situations and are not made to feel like the cheap a$$ of the group bc they *might* not be able to swing what unreasonable plans the bride has in mind.
Again I hope this doesn't start something but I know EXACTLY how you feel and used your post as a way to vent for myself. This is JMHO sorry if I offended anyone....
hang in there hun I hope it all works out
ITA if people are throwing you a party, yes ideas are nice, but you take what they give you and appreciate what they can do!
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Posted by FutureCap
Posted by soontobecruz
I'm sorry and I hope this doesn't stir up drama... but I don't get how brides can demand what they want in a bach party! I can see giving a few suggestions so the BP has some direction but ultimately it should be up to them the BP. THEY ARE THE ONE'S THROWING IT! This way everyone can consider their own financial situations and are not made to feel like the cheap a$$ of the group bc they *might* not be able to swing what unreasonable plans the bride has in mind.
Again I hope this doesn't start something but I know EXACTLY how you feel and used your post as a way to vent for myself. This is JMHO sorry if I offended anyone....
hang in there hun I hope it all works out
ita ITA if people are throwing you a party, yes ideas are nice, but you take what they give you and appreciate what they can do!
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The BEST part is when one of the bridesmaids you don't even get along with write you this after the bride and everyone has already picked the date (because we can only get a house in Hamptons the weekend after Labor Day). The reason this bridesmaid can't go is because its her 5 year old NEPHEW'S birthday:
'I'm sending this to you bc I don't want elizabeth to have any added stress. But the fact is that I'm quite upset about the bach party bc I really wanted to be there for Elizabeth. But since you made it more about saving money and less about having all her friends there I can't go. And only had one weekend that I have prior commitments. And I would be one of maybe 2 that would actually have to fly thus spending even more money! And I would willingly. Do I rank that low on the list to not have taken time to reconsider?'
Seriously? Can I just be demoted? I'm not even responding to her....
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Posted by soontobecruz
I'm sorry and I hope this doesn't stir up drama... but I don't get how brides can demand what they want in a bach party! I can see giving a few suggestions so the BP has some direction but ultimately it should be up to them the BP. THEY ARE THE ONE'S THROWING IT! This way everyone can consider their own financial situations and are not made to feel like the cheap a$$ of the group bc they *might* not be able to swing what unreasonable plans the bride has in mind.
Again I hope this doesn't start something but I know EXACTLY how you feel and used your post as a way to vent for myself. This is JMHO sorry if I offended anyone....
hang in there hun I hope it all works out
I am so happy this post helps you too!!!
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Whoa, whoever that girl is needs to get over herself. I don't expect all of my BM's or friends to attend my shower or bachelorette. It's just not possible, we all work, some are moms, some are more strapped for cash than others. She needs to realize you are working with many factors, not just her schedule. I'm sorry you have to deal with these crazies.
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uuuuggggggggggg!!! I am sure it will all work out! Just plan something that you and the other girls can afford!
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Posted by rdubs
The BEST part is when one of the bridesmaids you don't even get along with write you this after the bride and everyone has already picked the date (because we can only get a house in Hamptons the weekend after Labor Day). The reason this bridesmaid can't go is because its her 5 year old NEPHEW'S birthday:
'I'm sending this to you bc I don't want elizabeth to have any added stress. But the fact is that I'm quite upset about the bach party bc I really wanted to be there for Elizabeth. But since you made it more about saving money and less about having all her friends there I can't go. And only had one weekend that I have prior commitments. And I would be one of maybe 2 that would actually have to fly thus spending even more money! And I would willingly. Do I rank that low on the list to not have taken time to reconsider?'
Seriously? Can I just be demoted? I'm not even responding to her....
Don't respond. But IF you did you can say, 'ok.. so we'll do what she wants when everyone is available. But her MOH won't be there cuz she doesn't have the $. So all of her friends won't be there anyway!'
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People are just ridiculous.... If the bride wants something CRAZY then she can plan it herself and pay for it herself... If what she wants is a bachelorette party, then it's up to the BP to decide, and MOH gets last say (without being a maidzilla herself)....
I am SO excited for my wedding, but really, I hope that I have it in perspective..... People can just be nuts!!!
