booking the church - Long Island Weddings

any of u ladies getting married or already get married in st killians in Farmingdale or Maria Regina in Seaford?

booking the church - Long Island Weddings

We didn't get anything like that. Our church couldn't set up a meeting with us for 2 weeks when we first called and we wanted to booked the reception hall so we told them the two dates we were between and even though they were hesitant at first, they let us know that they were available and that we could book the hall. It wasn't our fault that they couldn't meet with us for 2 weeks and I didn't want to lose out on those dates. I have heard stories about issues like that with other churches though. Best of luck!

booking the church - Long Island Weddings

FSIL got married at St. Kilian's. I love that church!

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Honestly, I was REALLY nervous about going to the Church because I'm not religious, (despite being brought up Catholic); however, my fiance thought it would be nice to at least check it out as an option. It turns out I had nothing to be worried about.. the priest was SO nice and actually assumed that we would not want a full mass. He realized we live together etc and didn't judge at all. I think many of them may understand that young people are less 'traditional' now. If you do go to a Church where the experience is less positive maybe try to talk to a different priest or a deacon. I heard that deacons are less intimidating. The date actually did come up though, but the priest basically thanked us for setting the date with the Church first because he said it's frustrating when a couple comes and they already booked the venue and the Church has no opening for the day (and it's THE Church their family wants them to get married in, they were baptized in etc). I think it causes stress for everyone and that it might be less about 'the Church should be most important' these days. He also told us several times we can change the date if we need to. My suggestion is just set up an appointment and see what kind of vibe you get. I know I was like adamant that it was going to be the worst thing ever and walked out with a date lol. Good luck!

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Side note, I booked for Oct 2015 and I saw other brides had booked as well (much to my surprise!) so I think how far out they are willing to book all depends on the Church.

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Posted by Amanda2022

We booked the venue before the church but that was only because our meeting with our Priest kept getting pushed back. He didn't even ask us about it. It was our choice for full mass or not, but because we are doing a Friday he suggested just a ceremony. FH an I don't live together yet but that wasn't even brought up at any point. Even though our wedding isn't until 2015 we were still able to book it and sign up for FOCCUS and Pre-Cana.

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ummm what's FOCCUS? I knew about pre cana........

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I don't know if all the churches do it or not, but you go in and you take a 'test' its not really a test, but its a bunch of questions that you answer about different topics inlaws, money, sex, your relationship, how you deal with different things as a couple..and you fill it out on a scan tron and then a few weeks later you meet with your priest and go over the categories where you differed the most.

booking the church - Long Island Weddings

This happened to someone I knew who was just married. They informed the church, and then weren't able to get married there and had to do it at another church. I honestly think it depends, but when I was asked, I just said that we were looking at this date, and they had it. We were booking well in advance, so I don't think it mattered.

booking the church - Long Island Weddings

We decided on the RH, but didn't book until we found the church. We did all of this over a year and 1/2 in advance and we had no problem booking the church that far ahead. The problem we did have is that we didn't want to get married at my husband's family church and I attend church in the city. So we wanted to book at a church we didn't have a connection to and many churches have a policy to only marry their parishioners. We eventually found one very close to our reception hall. It was perfect and our wedding was wonderful.
We didn't want a full Mass because we have many non -Catholic family members. The church never even asked. They never asked about our living arrangements or anything. We did have to pay quite a bit more than a parishioner would, but it wasn't a problem. It worked out perfectly.
We got married at 2pm and had a hospitality suite opened at 3 and went right into the cocktail hour so we didn't have a gap either. Everyone was really happy about that!