Bridal Party Regrets

Diana508 Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:37 PM

Bridal Party Regrets

I think I should've waited longer to ask...actually, now I know I should've. I've heard many stories, but was wondering who'd change it if they could.

eternitybride Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:38 PM

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I have some regrets, but the person that I would have excluded if I had to do it over again wound up bowing out of the bridal party, so it kinda worked out.

Situations came up, things changed and it would have been really uncomfortable

MarjorieFrank Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:39 PM

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Opps I voted for the wrong thing.

I DEF should have waited to ask!!!!!!!!!! I am kicking out 2 girls from my BP

halfbaked Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:39 PM

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Should've waited, I didn't know the rules!

StaceyWill Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:40 PM

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I only have two ladies in my BP and no regrets.

Diana508 Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:41 PM

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I wish I had the same courage I'm kind of waiting to see if she's going to bow out b/c our friendship (or lack thereof) has changed so much.

mariedsgn Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:41 PM

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no regrets. . . . yet!

lillisa Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:42 PM

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i should have waited. i asked 4 family members FSIL and 1 friend. i think i should have just stuck with family. i am having second thoughts about the friend

Im_My_Own_Princess Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:42 PM

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I would have waited.. a LOOOOOOOOOOOONG time.. my mOH gave me problems... but as of right now, we're good..
one BM stepped out, due to finances.
I haven't officially asked one of them, and I don't want to, but FH and FMIL do.
for the most part my BP was 'assumed'

Iluvpoodles Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:45 PM

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Posted by Diana508

I wish I had the same courage I'm kind of waiting to see if she's going to bow out b/c our friendship (or lack thereof) has changed so much.

I have the exact same problem. How are you going about this? Just not keeping in touch with her hoping that she will step down.

Lsorrent Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:45 PM

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No regrets.....I'm VERY happy with my BP There was one girl that I had contemplated asking, but didn't, and now I'm happy that I didn't.

miamimerger Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:46 PM

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I am so happy I asked only 3 girls to be in my BP...

...however, I originally wanted to ask one more person. I am glad I didn't because I know how difficult it would have been on her as a grad student with no income. As I know her very well, she wouldn't have been able to vocalize when to tell the other BMs that she couldn't afford things, and I didn't want to put her in an even more financially difficult situation.

Diana508 Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:46 PM

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Posted by Iluvpoodles

Posted by Diana508

I wish I had the same courage I'm kind of waiting to see if she's going to bow out b/c our friendship (or lack thereof) has changed so much.

I have the exact same problem. How are you going about this? Just not keeping in touch with her hoping that she will step down.

Yup, I think that's what I'm going to do. I'm so non-confrontational. I hope she feels the same way and bows out. It wouldn't surprise me if she did.

Future Mrs P Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:48 PM

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I am really happy with my BP. I know my MOH doesn't have a ton of money, but I don't really want them to go above and beyond for like the bach party or anything because I know this so its all worked out great!!

Iluvpoodles Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:49 PM

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Posted by Diana508

Posted by Iluvpoodles

Posted by Diana508

I wish I had the same courage I'm kind of waiting to see if she's going to bow out b/c our friendship (or lack thereof) has changed so much.

I have the exact same problem. How are you going about this? Just not keeping in touch with her hoping that she will step down.
Yup, I think that's what I'm going to do. I'm so non-confrontational. I hope she feels the same way and bows out. It wouldn't surprise me if she did.

Yeah but what happens if she don't step down? That's what I'm afraid of. I was thinking of going the same way. I mean I've heard from pretty much everyone that you can't ask someone to step down.

StellaStar13 Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:57 PM

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The 1 person I dont want in the bridal party actually isn't in it anymore so in the end it worked out BUT I wish I had never asked her. My major boo-boo was asking ppl right away. FH tried to tell me that I needed to wait but I was afraid of upsetting ppl by waiting to ask. Also here is a HUGE stinger...I love my MOH, she is one of my oldest and dearest friends BUT she lives about 5 hrs away from me and I never see her and hardly EVER talk to her. I think I def still ask her to be a BM but would of asked my other BM to be MOH. sigh rough stuff!

MikesBride2B Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:58 PM

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I love my 3 girls and have absolutely no regrets about asking them

christine2010 Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:58 PM

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i have regrets about the bridal party.

when the guys are more interested in the wedding plans & ask to see my dress you know there is a problem.

AngnShaun Posted: Dec 01, 2009 02:58 PM

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everyone would be the same... i would actually add one more girl

Diana508 Posted: Dec 01, 2009 03:00 PM

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Posted by Iluvpoodles

Posted by Diana508

Posted by Iluvpoodles

Posted by Diana508

I wish I had the same courage I'm kind of waiting to see if she's going to bow out b/c our friendship (or lack thereof) has changed so much.

I have the exact same problem. How are you going about this? Just not keeping in touch with her hoping that she will step down.
Yup, I think that's what I'm going to do. I'm so non-confrontational. I hope she feels the same way and bows out. It wouldn't surprise me if she did.

Yeah but what happens if she don't step down? That's what I'm afraid of. I was thinking of going the same way. I mean I've heard from pretty much everyone that you can't ask someone to step down.

If she doesn't, she doesn't. I think it's going to be weird, but after the wedding it'll prob be it. I've put in so much effort and she hasn't. A friendship shouldn't be so difficult to maintain. She knows nothing about my life and I nothing about hers.

I don't feel right asking her to back down. I don't think there's anything I can do. I think it will be so much worse if I ask her to step down than accepting that someone that's more like an acquaintance at this point in my life is in my bridal party.

edited for typo