So FH was asked by a friend to be the godfather of their second child. Now I have a HUGE problem with this b/c we ARE not religious people and I don't think its okay to not take it seriously and the he says 'well the parents said its okay if i'm not catholic they just want someone if something happens to them' but 1. their first child has the guys's brother so if something happened FH wouldn't take the child anyway and 2. if I wasn't chosen as a godmother for the same 'non religious' reasons I am not taking care of someone elses kid.
Is it me?!??!?!!?!?!??! or is FH and the friend correct????????
FH and the friend are NOT correct. You must be a babtized Catholic to be a godparent. Most parishes request a baptismal certificate from the godparents before the baptism.
sounds like FH's friend wants him in his child's life which is a beautiful gesture and why most people ask others to be godparents. However, there are absolutely NO legal responsibilities to being a godparent. it is a symbolic responsibility ONLY. god forbid something happened to him, if there is no will, the child legally goes to the next of kin (grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc.) he would have no responsibility in that regard.
znycgirl
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Because I'm becoming a god-mommy...
My mother was 'rejected' from god-parent-hood because she was married, but at City hall & not a Church. It must depend on the Church.
You do not have legal responsibility automatically...that has to be set up in other documentation...but this is often what is implied.
No one asked for anything from me...and we are doing the whole shin-dig in a week.
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on this sort of same topic.....can a single person who is engaged but not getting married in a church ---b/c they aren't religious at all----be a 'godparent'??????
im confused as to why a nonreligious person would be chosen as be a godparent or want to be a godparent for that matter, being that it is associated with a religious rite and it is a responsibility of a godparent to encourage and be involved in the religious/spiritual life of the child.
id suggest reading about or talking to the parish about the responsibilities of being a god-parent.
I agree-but I think that today most parents are the ones that take responsibility of their child religious upbringing more so then the God Parents, neither one of my god parents had anything to do with my going to religion or church on Sundays, etc. I think now parents choose 2 people that given unseen circumstances they can entrust the responsibility to them-and people that will be an important part of their childs life.
peg, i agree that nowadays most ppl likely choose based on who they would entrust their children to given something happened to them. however simply bc ppl in society are making the decision based more on this, it still does not take anything away from the fact of what being a godparent is SUPPOSED to entail from the viewpoint of the church- involvement in the religious upbringing of the child. its something i personally take seriously and plan to do w/ my niece. thats just me and i realize all ppl are different. again, regardless of difference, there is a set of responsibilities that apply to all godparents whether or not they choose to uphold them.
I agree, like I said-even tho I am not religious if I was asked i would be honored AND would make sure I followed thru with my responsibility for that childs religious upbringing. I was saying it as in there arent always people in someones life that are religious so what other choice do 2 people have-but they may want their child to have God Parents
