BOTW

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Posted by kedra5

If no one minds........If we havent heard from our past BOTW by tomorrow morning, I would like to nominate the next BOTW.

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see my post above. I did already respond

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Posted by kedra5

If no one minds........If we havent heard from our past BOTW by tomorrow morning, I would like to nominate the next BOTW.

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no I wanna! lol

hahaha...

and its sort of unfair that she gets a short week now. I really wish I had seen the threads before.

I don't know many brides on here... It really doesn't have to be such a big drama fest anyway. This is a message board for everyone not just the ones who participate the most or know the most brides.

It's a tradition, I understand that part. if she doesn't want to participate and follow quasi-rules for the BOTW then that's her prerogative.

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Posted by allornil

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Posted by kedra5

If no one minds........If we havent heard from our past BOTW by tomorrow morning, I would like to nominate the next BOTW.

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no I wanna! lol

hahaha...

and its sort of unfair that she gets a short week now. I really wish I had seen the threads before.

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REALLY? It's 3.10pm on Monday.

You girls are too much.

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Posted by allornil

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Posted by kedra5

If no one minds........If we havent heard from our past BOTW by tomorrow morning, I would like to nominate the next BOTW.

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no I wanna! lol

hahaha...

and its sort of unfair that she gets a short week now. I really wish I had seen the threads before.

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its ok. she can still do the same amt of qotds, includind a monday one. i'm doing it now

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Posted by J79

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Posted by futurestevens

i agree!

i know who i would nominate - she's such a positive person and is always quick to help the other brides on this site. i think she deserves the recognition of BOTW. plus, she has some of the cutest epics around

let's see how the other ladies (including last week's BOTW J79) feel about passing the veil to another bride, but my vote is for Jenn to nominate someone else

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If Beth does not want to do BOTW, then I think it's only fair if I get to pick the next one since 'my pick' declined. I too, was between 2 people and I would like to pick the other one.

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agreed...pick away! noooo whammies! nooo whammies!

sorry, my age is showing through.

i agree. i think that everyone is absolutely entitled to their own opion and i would never tell someone that they have to view things the same way i do nor would i want anyone to think i am coming from a place where i feel like i am talking down to them.

i think its a great idea to tell your FH nice things about why you are happy about marrying them- but i don't think that has to take the place of someone getting to rock the veil. IMO i think we can do both- speak kindly to our FH's and one another and answer daily questions. I dont think it has to be one or the other.

personally, i was chosen by a girl i had never met before and i chose someone that IMO is always positive, honest and kind. neither portrayed any underlying sense of 'popularity'. i hate when people feel hurt, left out, or fight!!

i'm sure there are many girls on this board who have yet to be BOTW and would truly be flattered to be chosen and have the chance to have their questions heard. i do not think it's fair to deny anyone that considering it is a tradition that comes along with this site, not something created by a 'clique' in the past few months.

instead of prolonging the dramatics of what ever went on on the boards in the past- i agree that it is time to get back to what girls come to this site for- wedding planning insight from other brides! We need a BOTW to lead us by example to play nice again!

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Posted by bethie853

With all due respect girls, it is absolutely NOT your decision to make. If you can't live without a BOTW nor respect how I asked the week to play out, then Jenn can pick again.

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Its not the end of the world if we dont have a botw, thats not the point. Its a tradition on the boards to have one...from the beginning of when this community was created. Its not something that we just made up to promote our 'friends' for the week. Its meant to be a fun thing...an honor.....If you dont wish to participate, thats totally your decision and as many of us said, we respect that. We are just saying that its not fair to just not have one at all....whether that means that Jenn picks a new one or we do...so be it. Definitely Jenn has the right to choose who she wants.

lets just get this whole thing over with so theres no popcorn developed from this

J- pick a new bride of the week
bethie- while everyone has the right to want to spend it one way or another, there seems to be a tradition here and it hink a lot of the girls look forward to the question of the week.

Also, the list wouldn't be a good idea for the brides that come on here occasionally now and are active all of next year. They would miss the 'list' thread and then NEVER get considered.

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Posted by marisagee

It's a tradition, I understand that part. if she doesn't want to participate and follow quasi-rules for the BOTW then that's her prerogative.

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Thank you! And to the other girls who supported me on the ORIGINAL 'BOTW' thread. Who listed the rules anyway?

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Posted by bethie853

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Posted by allornil

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Posted by kedra5

If no one minds........If we havent heard from our past BOTW by tomorrow morning, I would like to nominate the next BOTW.

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no I wanna! lol

hahaha...

and its sort of unfair that she gets a short week now. I really wish I had seen the threads before.

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REALLY? It's 3.10pm on Monday.

You girls are too much.

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geez honestly what is your deal? I dont even care what anyone says anymore. why do you NEED to start? really?

some girls may feel slighted. My point is valid and just because YOU feel its beneath you to be BOTW, or you feel its YOUR right to change tradition, it isn't. so if thats how you feel, seriously, just dont participate. Other girls definitely want to.

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Posted by allornil

geez honestly what is your deal? I dont even care what anyone says anymore. why do you NEED to start? really?

some girls may feel slighted. My point is valid and just because YOU feel its beneath you to be BOTW, or you feel its YOUR right to change tradition, it isn't. so if thats how you feel, seriously, just dont participate. Other girls definitely want to.

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Assumptions again.

Enough.

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Posted by futurestevens

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Posted by aquag12283

Agree! I would totally want to be BOTW. Maybe we can start a list of girls that would like to be BOTW so that the BOTW can choose from the list so we don't have this happening. Its just a thought!

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this is a great idea to avoid picking people who would prefer not to participate (which is totally fine), but gives the girls who want to participate a chance to wear the veil

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I agree!! we should make a list!

Why is this now becoming more drama?

Everyone respects your decision Beth, it's nothing against you or anyone else. If you choose not to participate that is completely your choice and as I said - I do understand where your coming from.

However, there are a lot of girls who would love to be BOTW so instead of not having one this week let's just pick a new one. No harm done right?

Let's all play nice girls, we're supposed to be friends.

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Posted by marisagee

Also, the list wouldn't be a good idea for the brides that come on here occasionally now and are active all of next year. They would miss the 'list' thread and then NEVER get considered.

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I'll make sure i bump it and if anyone else sees it getting low, they can do the same

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Posted by bethie853

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Posted by allornil

geez honestly what is your deal? I dont even care what anyone says anymore. why do you NEED to start? really?

some girls may feel slighted. My point is valid and just because YOU feel its beneath you to be BOTW, or you feel its YOUR right to change tradition, it isn't. so if thats how you feel, seriously, just dont participate. Other girls definitely want to.

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Assumptions again.

Enough.

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enough? wow..maybe you should take your own advice babe.

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Posted by kedra5

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Posted by marisagee

Also, the list wouldn't be a good idea for the brides that come on here occasionally now and are active all of next year. They would miss the 'list' thread and then NEVER get considered.

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I'll make sure i bump it and if anyone else sees it getting low, they can do the same

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What are the rules of being BOTW anyway? I've never seen this thread.

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Posted by marisagee

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Posted by kedra5

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Posted by marisagee

Also, the list wouldn't be a good idea for the brides that come on here occasionally now and are active all of next year. They would miss the 'list' thread and then NEVER get considered.

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I'll make sure i bump it and if anyone else sees it getting low, they can do the same

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What are the rules of being BOTW anyway? I've never seen this thread.

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There are no rules...theres no minimum....theres no 'they have to be your friend'....theres nothing....other than you choose a person that is helpful and friendly. Someone that promotes fun and wedding related and Not wedding related items on the boards.