Church won't allow Hand Ceremony

I'm kind of upset, our 'old school' monsignor said it 'gets in the way' of the real mass and soon people will have all kinds of requests, that they have to draw the line somewhere.

I was really looking forward to this

Aww Cin, I'm sorry!! I'm trying to think of some other time that you could do it, doesn't have to be part of the actual ceremony. Maybe just have someone read it at your RD, the meaning is still there.

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With our hands, we make and affect the things that surround us and shape our lives. They can be considered a representation of who we are through what we choose to do. In any relationship, our actions speak volumes. Words are not enough to bind two people together. Their actions and, thus, their hands, bind them together as well.

Maid of Honor reads:
Cindy, please face Ray, and hold his hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. (Bride and groom should be facing each other, the groom’s upturned hands resting in the brides’.)

These are the hands, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.

These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within your womb.

These are the hands that look so large and clumsy, yet will be so gentle as he holds your baby for the first time.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

Best Man reads:
Ray, please hold Cindy’s hands, palms up, where you may see the gift that they are to you. (Bride should now place her upturned hands in the Groom’s hands.)

These are the hands, smooth, young, and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges her love and commitment to you all the days of her life.

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurts, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it’s time to let go.

These are the hands that will massage tension from your neck and back in the evenings, after you’ve both had a long hard day.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

They are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick or console you when you are grieving. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time she tells you that you are to have another child; that together you have created a new life.

Perhaps these are the hands that will comfort you when you are told you cannot have a child, and will convince you that together you will create new life in other ways.

These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams. Together, as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

Clergy reads:
Dear Father, bless the hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their love.

Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in your grace, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching for your perfection. May Cindy and Raymond see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter, and guide.

We ask this in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, who lives and reigns with you now and forever. Amen.

The ceremony is really beautiful, we did it in Pre Cana, but I think it might be too long for the ceremony, especially if you are already having a Mass.
I would love to do it too, but I think there are time constraints, since I think there is a ceremony after ours.

our hand ceremony will be a little different, not so religious.
I'm sorry Cindy thats so stinky of the church. Maybe you can do it at the RH or during the reception at some pont.

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Posted by cindyandkevin

Aww Cin, I'm sorry!! I'm trying to think of some other time that you could do it, doesn't have to be part of the actual ceremony. Maybe just have someone read it at your RD, the meaning is still there.

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That stinks...I'm sorry! My church said they would do it but that the mass really starts to drag on if you add all sorts of extras. He suggested doing it at the rehearsal...and talked about how it is a very special thing to share with your nearest and dearest. Just a thought!

I would be really upset. My church allowed it but no petal cones or rice stuff like that they are fussy on. You are paying all that money to get married there. I thought with the hand ceremony it was getting long so I asked if I could take out the second reading and she said yes, no problem. Ask if you can do that and remind them You are 'donating' so much to the church. The nerve! I am so sorry

I sort of had doubts as soon as I brought it up. We're getting married by the monsignor who is just about retiring & he's very OLD SCHOOL. On the list it says if you like you MAY select 1 of the following & it listed the unity candle/flowers to Mary/ or rose ceremony to parents & he was kind of downplaying those as well.

As soon as I told him what the hand ceremony was he said, we can not permit that (no ifs ands or buts).

As some of you know we just got 'clearance' to get married in our church & I don't want to make any undue waves.

I'm thinking maybe we'll do at RD...

Cindy I never heard of a hands ceremony but I think that is really beautiful.

If they won't do it at the church then maybe you could do it at the reception. I think even someone like your Dad could help with that if the monsignor won't be at the reception. Its really beautiful and I hope you can find some way to incorporate into your day.

You know, maybe we'll do that right after the toast. The version I have the best man/MOH reads....

thank you ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by SweetCin704

[OFFICIANT]

With our hands, we make and affect the things that surround us and shape our lives. They can be considered a representation of who we are through what we choose to do. In any relationship, our actions speak volumes. Words are not enough to bind two people together. Their actions and, thus, their hands, bind them together as well.

Maid of Honor reads:
Cindy, please face Ray, and hold his hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. (Bride and groom should be facing each other, the groom’s upturned hands resting in the brides’.)

These are the hands, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.

These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within your womb.

These are the hands that look so large and clumsy, yet will be so gentle as he holds your baby for the first time.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

Best Man reads:
Ray, please hold Cindy’s hands, palms up, where you may see the gift that they are to you. (Bride should now place her upturned hands in the Groom’s hands.)

These are the hands, smooth, young, and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges her love and commitment to you all the days of her life.

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurts, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it’s time to let go.

These are the hands that will massage tension from your neck and back in the evenings, after you’ve both had a long hard day.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

They are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick or console you when you are grieving. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time she tells you that you are to have another child; that together you have created a new life.

Perhaps these are the hands that will comfort you when you are told you cannot have a child, and will convince you that together you will create new life in other ways.

These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams. Together, as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

Clergy reads:
Dear Father, bless the hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their love.

Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in your grace, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching for your perfection. May Cindy and Raymond see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter, and guide.

We ask this in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, who lives and reigns with you now and forever. Amen.

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Who wrote it?

And, dont worry, your ceremony will be beautiful nonetheless

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Posted by espresso

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Who wrote it?

And, dont worry, your ceremony will be beautiful nonetheless

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I found it on another post on here I believe.