Bridal shower upset -With Poll**UPDATED**

My cousin who made a big deal that I didnt ask her to be in the BP has not RSVP's for my shower this coming weekend. I have called her 3 times as well as my mom and SIL. I tricked her and called from my work phone and Finally got an answer.

She said shes waited to respond because she finally realized that she hates showers thinks they are the total waste of time and $$ and doesnt believe in them. But she'll come to mine.

Im a bit offended. I admit sometimes oohing and ahhing about a carrot peeler isnt the funniest but you get to hang out with your friends and loved ones. Isnt that what its about?? Not obligation.


UPDATE**** She called me back to ask if I would be mad and I obviously said yes and that I made her part of my ceremony because she means something to me. If she didnt want to come thats fine but I would be upset. After a talk about this and that shes got some issues that shes working thru and not being married or in a relationship was one of them. I guess it reminds her of how single and alone she feels. BUT we are all good now. Now to find her a single man to snap her out of it!!!

PS thanks for all your comments. I appreciate being able to vent

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Posted by missK

My cousin who made a big deal that I didnt ask her to be in the BP has not RSVP's for my shower this coming weekend. I have called her 3 times as well as my mom and SIL. I tricked her and called from my work phone and Finally got an answer.

She said shes waited to respond because she finally realized that she hates showers thinks they are the total waste of time and $$ and doesnt believe in them. But she'll come to mine.

Im a bit offended. I admit sometimes oohing and ahhing about a carrot peeler isnt the funniest but you get to hang out with your friends and loved ones. Isnt that what its about?? Not obligation.

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whaaaaaat!? How old is this cousin?

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Posted by Ayne11

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Posted by missK

My cousin who made a big deal that I didnt ask her to be in the BP has not RSVP's for my shower this coming weekend. I have called her 3 times as well as my mom and SIL. I tricked her and called from my work phone and Finally got an answer.

She said shes waited to respond because she finally realized that she hates showers thinks they are the total waste of time and $$ and doesnt believe in them. But she'll come to mine.

Im a bit offended. I admit sometimes oohing and ahhing about a carrot peeler isnt the funniest but you get to hang out with your friends and loved ones. Isnt that what its about?? Not obligation.

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whaaaaaat!? How old is this cousin?

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shes 35 and she will probably never get married with the attitude shes got currently.

ooooohhhhhh! Bitter, table for one!

That's just not right! if she's stroking about money then she should be so glad you didn't ask her to be a BM.

it's your day, and if she's gonna act spiteful and childish don't keep calling her to come. She's the one that's going to look the fool.

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Posted by Ayne11

ooooohhhhhh! Bitter, table for one!

That's just not right! if she's stroking about money then she should be so glad you didn't ask her to be a BM.

it's your day, and if she's gonna act spiteful and childish don't keep calling her to come. She's the one that's going to look the fool.

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Its not even about the $$ its about her inconvience and the fact that shes restricts her diet so that she can only eat weird cooked only by her food. (dont get me started) I love her and hate to talk about her but she got to be kidding..

I'm sorry

I'm sorry I just have to add this...it's like you see everyone's true colors come out in these times. I know someone had said this before but it's sooo true. I don't want to steal your thread...I will make another post to elaborate.

Good luck sweetie and try not to let her get to you.

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Posted by LoveRocks

Ugh thats really awful of her!! If it were me, I'd call her back from another number she won't recognize and tell her not to bother coming. Its supposed to be about sharing in someone else's happiness and if she can't do that, then let her stay home.

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I agree!

sorry that your cousin is treating you like this- sounds like she is jealous but still no excuse

It's a shame sometimes when people decide to open their mouths.

Don't let her rain on your parade!!! Have a WONDERFUL time!!!

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

I'm sorry I just have to add this...it's like you see everyone's true colors come out in these times. I know someone had said this before but it's sooo true. I don't want to steal your thread...I will make another post to elaborate.

Good luck sweetie and try not to let her get to you.

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That is SOOOOO True!!!

I love showers. It's so exciting to see the bride so happy.

Don't let someone else's unhappiness ruin your happiness.

Tell her by all means, a simple 'no' would have been sufficient and that you didn't need to hear that showers are a waste of her time.

I'm sorry she's a scutch.

Thats so mean of her , obvs she is pissed that you didn't ask her to be in your BP but that certainly doesn't give her the right to be an a-hole !

Can someone say Hater!
Sorry but your cousin sounds like a real hater.
I understand about showers not being the most fun party in the world but get over it, it's not about you, and every situation is only as much fun as you make it.

people just really suck-im learning this the hard way as well.