Debismom

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Posted by madziara

This is very interesting...why did he leave??? How it will work with ur kids?

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Magdalena, could you be more specific on 'how will it work with my kids' ? Mary MOB

Mary, I give your husband a lot of credit. I'm sure that wasn't easy for him to do. He sure has a great wife It almost sounds like people that left Europe for the US. They basically start with nothing and it's scary.

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Posted by Mimacat

That is insane. Did your in laws have a relationship with your children?

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Well, when Debi was 4months old, my Husband's Mom passed away. If she would have lived, things might have been a bit different. When we married, we invited my Husband's family, but only a few came. His Father for sure didn't come, since he was a preacher, and had to make a display of shunning DH, I guess!! After our wedding, we took cake and flowers to his parents. His Mom was very sweet to me, hugging me, initially, but after a time, she just shook my hand. When I asked DH why the change, he thought his Dad had told her not to hug me, 'because Amish women are only suppose to hug Amish women, not non-Amish.' Later, when DH's youngest Brother married an Amish girl, who had been exposed to the outside world more, DH and I went to visit them. As we greeted each other, remembering what happened with my MIL, I was trying to shake my SIL's hand, while she tried to hug me!!!! I chuckled as I said, 'Sara, I don't know what to do!!' She said, 'We're Sisters and we're suppose to hug!!' Unfortunately, Sara, in later yrs. must have heard from the powers that be, that she must only shake my hand!! As far as my FIL, he made little stools for our children, but they broke. Amish men don't make a fuss over their Grandchildren, at least not my FIL. Thankfully, my Husband was a great Dad, very affectionate, and attentive to his children, and still is. Mary MOB

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Posted by Mici n KC

Mary, I give your husband a lot of credit. I'm sure that wasn't easy for him to do. He sure has a great wife It almost sounds like people that left Europe for the US. They basically start with nothing and it's scary.

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Michelle, my Husband knew the consequences when he left the Amish, but I was very hurt for him when his Father died, and we asked his lawyer to send us a copy of the will, since no one offered to show it to us. In the will, each child was mentioned by name and the item to be given, but when FIL got to my Husband, he said, ' As for my son, Benjamin, I leave nothing' It hurt to read those words, but we forgive and understand those are the ways of the Amish. Mary MOB

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Posted by Mimacat

You guys should write all of this down! I'm sure that your grandchildren will want to know all of this history!

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Heather, if I'm not mistaken, you're in the English profession, a teacher in college?? We share a love perhaps for writing? Indeed, I am writing it down!!!! I love genealogy, and the words that have been passed down to me!!! I want to do the same for my children and Grandson. Mary MOB

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Posted by Mimacat

Mary, I think you and my mom had the same headpiece!

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I couldn't keep the thing on my head!!!! Kept sliding around!!! Mary MOB

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Mimacat

You guys should write all of this down! I'm sure that your grandchildren will want to know all of this history!

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Heather, if I'm not mistaken, you're in the English profession, a teacher in college?? We share a love perhaps for writing? Indeed, I am writing it down!!!! I love genealogy, and the words that have been passed down to me!!! I want to do the same for my children and Grandson. Mary MOB

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Yes, I am! I wish that I had as rich a family history as you! I 'm sure that my grandparents had interesting things to tell... but no one kept any permanent records, save for recipes. Its a shame. I'm so glad that you've written all of this down!

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Mimacat

You guys should write all of this down! I'm sure that your grandchildren will want to know all of this history!

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Heather, if I'm not mistaken, you're in the English profession, a teacher in college?? We share a love perhaps for writing? Indeed, I am writing it down!!!! I love genealogy, and the words that have been passed down to me!!! I want to do the same for my children and Grandson. Mary MOB

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Yes, I am! I wish that I had as rich a family history as you! I 'm sure that my grandparents had interesting things to tell... but no one kept any permanent records, save for recipes. Its a shame. I'm so glad that you've written all of this down!

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I always thought it a bit humorous that a descendant of Quakers, married the descendant of Amish!! How would you like to edit my future book?? Mary MOB

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Posted by Mimacat

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Posted by Mimacat

You guys should write all of this down! I'm sure that your grandchildren will want to know all of this history!

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Heather, if I'm not mistaken, you're in the English profession, a teacher in college?? We share a love perhaps for writing? Indeed, I am writing it down!!!! I love genealogy, and the words that have been passed down to me!!! I want to do the same for my children and Grandson. Mary MOB

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Yes, I am! I wish that I had as rich a family history as you! I 'm sure that my grandparents had interesting things to tell... but no one kept any permanent records, save for recipes. Its a shame. I'm so glad that you've written all of this down!

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I always thought it a bit humorous that a descendant of Quakers, married the descendant of Amish!! How would you like to edit my future book?? Mary MOB

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Haha, sign me up

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Posted by Mimacat

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Posted by Mimacat

You guys should write all of this down! I'm sure that your grandchildren will want to know all of this history!

