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same here--he asked my parents' blessing about 3 weeks before he proposed!!!!

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mine did. I was actually quite surprised he did. I planned to go home to Ireland (where my parents still live) last Xmas, and was going to spare him the trip, but he decided to tag along. Little did I know he had an ulterior motive. Anyway, the story goes that each night, he would try to wait till everyone but him and my dad were gone to bed. So finally, he gets the chance, and asks for my dads blessing - which he got over a drop of the 'good stuff' - whiskey, and so the deal was sealed. Of course it took him 2 months to ask me!!! BTW my parents never let on that they knew....

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Wow-I can't believe how many of you said FH did ask permission!!
I'm with Michele31 on this--I'm the only who can give permission.

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seems silly to have gotten upset. its more out of respect. obviously everyone is an adult and no one needs a permission slip like we are going on a field trip.

edited to add: and it was very stressful to do it, especially in combo with the whole big secret going on!

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Mine didn't. If he did my mother would have definitely told me. After we got engaged and we told my parents my mother said, 'aren't you going to ask my permission?', as a half joke. My FH got very shy and sort of asked. My parents of course said that he had their blessing and then we all got a bit of a laugh.

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there's a difference between permission and blessing. I think the days of getting permission are long over but it is a nice touch for the FH to be a bit traditional.

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Michael asked for both my parents blessings
and practically everyone else in my family and his. So like everyone knew, It was quite funny.
I couldnt wait to find people that didnt know we were getting engaged.

He was so excited he started blabbing to everyone, its crazy but sweet.

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i 100% expected my FH to ask my dad and he did (he actually asked for a 'blessing' from both of my parents). im a person of tradition and respect so i think that this is the appropriate approach. however, whatever floats your boat ...

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My dad died in 1999, so it's just Mom, but she lives in Texas and FH is a little scared of her

Anyway, she knew it was coming and was thrilled...was not mad that he didn't ask her, just relieved that I was finally getting married. She has been calling me a 'mature bride'. I am 31.

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I think its only respectful if the bride to be would want something like that to be 'blessed' or 'permitted' by the parents. Obviously, that is the case with lots of girls here.

For me it would have been very disrespectful to go to my parents with something like that before speaking to me.

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Sort of. He spoke with my Dad the night before he proposed and said 'I am going to ask Becky to marry me tomorrow and I wanted to ask for your blessing.' He said more things, but that was the big asking for the blessing. My Dad said 'Are you sure you know what you are getting yourself into? She is quite a handful.'

Bridetobe, isn't it wonderful to have Dad's who think they are SOOOOO funny!

And I think it was very sweet of FH to clue my parents in. Obviously we had talked about getting married. Enough so that I guessed he was going to propose on X-mas eve and told everyone I knew before hand.

I don't think it is disrespectful, especially not in families where tradition is very important. Having my parents 'bless' or 'permit' something like that was important to me becuase I am close with my family and I wanted my parents, especially my Dad because we are very close, to feel a part of a very special moment in my life. I think it also depends how close you are with your family and your FH's relationship with your parents.

My father is walking me down the isle, but he isn't really giving me away. I am giving myself! I suppose some girls might want to walk themselves down the isle rather than be 'given away.' To each her own.

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my dad went with john to buy the ring.
after it was purchased john said 'before i give this to your daughter, can i have your permission to ask your daughter for her hand in marriage?'
i was so happy he did that.
my dad means the world to me.
my dad later told me john made him extremely happy by doing that.

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My FH went to my parents house while I was at work to talk to them about marrying me. Not so much ask permission. After 6 yrs, everyone knew it was coming. I actually called while he was there but they didn't tell me. He spoke with them 3 wks before he asked me. They were both off from work that day and knew he was gonna ask me, so they sat home waiting patiently for my call.

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I agree with Michelle31, no one is giving permission to marry me but myself! Our parents were told after he asked me but they knew it was coming soon!

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yes he asked my fathers blessing. Took him two or three times to do it though...when he ginally did it, it was a breeze. Everyone knew it was coming since we have been together so long though.

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Mine did. I don't think my father ever expected it, that's what made it really nice.

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I was at school when he came to ask my dad. My mom told me that he looked extremely nervous, and that my dad turned red and looked like he was gonna cry. (tears of joy)! I wish I was there to see that. I think everyone has their own opinions about FH's asking for parent's blessings.

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no.

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My fiancee asked my dad. Since I come from a traditional Spanish background he wanted to be respectful of my parents (he is from England). It went much better than he thought my dad was like 'you want her take her.' My fiancee had it so easy I later joked with him I'm surprised my dad didn't throw in a goat and a free can of Pepsi.

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mine did, ;and it meant the world to me. when he got down on one knee (I tear up just writing that!) he said will you marry me, and as I was saying 'Ohmy God' a hundred times, he said 'and I want you to know that I am doing this with the love and permission of both your parents' - it was very cool!