BM So Frustrating!!!!!

ErinC0119 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:26 AM

BM So Frustrating!!!!!

There are some days that I wish I could put my 2 cats in the bridal party rather than the 2 idiots I already have. I honestly do not think after this wedding I will maintain a friendship with these girls. Anyone else feeling this way???

tricia3381 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:28 AM

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i'm sorry to hear. what did they do?

LB and DC Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:28 AM

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only with one - but she is my FSIL, so it will be kind of hard not to associate with her after the wedding.

MrsQ-in2007 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:36 AM

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B22 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:40 AM

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my sister once told me before I started planning my wedding was that:
nobody CAREs about your wedding but YOU.

which is kinda true but my BM have been nothing but great to me (of course they are my sister, SIL, future SIL and someone who was always like a sister to me)

what did they do?

AlmostKulak Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:41 AM

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I am having all sorts of issues with mine, none that would ruin our friendship though!! What are they doing?

MJDoc12 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:52 AM

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that sux. i'm so glad that my 2 girls were great....i feel so fortunate.

anything in particular that they did ?

Mrs_C_in_'07 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:59 AM

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I'm so sorry! Did they do anything in particular?

ErinC0119 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 01:15 PM

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Well one wont get fitted yet....and claims she cant find the dress. She lives in CT. The kicker is she wont drive out here without her boyfriend. My sister lives in CT and offered to pick her up so she can get the dress. My mom and sister have been trying to plan the bachelorette party and shower.....these 2 girls are useless.....they dont get back to my mom or sister. I dont know what I would do if I didnt have my mom or sister.
You are so right no one cares about my wedding but FH and I. He cant understand why there being so difficult either.
She was supposed to go find the dress this weekend and instead she went to a concert in NYC. HUH!?!?! what gives!! I dont get it.

heatherandrichie Posted: Jun 11, 2007 01:40 PM

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OMG! Me, me, me! 1st off MOH found out she was preggo in October and due the day after my wedding & can not fly to NY from G.A. so, I replaced her. Then a BM totally stopped calling me, paid for her cruise (bach. party) and NEVER came & I never heard from her again. Replaced her. Now my BM/Cousin isn't speaking to me b/c I told her I was so upset over how she's been treating me. Anyone a size 6 and want to be my BM? (that is BM in between two walls and me smashing her

PegaLega Posted: Jun 11, 2007 01:41 PM

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I felt that way for awhile-and most likely i will not remain friends with one of them-jerks

KellyS15 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 01:42 PM

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I am sorry you are feeling that way! Maybe you should try talking to them.

LuckiestGirl Posted: Jun 11, 2007 01:51 PM

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OMG me too. . . my Matron of honor. . .(FH cousin) Moved and didnt tell anyone oh and her daughter was my flowergirl too. . . well they moved told no one and then called me and was like since you didnt care enough to help us move I dont think we could be in your wedding. . *** ok so thats ok that was in Dec and im so happy cause now its just my MOH my cousin who will be by my side and that is all that matters.

the future mrs m Posted: Jun 11, 2007 01:52 PM

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that's so crazy. being in someone's wedding is an honor and should be treated as such.
xoxo,
k

SusiBtoM Posted: Jun 11, 2007 02:03 PM

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What is up with all these girls ?
It is an honor to be asked to be part of a bridal party, even more special to be the MOH. It means that there is a special bond between the bride and the BMs. There are of course some exceptions (have-to-asks). There is no shame in saying no from the beginning, due to personal reasons or even financial reasons. Just don't bag out in the middle.

FH could not understand why I did not want more than just my sis in my BP. Told him I could not deal with the stress of who likes this who doesn't, what shoes.

ErinC0119 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 03:07 PM

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Ladies all I have to say is what goes around comes around and one day these girls will get married and someone will be just as ridiculous as they are being to us.
Im almost at the point where I just want my sister and no one else.

WilliesBride Posted: Jun 11, 2007 04:36 PM

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I just posted about a BM problem too.......

What is wrong with these girls...........

songwriterchic Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:49 PM

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glad to see I'm not the only one frustrated wtih my BM's ...it hasn't been that bad, I just have to see the rolling of the eyes and dirty looks whenever I seem excited and start to talk about my wedding... especially from my MOH (and she's my sister!) I didn't do that to her when she was planning her wedding! She acts like she can't be happy for me and it shows all over her face.

And then these girls act like they're so poor and can't afford to contribute to this or that, but yet they can go on vacation (when was the last time I went on vacation? I've been scraping the bottom of the barrel to pay for my wedding!) Yeah, I don't like the thought of anyone having to go into debt over my wedding, but I'm the one who's going the most into debt paying for this wedding, and it seems like no one wants to make a sacrifice for the biggest day of my life.

Thanks for letting me vent girls!

diva7531 Posted: Jun 11, 2007 05:57 PM

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So sorry you are going thru this!!!!! (Everyone who is having problems) If it's that bad that your friendship is on the line, I would have one more heart to heart with them and try to express how you are feeling. If it can't be resolved, kick em to the curb!!! If they can't realize that you asked them because you thought they would be there for you, stand by you and for you (against the haters!) then they don't deserve to be your BM's. Do you really want to look back at pics of your special day and see them bitches standing next to you! Hope you are able to resolve it and maintian your friendships!

SherinJeff Posted: Jun 12, 2007 12:48 AM

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Posted by ErinC0119

There are some days that I wish I could put my 2 cats in the bridal party rather than the 2 idiots I already have. I honestly do not think after this wedding I will maintain a friendship with these girls. Anyone else feeling this way???

I wouldnt wait.. I would ditch em now.
You have a while before your wedding. I would rather have nobody then to have someone standing by me that didnt want to be or didnt appreciate it. I HAD to have my (ex's) 2 sisters in my BP. They didnt want to, and it showed in EVERY picture. They were either frowning or just looked bored. Be-otches... I will never do that again.

I would give them 30 days to get everything done and just explain nicely.. that if they cant do it, that you understand that they will not be part of the BP .. and just say its all good. Put the ball in their court... if they cant do whats needed in the allotted time.. then they are basically making the desicion not to be involved.
My .02cents..LOL