Bridal Party help needed!!! (Long)

Hi! I know this board is always slow on the weekends, but I'll ask anyway. We've been planning on having a Kings Court Wedding. (All males in the bridal party) The reason for this is that my 12 year old cousin is my buddy. I've always been really close to him. I've been there with him since before he was born. So, till this day, I've wanted him to be my Man of Honor at my wedding. We have a very special relationship. Anyway, because of this choice, I felt it would be a lot easier to have only males in the bridal party to make life easier for me. I do have a sister, but our whole lives we never got along. We talk once every couple of months, but that's it. So, I felt we aren't close enough for her to be in my wedding. Is that wrong??? Also, all my life I've only really had guy friends, not girlfriends. I can only come up with one female friend to be in my party. Well, my dad, grandmother and FMIL thinks I should have my sister in my wedding party. They say it's tradition, and my FMIL thinks it will bring us closer, etc., etc. If I have my sister, I'll have to have my FSIL, etc. And if I don't have one person, then another person will get angry. It's becoming the same on the male side. If we invite this one to be in the party, then that one will want to, and that one will get mad. AAAAAAAhhhhhh! We don't know what to do? My FMIL says do what you want, it's your wedding, but you should have your sister in it and FSIL in it. My mom likes the Kings Court Wedding. She understands where I'm coming from and says do what we want it's our wedding. If people get mad then tough!!! I don't know. Everyone is giving me a guilt trip and making me feel bad. What should I do???? :(

Bridal Party help needed!!! (Long)

You can`t please everyone and know matter what you do someone will have something to say baout it. I think you should listen to your mom. It`s your wedding so do what makes you happy.

Bridal Party help needed!!! (Long)

Do what you want..It is your wedding day. Whatever makes you happy is what everyone should agree on. They have to remember that it is YOUR wedding day, not theirs. I'm sure if you discuss it with your fiance, you will come up with something! Good luck=:)

Bridal Party help needed!!! (Long)

You should do what makes you and your fiance happy, as it is YOUR wedding day. No matter what your choices, there are going to be people who don't like what you do. Selecting your bridal party is a really important thing and you want to be comfortable and happy with who you choose. I know when I first got engaged, I asked an old friend of mine to be my MOH b/c I felt like I had to even though our friendship had been rocky and whatever in recent years (but we'd always said we'd be one anothers MOHs) and it wound up being a disaster. We aren't even friends anymore. So who you choose in your bridal party is an important thing. Yes, it may absolutely bring you closer to your sister and make your relationship better . . . or it may make things more stressful and difficult for you when you're planning one of the most important days of your life. Lots of luck and keep us posted.

Bridal Party help needed!!! (Long)

A few things to thing about: How will you feel if your sister is in your wedding party vs. not? How will you feel if she is upset about not being in your wedding party. Not to sound like a broken record here, but its true. Its your wedding do what is ultimately going to make you and your FI happy. That may mean taking the feelings of others into consideration.

Bridal Party help needed!!! (Long)

there is no way to please everyone! the only two people that have to be happy on your wedding day is you and your groom. good luck!

Bridal Party help needed!!! (Long)

A friend of mine is also having a King's wedding, yet she is including a MOH and a flower girl. The couple decided on a King's style wedding party to avoid problems similar to what you're experiencing. Just keep in mind that you can do whatever you want, and that there are no rules for a bridal party selection. If you wanted to choose your sister as the only girl, by all means do it.

Bridal Party help needed!!! (Long)

Melissa, Been there done that! I can really undersatnd your feelings. IMO don't bend to accomodate others. Do what will truly make you and your FI happy.