Re: Church prices - Holy crap! (no pun)

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsMango

honestly the church is around $800-$1500 but I don't really see what it is people complain about. The ceremony is the most important thing and people spend ten of thousands of dollars on the reception I don't get why people complain about such a minimal amount in the grand scheme of things. If you really had a hardship and couldn't afford a ceremony the church would still perform your marriage.

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My church was inexpensive but it is also my church for my entire life. I didn't care about the cost, this was the only place I would and wanted to get married.
I also think that if you are not a parishioner in a church they charge you more. They do not want to be treated like a catering hall and have people constantly coming for weddings only.

Church prices - Holy crap! (no pun) - Long Island Weddings

Any church, if you explain that you have a hardship, will work with you. However, soon2bemrsmango has a point in that the ceremony is the most important part of a wedding, not the party, which is why you should always book the church first, then the reception. I'm sure if you explain to them that you're having a hardship, they'll work with you. It was $50 to baptize my daughter in the church, but they listed it as a 'suggested donation' so if I'd said, look I can't afford $50 but I can give $30 I doubt very much they would say, nope sorry your daughter won't be welcomed to the catholic church without that $50.

All that being said, if you claim a hardship to the church and they find out you're paying $30K for a reception, they'll likely be less accommodating.

Re: Church prices - Holy crap! (no pun)

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Posted by Alimm729

Any church, if you explain that you have a hardship, will work with you. However, soon2bemrsmango has a point in that the ceremony is the most important part of a wedding, not the party, which is why you should always book the church first, then the reception. I'm sure if you explain to them that you're having a hardship, they'll work with you. It was $50 to baptize my daughter in the church, but they listed it as a 'suggested donation' so if I'd said, look I can't afford $50 but I can give $30 I doubt very much they would say, nope sorry your daughter won't be welcomed to the catholic church without that $50.

All that being said, if you claim a hardship to the church and they find out you're paying $30K for a reception, they'll likely be less accommodating.

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Re: Church prices - Holy crap! (no pun)

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Posted by xBudgetBridex

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Posted by katielynn

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Posted by xBudgetBridex

St Killian in farmingdale is $500 plus $250 for the organist and $250 for a singer. That's still only $1000!! I was gonna say maybe that $1600 it's for everything but that's still alot!
@soon2bemrsmango I think it's allot of money for people like me and starlzinkd bc one a church ceremony is not what we wanted, so it's hard to give a church that much money when u don't even want that! Two people are still on a budget, and when u think your church is going to charge half of what u expected it's a shell shock and hard to find the money.
No disrespect, just explaining bc I was in the same boat! My venue charged $750 and I thought by gong to the church I would save! And I'm not!

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If a church wedding isn't what you want... then don't do it.

Everything costs money. At the venue you're paying for the space. The church ... you're paying for the space and the priest. Just because it's a church doesn't make it free. They still have upkeep.

Yes. It's ridiculous to DOUBLE the cost after they already said one price but that should have been brought up.

Everybody is on a budget whether the budget is 10k or 100k... you HAVE to pay for a ceremony, marriage license and officiant. Wherever it may be. Everyone makes cuts somewhere.

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Its not that easy....I know both my self and starlzinkd have similar issues!
I'm having a March winter wedding so out side is not an option, my hall chapel is to small, I hate the idea of doing it in the same room!!!! And non denomination church's like she said are 1200$ being on s budget my church is the way to go! It's just not what I pictured!
I guess when planning and thinking of a church I thought how could a church be that much.....I ASSUMED( and you know what they say when u do that lol) it in total would be $500! My problem too is if I have to pay fot someone to clean up then someone should be able to clean up the rose pedals my fg throws but she isn't allowed!

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I'm also on a small budget and I have cut in areas that weren't AS important. I'm getting married at my venue and we asked our friend to get ordained. I too am having a winter wedding. $500 bucks and its done. If FH and I were the LEAST bit regligious... we'd gladly pay the suggested donation for a church. Hell... if we weren't so against God being mentioned in our vows (we're seriously not religious AT ALL)... I'd get married in a church just for the photos. I love older churches and the architecture of them. But I digress. Like I said in my previous post... EVERYONE has a budget. I didn't want to pay more than 1k for flowers. I would have b*tched and moaned for the entire two year engagement. So. I didn't pay for 1k for flowers. Its not a necessity. I didn't want them.

Your ceremony IS the necessity. That's the ENTIRE purpose of the day. I still maintain that if a church wedding isn't something you want... don't do it. I'm the first person in my family to not get married in a church. They have no idea and I'm sure they'll be pissed considering I come from a very Italian family. But. OH WELL. It's not us. Our wedding is us. Our ceremony is US. They don't like it... they don't have to come and they can save me the money at the reception.

You should NEVER assume the price of anything. And when that price you UNDERESTIMATED... doesn't work... you take from other places to MAKE it work. 100 bucks from the dress, photographer, centerpieces, invites... would make up the difference.

And in regards to the flower petals and clean up... a lot of churches don't allow it because its a hazard. You can slip and seriously hurt yourself. THAT is why you can't throw the flowers. And the person who has to clean up the church after... still needs to make a living.

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Really? If i tell them we are having a hardship you think they may help? Thing is we didn't officially BOOK with them when we got the lower pricing.. HOWEVER, we were tying to reach them for a mONTH and by the time they did call back, their prices had gone up.

I totally think the same.. that the ceremony is SUPER important.. if not for the ceremony there is no party but I just didn't know it was so much money for it and I just don't have it :( So I'm in a bit of panic. Maybe I'll call them back and explain that we weren't gonan go with them now because we simply aren't budgetted for these new prices but we WERE budgeted for the old ones..

Church prices - Holy crap! (no pun) - Long Island Weddings

I think everyone miss understood what I ment. Of course the ceremony is the most important part of this whole day. I.agree! I never meant that it wasn't! But its hard to swallow the price tag that's all. Especially when a church wasn't first choice, but I'm. Getting married at st killian I can afford the cost I just assumed less that's all. I not using thier singer or even organist to save and bc fh lives guitar so we r going to get a friends uncle who plays to play for us!