Bridesmaid Doens't Want To Wear Makeup?

Ugh, I'm about to cry!

I suggested that one of the other bridesmaids can help her with makeup or my FH's sister can help 'cus she's good at it. Then i explained that any other day it doesnt matter but for wedding photos, I would like her to look her best


She answers:

'If you would like me to look my best then I prefer my makeup done by a Professional Makeup artist. '

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Posted by eden

Ugh, I'm about to cry!

I suggested that one of the other bridesmaids can help her with makeup or my FH's sister can help 'cus she's good at it. Then i explained that any other day it doesnt matter but for wedding photos, I would like her to look her best


She answers:

'If you would like me to look my best then I prefer my makeup done by a Professional Makeup artist. '

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Ok, now she's being a brat. I feel that you can't force your BMs to get their hair/makeup done if you aren't going to pay for it but, in turn, they should be able to have it done on their own. Here you are telling her though that you aren't paying for it and if she can't pay for it, some other options she can explore and basically, she wants her make up done and she wants you to pay for it!

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Posted by eden

Ugh, I'm about to cry!

I suggested that one of the other bridesmaids can help her with makeup or my FH's sister can help 'cus she's good at it. Then i explained that any other day it doesnt matter but for wedding photos, I would like her to look her best


She answers:

'If you would like me to look my best then I prefer my makeup done by a Professional Makeup artist. '

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What a __________!!! Some people have some nerve. Don't stress over it. End of the day everyone will be looking at you and how beautiful you are. If you do end up paying for her make up....don't get her a gift.

She is being ridiculous. I can understand if she doesn't have money and couldn't afford to get make-up done, but you gave her helpful options. If she doesn't want to pay for a make-up artist and does not want her make-up done by other BM's then tough luck. Tell her to figure it out on her own or to not wear make-up. Your not going to look bad, she will. I am sorry she is acting like this and you have to deal with this

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Posted by MJDoc12

ugh...what a BRAT. seriously...why do people have to make things difficult.

i'd let her know that if she doesn't wear a single ounce of MU...then she will be all 'washed out' in the pics, and will look terrible, and draw attention to herself that she doesn't want.

put your foot down on this one---even if the others have to help her...she MUST wear MU that day. i mean seriously, you're not asking for much!

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once again melissa-- ding ding ding!!!!

seriously...now she's just being a B****. don't give ion...but more importantly... DO NOT let this stress you anymore! its so not worth it...just know you tried, and YOU'LL look like a million bucks that day! thats all that really matters anyway. your wedding will be as wonderful as you imagined it...these silly little things are just that..silly and little. let it go and enjot yhe next 2 1/2 weeks!!!!

With all the other problems she's caused you, I personally would just let her not wear makeup, and then tell the photographer that you don't especially want a lot of pictures of her.

You can do any combinations of portraits so that you have pictures without her in them, and you just don't need to print them for your album.

I can't believe she's taking it this far! It all depends on whether you think she's worth the money, aggrivation, or time. After what you told me about her, I wouldn't think so.

She's expecting you to give in so she can get what she wants. But that is not what your wedding day is about. I wish you strength to resist her ruining anything for you!!

ladies i don't know if it's wedding nerves or not but i'm in tears as i'm typing this...

my bridesmaid has basically said to me that she wants a professional to do it, and she wants me to pay for it, OR she doesn't want to make any effort to wear makeup at all.

I'm at my wits end and I need some hugs or some kinda support. I'm ready to give this girl the boot, she's been nothing but drama for me.

If a BM doesn't want to wear makeup, then I say, okay. My mom doesn't wear makeup and she was beautiful on my wedding day. IMO, a BM not wearing makeup is no big deal. There are many other things to worry about.

And did I read that right? You said you were going to pay for it, but just backed out of that with only a few weeks to go? To me, that doesn't seem right. Again, JMO.

I'm so sorry she is upsetting you

Don't let her get you down! This is your wedding day!! I wouldn't even respond to her regarding the 'professional makeup artist' comment. Ignore it and concentrate on you and your FH and how wonderful your day is going to be!

I've got my fingers crossed that whole drama works it self out

i have to be totally 110% honest on this one....but if she has been a total PITA from the beginning of the planning....and is being a brat about the MU and demanding you pay.....i would seriously consider how good of a friend this person is, and whether you truly want her to be standing next to you on the most important day of your life.

it's not about the MU.....it's about her now willing to do something for you. she's basically giving YOU an ultimatum, and that is just sad. she obviously can't get off her high horse, and is trying to make you feel so guilty, you'll cave into her.

ask yourself this: after your wedding--now that you've seen her true colors---what kind of a future relationship do you see having with her? in 5...10...15...20 years? when you look at your wedding photos in years to come, will you look upon her with regret?

sometimes i think we get caught up in the wedding planning, and don't want to 'cause drama' with BM's and such.. but remember that the ppl who stand with you on your day, should be there for YOU. not to cause you stress and tears.

like it said--this isn't just about a BM not wanting make up...it's about her not wanting to be there for someone who is supposed to be a good friend!!

thanks mjdoc, i know my relationship with this bridesmaid has deterioriated to a point where i don't even know i'll even want to speak to her again after the wedding.

she's my SIL so I can't do anything about giving her the boot (my family may just boycott the wedding) so i guess lesson learned is make sure you really know someone b4 you ask them to be a part of your wedding, especially when it comes to SIL or other relatives!

ok honestly when i first read your post it thought you meant that she didnt want professional makeup and i didnt really get it bc i have never gotten professional makeup and i have been in 17 billion weddings

but as i am reading through the posts - this isnt even about makeup!!!

a true friend would not be doing this to you

One of my BM's has a hair lady that she LOVES but when i asked her if she could get her hair done at my house so i could make the minimum ( for god knows how much more money) she said no problemo and that was the end of it

sounds like princess is a little jealous about the attention you are getting and has decided to get some attention of her own even if it IS negative -

honestly, her NOT wearing make up will only make YOU look that much more beautiful . . . BUT I am thinking maybe she is only 'tough' one on one with you and maybe she will feel embarrassed once everyone is at your house getting ready?

Maybe I'm just harsh, but I would tell her that she sounds like a spoiled brat. Tell her she can do whatever she wants, but you will not be bullied into paying for her hair and makeup- it's one or the other; her choice. Do not back down to her. This is your wedding day, not 'let's make a deal.'

ETS- since she's your SIL, can you ask your brother to talk to her?

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Posted by ronnysbride

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Posted by eden

Ugh, I'm about to cry!

I suggested that one of the other bridesmaids can help her with makeup or my FH's sister can help 'cus she's good at it. Then i explained that any other day it doesnt matter but for wedding photos, I would like her to look her best


She answers:

'If you would like me to look my best then I prefer my makeup done by a Professional Makeup artist. '

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What a __________!!! Some people have some nerve. Don't stress over it. End of the day everyone will be looking at you and how beautiful you are. If you do end up paying for her make up....don't get her a gift.

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I totally agree. Wow! She's got some nerve....What a self centered spoiled b!tch for putting the BRIDE through this sh!t! Unbelievable!

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Posted by nferrandi

This is your wedding day, not 'let's make a deal.'

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You're totally right.

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Posted by nferrandi

ETS- since she's your SIL, can you ask your brother to talk to her?

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I was just about to say this.