Do the guys ever invite friends that are girls to go out when the girlfriends/wives aren't invited?
That might be an odd situation. I don't think I'd be too happy with him then.
yeah that is strange, hmmmm... well, try talking to him about it. say that you think it's a little odd and was wondering how he would feel if the tables were turned and you were hanging out with friends and guys that weren't their BFs-- but didn't invite him... maybe then he'll see that it is a little out of the ordinary, not to say that has not or cannot happen but just not the 'norm' HTH and good luck
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Fh does not have any girl friends, only the girlfriends/wives of his friends and we all hang out together. I love it when fh goes on with the guys, it makes him happy and i think in order to have a healthy relationship, both partners need some time out with their friends... Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and if you have that, then it shouldnt ever be a problem
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My FI has a lot of female friends at work. Sometimes he goes to lunch with them in a group and sometimes it is him and another girl by themselves.
I tease him about it but I don't get jealous.
I have a lot of guy friends that I hang out with and Fi doesn't mind it either.
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FI has a ton of girls that he's friends with and I used to get so ridiculously jealous cause he'd always talk to them on the phone and get so involved in their lives. I hated it, and I made it very known. He stopped giving them so much attention which made be feel better, and he understood. I was jealous cause I just didn't see it with other guys, but my FI has always had many friendsthat re girls- it's just who he is- and don't worry, he's not gay, hehe.
As far as going out with guys, i think it's great and would never stop him, especially since i love going out with my girls. But there are a few of his guy friends that worry me- always getting into trouble or are bad influences. But i trust FI's judgement.
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One of DH's best friends is a female. We made her a bridesmaid. If she means that much to thim then she means that much to me.
As far as being out with the guys, stopping him from doing it would equal losing him. He is a grown man. We spend plenty of time together and he deserves time to do what he wants. I also have enough to do in my own life that we do not need to be attached at the hip 24/7 on non-work days. Maybe its because I was on my own long enough before we met that I would rather have the time to myself when he is otherwise detained by what interests him (mainly football). OR maybe it is because I watched my parents have their own social things to do independently from each other.
Personally, I do not think it is healthy for a realtionship when people are constantly together. If you have lives independent of yours together, then you have so much more to talk about. JMO.
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After you're engaged I do not think it's appropriate for someone to develop new personal friendships with people of the opposite sex. If it's an old friend of his who is married or something I would't care.
I'm with you on that. I think it's ok to have opposite sex aquaintences or even old friends that he stayed in touch with. But i can't imagine my DH becoming friends with a girl and hanging out with her. That's weird.
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My feelings on it vary. If he goes to lunch with only a female coworker, I wouldn't care. A few years ago when we were not engaged but still serious, he had went out dinner with a former young female coworker of his. I didn't care, but I had a few girlfriends who couldn't believe that wouldn't bother me. If he goes out with the guys to a bar, and none of the wives/gfs are invited, I wonder why not and I admit I do give him a hard time. I think the real difference between those situations doesn't mean that I don't trust him, but that I don't trust the influence of some of his friends who, although married and dating SO's themselves, never really grew up.
I'd rather he go to dinner with a young attractive co-worker than chug beers with the guys.
When the gfs/wives hang out with the bfs/hubbies at the bar, it's been my experience that the guys all stay together and catch up, and we women all move to a separate part of the bar anyway and chat about girl things (weddings, shopping, etc) amongst ourselves. There have been many nights like this where all I did was enter the bar with FH and then smile at him once or twice from across the bar, and then leave with him.
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Posted by ellebelle1
After you're engaged I do not think it's appropriate for someone to develop new personal friendships with people of the opposite sex. If it's an old friend of his who is married or something I would't care.
I'm with you on that. I think it's ok to have opposite sex aquaintences or even old friends that he stayed in touch with. But i can't imagine my DH becoming friends with a girl and hanging out with her. That's weird.
yeah it all depends on the situation: female co-worker grabbing some lunch is not a big deal but developing relationships with single girls and going out with them to dinner without you: strange! maybe some people do that a lot but i dont know-too close to a date for me!! haha but i would talk to him about it and just let him know in a calm way how you feel and see what he says.
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the only girls my fh befriends are -wives/fiances of his good friends -coworkers
he never had close friends that are girls
as for going out with the guys...it depends on what my plans are for that night... if im busy im happy- if im by myself - i will miss him
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My FH has more friends that are girls than guys - at 1st I was a bit jealous, but got over it right away!
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You are definitely not alone!!!
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Posted by Goldi1021
Personally, I do not think it is healthy for a realtionship when people are constantly together. If you have lives independent of yours together, then you have so much more to talk about. JMO.
This is one of the main reasons my fh and I will be together for 13 years by the time we marry.
Our relationship has already statistically outlasted most marriages.
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I'm with you on that. I think it's ok to have opposite sex aquaintences or even old friends that he stayed in touch with. But i can't imagine my DH becoming friends with a girl and hanging out with her. That's weird.
yeah it all depends on the situation: female co-worker grabbing some lunch is not a big deal but developing relationships with single girls and going out with them to dinner without you: strange! maybe some people do that a lot but i dont know-too close to a date for me!! haha but i would talk to him about it and just let him know in a calm way how you feel and see what he says.
I agree, sorry no room for girl 'friends' . There is no point as much as I trust him, he doesn't need any more 'friends'
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FH doesn't have any girl friends..or anyone that he knows..I know too. I don't get jealous whrn he hangs out with his guy friends, but somtimes I get pissed off because some of them are bad influences.
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I wouldn't say the jealousy isn't because I don't trust him....I actually can't figure out why I get jealous!
I have.
I don't know if I would call it jealousy but, a lot of times when he does he gets so excited and he stays out a lot later than he does with me. Kind of feel like I'm holding him back sometimes (not that I am a go to bed at 8pm kind of girl but, my 5am nights are limited).
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I kind of wish he had more friends so I can hang out with my girls.., All of my friends have known each other since we are in first grade i would love to be able to spend more time with them before the BIG DAY !! Anyone else feel the same ?
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female friends = no
no good can come from this
if he has a female friend from before the two of you met, and she is respectful of you and you all can hang out together - that's one thing. Other than that ... BIG NEGATIVE.
Guys night out doesn't bother me ... you need to see your friends!
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I never really get jealous over a girl. I trust him completely. As for his friends.... I do get jealous. I guess its because my friends dont really hang out and they all have their own lives. Like every thursday my DH plays cards and i get jealous only because im home doing nothing because my friends are not around. Oh well. It does make us get into little argument though, which stinks.
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SOmetimes its natrual..I feel that he would rather be witht them then me..but everyone needs there space
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I would never try to control him and say who he can and can't be friends with. I trust him.
DH never had close girl friends, but if he did, I'd hope they would respect our relationship. His female friends are co-workers and girlfriends/wives of his friends.
