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Aphrodite07 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:10 PM+

Aphrodite07 MEMBER SINCE: 5/05 TOTAL POSTS : 342 WEDDING DATE: Sep 17, 2006

Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:10 PM

BridesMaid Issues

Over the weekend I had one of my BMs mom call me to to give me a piece of her mind. She was like Why do we have to pay for alterations seperately. Thats ridiculous! I was like ummm .. i guess your daughter has never been in a wedding before. You have to pay extra for everything! I really didnt need her mom to call me GOD!!!

Also- Should I pay for all my BMs shoes?

RadioLau Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:12 PM+

RadioLau MEMBER SINCE: 11/05 TOTAL POSTS : 1858 WEDDING DATE: Jul 16, 2006

Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:12 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

The nerve of some people!! I would only pay for the shoes if you are including that as their gift. Otherwise they are on their own. HTH

suzybilly819 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:38 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:38 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

Hear something new everyday. Stinks that the Mom called but she will be learning alot.

Never had my shoes paid for yet. They get pricey.

nicothy Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:40 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:40 PM

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You should not have to pay for all there shoes.

kristina Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:42 PM+

kristina MEMBER SINCE: 4/06 TOTAL POSTS : 118 WEDDING DATE: Oct 14, 2006

Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:42 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

Can I ask how old this BM is?

Tina120206 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:44 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 04:44 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

Seriously, how old is she? And no, you don't pay for their shoes.

JXNOscar Posted: Apr 17, 2006 05:42 PM+

JXNOscar MEMBER SINCE: 7/05 TOTAL POSTS : 2263 WEDDING DATE: Oct 14, 2006

Posted: Apr 17, 2006 05:42 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

you do not pay for shoes. You need to have a chat with your bm and let them know whats expected of them. The mother calling you was totally unfair. Sorry you had to deal with that.

ewickens Posted: Apr 17, 2006 07:12 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 07:12 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

The MOM called you?! That seems like the BM can't handle herself to be able to talk to you like an adult - person to person.

Secondly, I don't think you need to buy their shoes. Let them buy what is comfortable for them or if you want them all the same - then do it that way. If you want to pay for something, try their day of jewelry or their make up or hair.

SweetCin704 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 07:16 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 07:16 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

I don't think you need to pay for anything (shoes, etc.)

Like the other girls I don't get that the girls' mom called you....can the girl not speak for herself? Also who ever heard of not having to pay extra for alterations.

Sorry you have to deal w/ this....

npcaruso1611 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:09 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:09 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

I can't believe her mommy called!

bayla Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:10 PM+

bayla MEMBER SINCE: 7/05 TOTAL POSTS : 352 WEDDING DATE: Jun 24, 2006

Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:10 PM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

if they agreed to be a BM , then they should know they are pretty much responsible to buy their dress, shoes, etc unless you are giving a gift (e.g. jewelry, purse). Some people have nerve though

One of my BM is also making an issue about paying for alterations, she wants to pay $15 the most, for a hem, straps put on the dress and possible taken in a little...we keep telling her good luck finding someone to do all that for that price!

Mygmans Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:21 PM+

Mygmans MEMBER SINCE: 9/05 TOTAL POSTS : 895 WEDDING DATE: Nov 05, 2006

Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:21 PM

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I cant believe some people. I dont think you should have to pay for anything except for the gift you decide to give them. People should understand that when they accept an invitation into a bridal party there are usually a lot of expenses involved.

VadersBride2006 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:25 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:25 PM

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Sounds like we should start a new trend: when you ask someone to be in your bridal party, give them a nice greeting card and include a printed list of their duties (You can find them on The Knot or Wedding Channel) !!!

EJSD2006 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:31 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 09:31 PM

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Posted by ewickens

The MOM called you?! That seems like the BM can't handle herself to be able to talk to you like an adult - person to person.

Secondly, I don't think you need to buy their shoes. Let them buy what is comfortable for them or if you want them all the same - then do it that way. If you want to pay for something, try their day of jewelry or their make up or hair.

I know right!?!? How old is she that she has her mommy call you????

definitely don't pay for their shoes unless its part of your BM's gifts. everyone knows that there are extras that go along with being a BM.

beautyq115 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 10:02 PM+

beautyq115 MEMBER SINCE: 12/04 TOTAL POSTS : 16776 WEDDING DATE: Jul 16, 2006

Posted: Apr 17, 2006 10:02 PM

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A family member of one of my BM's called the bridal shop inquiring about why we had to get them so early..I felt so bad...she was apparently kind of nasty....My wedding is in July they were ordered in February...I dont know when this person thought we should have ordered them

CC59 Posted: Apr 17, 2006 11:00 PM+

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Posted: Apr 17, 2006 11:00 PM

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That's ridiculous. Why is this girl's mother calling you? Sorry this BM, and her mother, are giving you grief.

waterspout4 Posted: Apr 18, 2006 12:15 AM+

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Posted: Apr 18, 2006 12:15 AM

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Some people are so clueless. I had a BM drop out a few weeks before the wedding and she said she'd send me her dress back for a refund. Um, honey, you bought it. You realize who your friends are. Keep your chin up!

chloeme2 Posted: Apr 18, 2006 12:39 AM+

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Posted: Apr 18, 2006 12:39 AM

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Posted by npcaruso1611

I can't believe her mommy called!

There are all ypes of people in this world.

msnora Posted: Apr 18, 2006 01:54 AM+

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Posted: Apr 18, 2006 01:54 AM

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Only if you are giving them as a gift other than that they are responsible for buying their shoes

Preshy7 Posted: Apr 18, 2006 04:59 AM+

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Posted: Apr 18, 2006 04:59 AM

Re: BridesMaid Issues

are you kidding??? like you need that stress! thats b.s.!

im sorry you are dealing with a bm like that...very immature and annoying...hello! you say yes to being a BM you say yes to a bunch of costs...this will be a huge wakeup cal lfor her!!

as for shoes..i told my girls to buy silver strappy sandals..i dont care what they look like- as long as each girl likes them...they can be $10 they can be $300 each girl will buy their own and will hopefully wear them after the wedding.

good luck sweetie- try not to get stressed