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Can I fire my Coordinator?

Spitzergirl Posted:

Can I fire my Coordinator?

She is a friend of a friend, that knows my mom and me. So, far she acts like she is a General/Captin or a Superintendant......and I am a cadet!!!!

She is so bossy, and she behaved so weird at my bridal shower. She wanted me to annouce to everyone, that she is my wedding coordinator, at my bridal shower. She did not have nothing to do with the planning of the bridal shower. But, she is so strong...she kept repeating over and over to my mom, and to my friend, that when...the bridal shower does happen, I am to let all the guest know that she is the wedding coordintor. Which, to me does not make sense, if anyone needs to know...who the coordinator is , it will be when we are doing our rehersal dinner. I don't want to make an enemy before my wedding, and I do need her help for structural organizations...and such. She knows how to help people arrive to the church on time, taking pics, line up of the bridal party marching in and out of the church, setting up fun games to play at the reception...and so forth. She can keep a schedule moving. My mom and me are notorious for being late. But, the coordinator/she can be very manipulative.

She kinda forced herself on me, to let me help her with the planning. She, said, you have to make sure this, and this is done...and it was a whole big list of overwhelming things to do, and I was so shocked, ...that I just asked, her would she mind..helping me out. The good thing, out of this is she told me, I could pay her whatever I wanted meaning it could be $100.00 dollars for the day. But, now I want to get rid of her a$$. Thanks for listening!!!!!! Any comments feel free
prncssrachel Posted:

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Hmm, tough situation. I would sit her down and have a talk with her, and if that does not work, then I would ask her to hand over her papers that she has for you and just handle it yourself. HTH.

steph4777 Posted:

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Just sit her down and tell her to back off a little. In the end I think you will need the day of.

Spitzergirl Posted:

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bump

nferrandi Posted:

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I think you should be honets with her. Even though you're not paying her much, the fact that you're paying her at all makes her 'another vendor.' Let her know you appreciate her help and know that she will be really important in keeping things on a schedule, but due to your own personal style, you would appreciate it if she took it down a couple of notches. Tell her you don't really like being bossed around, if there's something she needs she can just ask and you will do your best to help. Take it from there and see what her reaction is.

james'pokey Posted:

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I agree with nferrandi. Put her in her place. When she agreed to be your coordinator she stepped down from her usual guest spot. She has not right to make you feel like she should have special recognition. When you got work do you constantly need recognition of who you are?
Bunnymonkey Posted:

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Sounds like she is a serious attention seeker and loves the spotlight. Watch out... She may try to take it from you on the wedding day!

If she can genuinely take a look at her behavior after you speak with her, and adjust, then great!! ...She is someone you can work with. But if she gets defensive, offended, and can't 'hear' you, then there is a problem and she's gotta go.

If she can't hear that, she will not be able to hear anything to do with the wedding, and the day will not be yours, it will be hers.

Good Luck and stick to your gut!
mikeysgirl Posted:

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WHY DO YOU EVEN NEED A COORDINATOR???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
nsgraham Posted:

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I'm so sorry Cheryl! Hire Judith!

You really need to have a conversation with this lady. Tell her all that you told us. If she's a b*tch about it, fire her.
jill13bean Posted:

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Posted by mikeysgirl

WHY DO YOU EVEN NEED A COORDINATOR???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????



exactly my thoughts.... i am in charge of my day
Spitzergirl Posted:

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Posted by mikeysgirl

WHY DO YOU EVEN NEED A COORDINATOR???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????



My fh is asking me the same thing!!!!

I think, she pushed, herself on me. She is very controlling and has total control of the Flower girls mom. Which is my original friend!!!!!
Spitzergirl Posted:

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Posted by nsgraham

I'm so sorry Cheryl! Hire Judith!

You really need to have a conversation with this lady. Tell her all that you told us. If she's a b*tch about it, fire her.



Hello nadine..................................

First off let me tell you, Your wedding was the most beautiful event I have been too. Everything was straight up GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!! AND THANKS FOR INVITING ME!!!!

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