Brides w/ children..

Are you doing anything special during the ceremony so that your child/children are included? Our son is going to be the bestman (since he will be a few months shy of 2 yrs someone else will sign as a witness) But I feel like we should have something else as well. Any suggestions/thoughts???
Thanks!

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We are meeting with the priest this week and that is one of the things we are going to discuss. I definately want to include the little one, although she'll only be three months old by then. I am thinking about maybe a reading about family or having him bless our family or something to that effect but we'll see what the priest says - I'll let you know what he suggests after we meet with him. When one of my friends got married, the priest had her seven year old stepson come up, the three of them took hands and they said some vows together. It was so cute - I cried.

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I have 1 daughter but she will be 21 then. She is one of my bridesmaids.

Jodi

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I have a 6 year old and he will also be the best man.
I am actually meeting with the rabbi in about an hour to go over everything.
We also want to do an exchanging on the rings with him as well..
Durring the reception we are having a dance with him right after our dance..
Any other suggestions would be great for me as well
I'll let you guys know what ideas the rabbi has tonight as well

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Our situation is a little different because our kids are from previous relatioships.
My son is 15, he is a groomsman(we asked him to be the best man but he said he didn't want to be in the spotlight too much) my Fi's daughter is 8 she's our flower girl. Our Invites mentioned our children & that we are becoming a new family. We are doing vows before our unity candle(then we will all light together)called the circle of acceptance-


Brian & Nicole-you will have a share in this marriage, for your lives will be touched by the promises made by your mother and father today. Your participation will be needed to develop the bonds of this new family. We now ask you to promise that you will all join together to create a family of mutual help, respect and support.

We ask that you help to create a home and a way of life in which all of you may grow into the best people you can be. In this spirit, will you pledge to continue to grow together and honor this new family for all the days that follow?

The kids respond: 'We will.'

Kelly & Rich as you give yourselves to one another in love and loyalty, will you also promise always to keep room in your new life together for Brian & Nicole? Will you commit yourselves to respect and honor them as individuals and members of this family? Will you pledge to cherish, encourage and tenderly care for them as long as they need you?

Couple responds: 'We will.'

We will light our candle after that.
We also took our epics with our kids, took them to our food tasting, let them pick a couple of songs they want to hear & a bunch of other details.

Three weeks to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!YIPPEEEEEEEEEE!!

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My firend was just married and her son from another relationship was the ring bearer and they gave him a medallion on a cahin as part of the ceremony. They each had one end of the chain and they put it on his neck together. The minister said a little speech about what was happening.

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IrishTracy, I think it's great that your son will be the Best Man! Our daughter will have just turned 3 when we get married, so we're trying to figure out what her role could be in the ceremony (it all depends on whether or not whe will cooperate!). Should we make her a flower girl? I don't really have any other chiledren in the ceremony aside from her & her cousin who will be ring bearer.

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Friends of ours were just married this summer, and the bride has two young daughters from a previous marriage. During the ceremony, after the bride and groom exchanged vows, the groom said a 'vow' to his new daughters and presented both girls with lockets, which represent his covenant to them. It was extremely sweet and very emotional - lots of tears of joy for the new family. I felt it was a beautiful gesture, and a loving way to include the girls in the commitment their mom made to her new husband, and their new father.

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Lilgrape- My FH was insisting (sp) on it! When we asked te Priest at first he laughed. But when he took a second to think about it. He said that he thought it was a great idea. And that our son should be on the alter with us!

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My son was 8 when I got re-married and he actually 'gave' me away, he was so proud

For those of us with children fron previous marriages there is a family medallion ceremony that can be incorporated in the actual ceremony

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By boys are going to be our ringbearers. They dont realy know whats going on since they call Jason their dad anyway. At least it seems like they dont

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I have a 6 year old daughter and the reverend said he will have her join us up at the alter and say a prayer for her.

I like what RichsBride is doing. I think I may use that idea along with the prayer. Thanks RichsBride!!

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Anytime Nanjoe!