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Heather, if I'm not mistaken, you're in the English profession, a teacher in college?? We share a love perhaps for writing? Indeed, I am writing it down!!!! I love genealogy, and the words that have been passed down to me!!! I want to do the same for my children and Grandson. Mary MOB

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Yes, I am! I wish that I had as rich a family history as you! I 'm sure that my grandparents had interesting things to tell... but no one kept any permanent records, save for recipes. Its a shame. I'm so glad that you've written all of this down!

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I always thought it a bit humorous that a descendant of Quakers, married the descendant of Amish!! How would you like to edit my future book?? Mary MOB

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Haha, sign me up

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Hey, I just might do it!! I've already begun to put my maternal Grandmother's memories in story form. I love writing!! Before the computer, I was consistently writing in journals; I have to catch up now!! Why did you choose English, Heather? Mary MOB

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Posted by Mimacat

You guys should write all of this down! I'm sure that your grandchildren will want to know all of this history!

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Heather, if I'm not mistaken, you're in the English profession, a teacher in college?? We share a love perhaps for writing? Indeed, I am writing it down!!!! I love genealogy, and the words that have been passed down to me!!! I want to do the same for my children and Grandson. Mary MOB

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Yes, I am! I wish that I had as rich a family history as you! I 'm sure that my grandparents had interesting things to tell... but no one kept any permanent records, save for recipes. Its a shame. I'm so glad that you've written all of this down!

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I always thought it a bit humorous that a descendant of Quakers, married the descendant of Amish!! How would you like to edit my future book?? Mary MOB

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Haha, sign me up

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Hey, I just might do it!! I've already begun to put my maternal Grandmother's memories in story form. I love writing!! Before the computer, I was consistently writing in journals; I have to catch up now!! Why did you choose English, Heather? Mary MOB

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Originally I chose theatre. I found that I was a crying mess every time I didnt get a part in a show. Writing was something that came natural and that I'd always enjoyed doing when I was younger, so I kinda sorta fell into it... as for teaching... well, what else can you do with a degree in Literature? I decided to teach college b/c I don't like children.

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Posted by Mici n KC

Mary, I give your husband a lot of credit. I'm sure that wasn't easy for him to do. He sure has a great wife It almost sounds like people that left Europe for the US. They basically start with nothing and it's scary.

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Michelle, my Husband knew the consequences when he left the Amish, but I was very hurt for him when his Father died, and we asked his lawyer to send us a copy of the will, since no one offered to show it to us. In the will, each child was mentioned by name and the item to be given, but when FIL got to my Husband, he said, ' As for my son, Benjamin, I leave nothing' It hurt to read those words, but we forgive and understand those are the ways of the Amish. Mary MOB

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Wow that sounds like something that must of been so hard to hear

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Posted by Mimacat

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Posted by Mimacat

You guys should write all of this down! I'm sure that your grandchildren will want to know all of this history!

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Heather, if I'm not mistaken, you're in the English profession, a teacher in college?? We share a love perhaps for writing? Indeed, I am writing it down!!!! I love genealogy, and the words that have been passed down to me!!! I want to do the same for my children and Grandson. Mary MOB

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Yes, I am! I wish that I had as rich a family history as you! I 'm sure that my grandparents had interesting things to tell... but no one kept any permanent records, save for recipes. Its a shame. I'm so glad that you've written all of this down!

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I always thought it a bit humorous that a descendant of Quakers, married the descendant of Amish!! How would you like to edit my future book?? Mary MOB

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Haha, sign me up

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Hey, I just might do it!! I've already begun to put my maternal Grandmother's memories in story form. I love writing!! Before the computer, I was consistently writing in journals; I have to catch up now!! Why did you choose English, Heather? Mary MOB

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Originally I chose theatre. I found that I was a crying mess every time I didnt get a part in a show. Writing was something that came natural and that I'd always enjoyed doing when I was younger, so I kinda sorta fell into it... as for teaching... well, what else can you do with a degree in Literature? I decided to teach college b/c I don't like children.

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Teaching younger students is not easy; I was in Future Teachers of America, and had occasion to test drive the career; I was sooo frustrated!!!! I didn't know the secrets of keeping a class from going haywire!!! It left me drained!! I never participated in school plays, but one time, I dressed like a clown, to take a birthday treat into school for one of my kiddos, and I loved the anonymity and being someone other than myself. It was fun!!! Mary MOB

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Mici n KC

Mary, I give your husband a lot of credit. I'm sure that wasn't easy for him to do. He sure has a great wife It almost sounds like people that left Europe for the US. They basically start with nothing and it's scary.

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Michelle, my Husband knew the consequences when he left the Amish, but I was very hurt for him when his Father died, and we asked his lawyer to send us a copy of the will, since no one offered to show it to us. In the will, each child was mentioned by name and the item to be given, but when FIL got to my Husband, he said, ' As for my son, Benjamin, I leave nothing' It hurt to read those words, but we forgive and understand those are the ways of the Amish. Mary MOB

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Wow that sounds like something that must of been so hard to hear

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I think it was harder for me to hear, than Ben. Perhaps he was just good at hiding his feelings. Mary MOB

WOW!!

I read in bits and pieces what you have written before Mary, but this is very intreseting!
Thank you for sharing!