when your FH is or becomes friends with a girl or when he wants to hang out with just the guys? I need to make sure I'm not alone here. Is there any way to stop the jealousy?
LOL You are definately not alone!!!! I haven't found a way to stop it yet though... unfortunately.
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Last year before we were engaged, an ex girfriend contacted my FH. At first it was just the 'blast from the past' thing which I get but in actuality she was bored in her marriage and wanted him back. SHe wrote him letters and drove 2 hours to his apartment even. I was really hurt when I discovered all of this...It was a tough time for us..
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Not really only because I'm friends with or know all of his guy friend really well. He's got one girlfriend from work, but I think she's pretty cool... it would be another story though I'm sure if I didn't know his friends, especially his girl friends.
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FH and I are older. His has a couple of female friends (that he never dated!!!). I have a few male friends. If I go to lunch with a friend, I am doing nothing wrong. Nothing to feel guilty about. No desire to be anything but a friend.
Bottom line, I don't think it's fair to ask your SO to give up years of friendship with someone he/she knew before you too met.
FH and I had a 'very clear' conversation/communication. Friendship does not include previous 'relationship'.
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I honestly don't. All of his 'girl' friends are mine too. I love when he hangs with the guys beacuse it gives us a little time apart to keep our own identities. I learned from a prior that when you spend every waking moment together, you alienate everyone around you and find yourself very lonely at times when you need to turn to someone other than him. JMO
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Hmmm when hubby and I were living in London he has a ton of female friends and would talk about them all the time and I would get jealous as they were right old slappers (bimbo's) and could not understand why he would consider them 'friends' ...??
We now live in Toronto and unfortunately have not made as many friends as we had hoped. I wish he had guy mates so he could hang and be social as it totally frustrates/annoys me when he is on the internet 24/7 grrr
Also I think it would be healthy for both of us to do something apart so we can miss each other and race home to be with each other...
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i get like that but than i think about all the time we are together so i try to just eat it up and let it go! hes with me and our daughter all the time so he deserves some male bonding! Now the bach party will be another story!!! hahaha
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not really, it depends.
Mooshyboo
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Not really but sometime ~ sometimes I get jealous if I am home when he is out! My FH has a lot of Friends (male and female) in the beginning I had to compete for his alone time...
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FH's best friends are almost all women so I'm used to it!
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Just remember this: Do you need YOUR girl time with just the girls? I know I do. I'd be pretty irritated if FH always wanted to hang around when I needed down time with the girls. And if I had a friend who was a guy and FH got pissy about it and upset when I hung out with that guy, I'd be pretty angry, because I would feel like he thought he couldn't trust me, and I KNOW that I have no interest in anybody but him, but I also want to be able to be friends with whoever I please.
When I remember that, I remember that I have no need for jealousy. Relationships don't always need to be the two of you on top of each other all the time - a healthy relationship requires a little space from each other on occasion, where each of you does the things that you like best, and you get a little 'you' time.
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i wish my fh would hang out with his guy friends more!! they're all starting families so he rarely goes out - leaves no time for me and sappy chick flicks.
as for being friends with a girl.... my fh does not have any female friends. if he did - say from college or h.s. - i don't think i'd have a problem with them hanging out. however, if he was to all of a sudden start developing a friendship with a girl, i'd have a HUGE issue with it. in the reverse, i don't think i would ever start developing a friendship with a guy out of respect for my fh.
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I like when FH hangs out with the guys. He has quit a few female friends and I'll admit I get jealous sometimes. I totally trust him though!!
Same for me...
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I feel left out a little...well, I used to...now that my friend quantity has increased substantially I have actually had more 'girls' nights in the past 3 months than he has had 'guys' nights.
It's slightly normal to be 'jealous' though.
He did ask me last night if he could go to Ocean City for the annual Labor Day trip...I told him that I had no problem at all (for once...and yes, his eyes almost bugged out of his head) as long as NO ONE else's girlfriend/fiance/wife was invited/going...because if anyone else's girl was going, then I'd feel UNINIVTED by him and obviously singled out...so we agreed...as long as it's all boys, it's totally cool..if a single girl is going, I at least want the option to go.
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I TOTALLY encourage FH to spend time with his male friends. They are great guys and it's healthy to spend time apart and enjoy other people's company. I know I love my alone time and/or time with my girlfriends.
FH doesn't have female friends other than my friends or his friends girlfriends/wives. I mean there are girls he is friendly with but he doesn't spend time with them. Truth be told I probably would be jealous if he hung out with females that weren't a mutual connection.
I have male friends but they're gay
Marly
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You have to remember one thing that YOU are the one he comes home to. It will be You that he will be spending the rest of his life with. In all honesty you don't need to feel jealous. I hope this helps.
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Never. They want him they can have him. Less laundry for me to do!
BKtoLI
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Not at all....in fact we took seperate trips alone!!!
He went to Vegas one weekend and I went to San Diego the following weekend. I encourage him to go out with his friends since I go out with mine.
He doesn't have many single female friends, and the ones he does I've met. Neither one of us gets jealous, and it's a lot less stress that way!!
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As far as girls are concerned, FH has alot of girl friends and they are very close, most of them I personally love-when he wants to hang out with the guys it doesnt bother me as long as I get to go out with the girls...besides, he calls me all night and says I MISS YOU the whole time so it works
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I don't get jealous. I know he's coming home to me at night. I like it when he hangs out with the guys, it gives him a chance to get out and do something different. And I wouldn't want him to resent me later because he wanted to do something and I got really upset over it.
In fact he is out with the guys and my sister tonight playing in a beer pong tournament. (Some of us have to work early tomorrow )
