DAUGHTERS WHO FEEL ALONE (formerly Motherless/Parentless Daughters)................

As you all know I am planning this wedding without my Beloved Mommy....
I know she is in my heart and always with me, but it still is very difficult.
In fact living day to day I remember Mommy every single day and think about her all the time.

Luckily in discovering LIWeddings, I have also discovered many other 'Motherless Daughters' who share my sorrow and experiences.

Princess99 is also a Motherless Daughter. We have been talking in length about starting a group for Motherless Daughters to get together, talk about our experiences, give each other support, and cry on each other's shoulders. Maybe in doing so, we will help strengthen each other and also make some lifelong friends. We can talk about ways to remember our Mothers in our weddings, in our marraige, and even in the upbringing of our own children. Basically in everyday life, before and after marraige.

Our hope is that we can fill some of the emptiness we all feel, especially by being with others in our situation who understand and feel our pain.

Princess99 had once recommended to me a book called Motherless Daughters, that I bought for myself and since for many others.
Since then she came up with the idea of a group and we've been discussing it and think it's a great idea.

If you do also, and want to be a part of our group, let us know. You can respond to this thread, FM either Princess99 or myself, and let us know your thoughts. Any thoughts and ideas for the group are welcome.

Liz and Sue

EDIT TO SAY:
That I would also like to open this up to those who lost their Father or a Grandparent as well. If you feel you can benefit from this, please feel free to join. We are here for everyone

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Just wanted to give you & all those HUGS

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Liz..I just wanted to tell you that I'm so inspired by your strength!! I love you May buddy!!

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Liz~ I lost both parents so there are days that I feel why am I bothering planning this huge wedding but then I look at the family that I am marrying into and realize how lucky I am. But as the wedding does get closer the ANXIETY level is horriable. I think I will have to get that book, Thanks!

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Hi. Just wanted to send you my thoughts as I lost my mom as well. It's difficult, especially when I know she cannot be at my wedding, however, will be there in spirit. I am dancing with my brother in memory of my mom to a song she loved by Elvis called 'Memories'. It just so happens to be a great song and appropriate AND she danced with my brother at his wedding to this song. Just wanted to show my support to you!

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I am also a motherless daughter I have been since the young age of 7.My mother passed away from breast cancer at the very young age of 28.I have very little memory of my mother,my father remarried 6 months later We lost all contact with my mothers family,Growing up was very hard never even had a picture of mom.I belong to a website called Community Of Daughters it is a wonderful website.I also highly recommend The Motherless Daughters book & Letters written by motherless daughters,i believe the author is Hope Eddelson.I have finally found my mothers sister,she has been wonderful.My story could go on but i am glad this thread was started.I can relate and i hope to be able to reach out
Sincerly-Alexandria

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Remember you are never MOTHERLESS..

BC if you look up less in the dictionary it states w/out and THAT you are not..

She is here.. Just not in human form!

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I have to thank Liz as she brought me that book and gave it to me as a present. I have not had time to start reading it but I will soon.

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Wow Liz. You truly are so very special. As you know, I lost my mom in '96 and my dad in '00. I would love to be a part of this group. I love to talk about my mom all the time. She was the greatest person and my best friend. I miss her so much. Not having her by my side physically on my wedding day was truly sad, but I know she was there in spirit.
I would love to hear about all the mom's that have passed and tell you all about mine.

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Liz - I love the idea of this group. My mom passed away two years ago last Friday. I know planning this wedding without her has been the hardest part - she was in the hospital when I got engaged and I had really hoped that after she found out, that would be the thing that would help her to have something to get through it for, but it just wasn't to be. I too would love to have people to share with.

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For all you wonderful and strong women!!!!!

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I lost my father 13 years ago, and although we had a strained relationship and were not very close, I think about him every day.
I just want to say to all of you that have lost your mothers, I cannot imagine how hard this time in your life must be without them, but they are smiling down on you and I'm sure their hearts will be filled with pride on your wedding day.

Hugs to you all

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Thank you to all who would like to be a part, you can feel free to share any ideas. In the meantime, I'll let you all know how we will go about this. I may also FM you some ideas and get your feedback.

Thank you to all who give their support

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I also am without my mother except in my heart and my memories. She died when I was 27 and even though it will be 20 years this year, I still miss her every day. My dad left when I was 4 and though I found him again just after my mom died we were unable to develop a relationship and have not seen one another since then. I don't know if he is still alive or not.

DH's parents are also deceased so they were missing on our wedding day as well. But we made a point of remembering them on that day so we felt they were there with us in spirit.

It is hard to be sure, but take solace in the fact that you are not alone and that there are many people who love you.

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Wendy, thanks for sharing
It is comforting to know we're not alone

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These are the times when you miss your mother the most. My mother passed away 10 years ago this May. I was 19 and my sisters were 17 and 13.
I wish she could be here for my wedding. I get a little sad when I go to the bridal salon and see all these girls with their mothers trying on their dresses. But I guess God had a plan for her. I couldn't even talk about her until a few years ago with out getting really upset. She died of cervical cancer. My advice to all girls is to see their GYN on a regular basis. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts.

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b2b...so sorry to hear, and thanks for the advice. Hope your planning is going well

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Liz - I think this is a wonderful idea and would love to be a part of the group. I lost my mother when I was 12. I miss her all the time but feel especially sad now that I am planning my wedding without her. Joining everyone together will make this a little better.

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i would like to join the group. please count me in.

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Bump so we stay on the first page.
I feel so much better reading this post, I am glad I am not the only one. My mom died when I was 23 and my dad died on 2001, when I just turned 30.
To just sum it up, It stinks not to have either one when planning a wedding or anything else for that matter. I am still trying to clean out the house and it is emotionally draining on me, etc. If anyone else has some ideas let me know or LizLen know, feel free to e mail me so maybe we can get some ideas etc. Hugs to u all.